07-25-2025, 11:58 PM
Women have pretty much turned dating into anything but dating.
It's part validation/attention, part chatting, part swiping for casual sex with "no emotions" and part for coffees and drinks with relationship material. All glaced in doxxing, social media slop and groupchat gossip.
The apps are just larps, the person people want to be, not the one they actually are. Men can build themselves to be "that guy" though, women not so much, they lose value as they age, while men gain it. Which is why they have cornered themselves into an impossible position.
I read the other day that liberals/feminists thought that marriage was about men having control over their wives and children. But it was all about "locking" men into relationships. Now women are finding out that when you remove monogamy and children the "best" men have an abundance of choice and never have to settle. Other suitable men capable of building are just fine by themselves. They don't want to clean up the 'the mess', it's not worth it. For both groups of men capable, healthy and resourceful enough to form families the end is result is the same: they don't really care about marriage and they don't really care about dating.
It's part validation/attention, part chatting, part swiping for casual sex with "no emotions" and part for coffees and drinks with relationship material. All glaced in doxxing, social media slop and groupchat gossip.
The apps are just larps, the person people want to be, not the one they actually are. Men can build themselves to be "that guy" though, women not so much, they lose value as they age, while men gain it. Which is why they have cornered themselves into an impossible position.
I read the other day that liberals/feminists thought that marriage was about men having control over their wives and children. But it was all about "locking" men into relationships. Now women are finding out that when you remove monogamy and children the "best" men have an abundance of choice and never have to settle. Other suitable men capable of building are just fine by themselves. They don't want to clean up the 'the mess', it's not worth it. For both groups of men capable, healthy and resourceful enough to form families the end is result is the same: they don't really care about marriage and they don't really care about dating.