Kulturkampf

[Uncle]

https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/16fiqno/wife_is_upset_i_wont_girl_mode_at_home/

Wife is upset I won’t Girl Mode at home

She says she doesn’t understand why I don’t wear my wigs or do makeup or wear women’s clothing when at home. She says it doesn’t make sense I’m not doing that since I’m “claiming to be trans”. She’s worried that since she likes the way I look as a guy she won’t like how I look after I transition and that me not presenting female at home is making it really hard for her.

But I did wear the wigs and stuff for a few days after coming out, but I just can’t stand how I look when I see myself in the mirror while presenting female. I feel incredibly bad and dysphoric and I don’t want anyone else to see me like that either cus it feels like I’m just a “guy in a dress”. I said that to her and she said

“You’d be feeling dysphoric in male clothes if you were feeling dysphoria” and that just makes me feel all confused and am now questioning a lot of how I feel.

I DO feel dysphoric when boy presenting but I’ve been doing that my whole life. It’s nothing new but when I wear women’s clothes and makeup and a wig and look at myself it feels even worse. I just would love some other peoples input on this if anyone else feels the same way I do or agrees with her point of view.

so claim you feel dysphoric when presenting as a male, but feel even more dysphoric when presenting as a female, and instead of assuming that you should just be whatever you're more comfortable being at all times, you want to persist down this path??