Random Talk

[Nintex]

No one is "ruined forever." People are organic and complex. She may be recovering from one thing, or heading for another.

Could be but the way she talked she was certainly heading in the jaded giving up hope direction. At 33 she's also in that last rodeo phase. 3 - 5 years to build a family.

If you're into someone, and I don't mean "I can fix them" or "I'll wait until she's healed" I mean if you're into her, it's a question of how much energy it will require to make things work, and if you're up for it.

I'm ready and better able to make things work than most because I focus on short term pain for long term gain.

The way I see it, if she's into me and I have reasons to believe she is, she shouldn't deny herself the happiness she seeks. 

She felt bad about it. She wanted 100% commitment and was surprised she found it but then believed she couldn't offer the same. Plus she felt like she lied to me, hiding some medical issues and past relationships. Overall she was just hard on herself.

When I started this I thought it would be difficult to make these women interested but that is fairly easy. The hard part is convincing them to move on from the past and put in the energy to turn the page.

The first 90 minutes were great but then came the part: "so what do you think" and it all fell apart. She started overthinking. I told her that's ironic, usually it's me that overthinks.

She has to make up her mind and believe it's possible and then we will succeed but if she gives up before we start it's no use.

My friend reminded me again though, "take it or leave it.". It's up to her now.