Random Talk

[Nintex]

Another dating app succes story

I dunno, I managed to make some good progress overall.

• Improved the bio to get a decent match.
  
• Found an opening line that worked
  
• Got her to open up more in the chat
  
• Made her comfortable enough to move to whatsapp for chats and she asked for video calls
  
• Set up a date
  
• Ended it for now without drama but she's open to meeting sometime casually anyway
  

Also got a more clear sense of what I'm actually looking for in a partner besides the 'would I / would I not' scale. Realized that maybe a non-Dutch or black girl could work too and it wasn't a dealbreaker for me because of my English skills. Found out that my puzzle boxes and great writing work to get the conversation going but it wasn't a good way to find out if we match. Really enjoyed that supportive partner vibe she was looking for but that means sharing interests are key. Also realized that my mental image of 'girls my age' was still a bit stuck in past based on my dates ~10 years ago. Also realized that dinner dates kind of set higher expectations (what to wear, what to eat, what comes after?). Better to have lunch, grab a drink, go for a walk as a first meet-up and then decide next steps. And finally confirmation from a complete stranger that I really am as sophisticated as I think when it comes to clothing, style, conversations and I'm good company.

That first call she really tried to win me over, put on something nice and everything. I have no doubt she is a great dinner date and based on our conversations a great partner.

There's 90's party next month, I'll see if I can drum up some boys to go there. If I'm looking for women with 90's vibes, I'll definitely find them there.