Random Talk

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One of the women made a good point actually. A lot of guys just 'act nice' trying to set them up. So they can't tell the 'real' nice and honest guys from well, the liars.
If you're too nice they just assume you're up to no good. You give them the ick. It's all very fake really, filtered or professional pictures, made up interests to try and 'hook' the right person. Lying about intentions to lure more quality long term people into casual hook-ups etc. And for some women being submissive is a real turn-on. I certainly misread that with some of my matches. Hotel manager that wanted to go full bird brain was the only one I did that right.

So in the end they just decide not to trust the nice guys anymore. Assholes that are up front about being assholes, well you don't run into the same risk and you can kind of tell what type of asshole they are. If anything they're probably overdoing it and/or joking. 

Dutch directness plays a big part in this too though. There is some kind of fitness event going on right now, so 90% of the Tinder bios now read: "Looking for the champ of the [insert name of fitness event]".

As for the matches. Nothing new from 36F L unfortunately but I'm winding things down with 32F. She's looking for a buddy not a boyfriend and I want her 'honest' ass to come clean about it. So in a respectful way I told her that. She favorited some of my flattering flirty messages but I got very little in return. And the 'buddy' to me is what a 'nice guy' is to a woman. I have plenty of buddies like co-workers and friends. Buddy is what I wanted(or maybe thought I wanted?) 10 years ago. That ship has sailed, now I want bubbly. So I simply asked her if she was up to the task. Drink champagne, laugh at the normies and a very lively bedroom to celebrate. She has submissive vibes though, so she might actually consider it. 

Part of why I realized I got so quickly over the redhead, is that we started meeting in fun settings like office drinks and the Christmas party. Once it became a buddy co-worker thing I lost interest in her in that way. I think she does fantastic work but that's it. Radio girl same deal. Looking for a buddy to walk her dog. I liked our talk about music, I didn't care about her job or life at all. I want to say it was out of respect for her privacy that I didn't ask but in hindsight I truely had zero interest in what she was up to that weekend she was busy. All I really wanted her to do, was send me a nice picture for my birthday.