Random Talk

[Nintex]

Tinder is also more about timing, some people are just looking for a date tonight or for the weekend

Great, I've never actually set up a date through Tinder. App sucks. Women on these apps have way too many choices and thirsty dudes going after them.

My confidence has already been ground down to a nub, by trying to talk to women in a friendly manner and then just getting shut down or never getting a response or just getting deleted

Doesnt matter what you say, compliment their pictures, ask whats up etc whatever

fuck em

When I win the game I'll tell you how I did it.

Overall going from "passive" to "active" again in social life already had some positive results for me. It started autumn last year when I decided to visit clients when I would normally just do remote calls. It was fun to drive, visit new places and meet new people. Next, I went to the yearly student reunion dinner. I had skipped those because it didn't fit into my schedule but now I made time and it was great to see all the guys again instead of just chatting.

The Christmas party story didn't have the romantic ending I hoped for but they were great as party guests and we had a bigger group of people because I decided to invite them, so the people that organized the party were very happy that despite a few cancellations so many turned up and their efforts weren't in vain and immediately started planning for the next party.

This year I probably would've been alone on NYE but thinking positively I bought 3 bottles of champagne in case I got invited. 

I wouldn't have been invited if I hadn't visited the charity concert thing at the Church of one of my friends a few months ago. He cancelled the plans we had, I asked him why, he told me about the concert and it was right across the street from where I live. In this day and age those people are usually ridiculed and seen as 'crazy' so it meant a lot that a stranger came to visit. Lo and behold out of the blue his parents invited me for their NYE party.

I decided to revive my Instagram and the Georgian muse likes every picture I post and I got back in touch a with a bro I haven't talked to for a long time.  

People didn't invite me because I wasn't open to invitation so to speak. Post-COVID I was always busy with work, taking care of the folks, me-time and I dropped alcohol. And that signal was clear, so people respected that 'locked in' mode and didn't want to disturb me too much. When mom wanted to jump out of a window or I just got back from a corporate website launch party all suited up, it was kind of difficult for people to ask me if I wanted to play a board game, help them grab Yoshi from the claw machine at the fair, fill in for someone at DnD or move a couch or whatever. I thought everyone knew that I was still the same old helpful Nintex that is fun to hang out with but they never got that confirmation and new people I met over the past 5 years never got to see that side of me so they thought I was strictly business.