Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

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https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-dad-had-a-heart-attack.1186347/

So 2025 has been a year, from my grandmother passing away, me having to find somewhere else to live and not getting a promotion at my job and now this it's been tough. I've not been close to my dad for awhile since he was a crummy dad growing up and treating me different than my brother and ruining my parents relationship. However it's been 7 years since they separated and I've always wanted him to be happy but I know he hasn't been taking care of himself for awhile. I've tried to become closer with him but we're just different and I find I put more effort into the relationship and it's noticeable I'm on the low end of his priorities. Anyways saw some family on his side I haven't seen in a while today and it was fine. We were civil but I don't imagine once my dad is better we'll have much communication still and that's fine.
I did however have a really hard moment though with my brother today. Im not super close with my brother but love my nephews they're sweet kids. My oldest nephew is 2 and came to visit my dad in the hospital and he did great. As we were leaving I was trying to ask my nephew the car coming down the street if it was a fire truck knowing it was an ambulance and my brother chirped at me and said some nasty words and just the way he said it gave me flashbacks of how my dad used to talk to me growing up. Other people were around and my other family too and a bunch of them started laughing at what my brother said. I went quiet and quickly went to my car and once they left the parking lot I just balled. It just felt like I re-lived a moment but coming from my brother. They came back to where I was staying to grab a few things before heading home. I never mentioned anything to them and once they left I just broke down again. It's tough, I love my dad but he did fuck me up in a lot of ways and seeing my brother similar I hope he never treats his kids that way.

So yeah today was shitty so tomorrow has to be better.

I appreciate your post a lot. Growing up I was also looked below from my brother. I wasn't the athletic so my dad didn't really know to engage with me and I also struggled with a learning disability for many years. Went to a lot of tutors and clinics. I've done really well and while I still struggle sometimes with my comprehension or certain words being tricky to pronounce most people wouldn't notice. However growing up my dad always kinda talked down to me or just call me the R word. So that's always stuck with and its a big trigger for me. He hasn't talked like that for a long time but I know he finds it hard to relate to me. And same with my brother, he's more similar to my dad than he believes and it kinda became more clear today.

Always wait for the second info dump. These guys bury the lede like a millennial writing an online listicle.