Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 1)

[Orange Juice Box]

Not a good look this discussion

weird

There is a blaring hypocrisy in many participants in this topic who will balk at being called, of all things, a loser but won't self reflect and address their own insulting, marginalizing, or fully dehumanizing behavior just because they aren't name-calling or because they feel wronged. And they'll use (and are using) being insulted as a reason to never do so, period.
 
Instead they came here to do call-outs and to ask for repercussions, statements, the ability to block. A Black, nonbinary femme brought up the insanity of comparing baldness and dick size to Blackness, to queerness, and to misogyny, and people took that as their cue, their latest example to revisit escaping mods via blocks and ignores or by limiting how they can participate as regular users**.

Imagine.

Imagine being expected to be calm. Imagine having to hmm and haww over calling them whatever I wanted. Imagine having to consider their feelings at the expense of my own or even Nepenthe's. Everything I said was constructive, especially since I backed up my statements with far more thoughtful takes. It's more than can be said of users dropping "this is embarrassing!" posts in here and dipping. Sometimes people act like losers, or assholes, or cowards, or Karens. Sometimes they're overly-sensitive snowflakes that are too busy being offended to reread and reconsider before reacting, and sometimes they succumb to the uniquely liberal urge to squash any recognition of intersectionality or differences in lived experiences in the Sisyphean effort of making sure everyone is comfortable.

I don't have to present that to them nicely, especially when they themselves are not interested in being nice. And if abrasively calling that out is enough to get a post skipped so be it. I don't apologize.

(But, again, I do appreciate your ping and I agree I was and maybe am still being abrasive)

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**This isn't directed at you, Takes, but being able to block staff who aren't acting in an official capacity is good actually. Bringing up the topic of wanting to block staff because you don't want to read or consider or can't understand marginalized opinions that don't center you, however, is not.

Will the defense of Nepenthe being blamed solely because she's a strong, black women work this time?  Person holding a bloody knife, standing over a dead body with multiple stab wounds, "of course you would blame the black women here!"

Imagine.
Imagine being expected to be calm. Imagine having to hmm and haww over calling them whatever I wanted.

Imagine not being an asshole and bully!  Can you imagine the indignity of behaving like a pleasant person online and not acting like you have borderline personality disorder?  

This is like the third time Nepenthe had users conjuring up a conspiracy about her true intentions lol. Makes you wonder what they *really* don't like about this particular admin.