Random Talk

[Nintex]

I say this with love Nintex, but you need to dial back the reinvention and pick up artist strategies and just be yourself. 

Relationships are built on trust and mutual attraction. You keep changing your personality every time a new bird comes on the scene and you change who you are interested in based on what likes you've got this week.

Just chill and stop trying to compress the whole relationship process down into a few weeks.

Chat on the apps if they want, but I would be moving towards minimal chat and more actual in-real-life dates.

Also...an MX5? Are you changing sides?

Nah this is actually me going back to who I am. I'm hitting bars and pubs wearing band shirts thinking, why did I stop doing this. I'm really a "tourist" among the rich people not from a wealthy family. What gives me an edge is that I can do both but I'm way too overdressed for the bars. I need more options for different settings. Some things I've actually dialed down like the traveling, I haven't got the time yet. Changes I have made like hitting the gym have been really well received.

I average about 1 IRL date a week now. Today 8 new likes. Pick up artist strategies are not really my thing but you have to be aware of them because that's what you're competing with. Overall the women all think I'm original, easy to talk to, enjoy hanging out with me for 3 - 6 hours and sometimes we click but for different reasons don't move forward. I've gotten pretty good at filtering out the gold diggers and those just messing about looking to chat making the process to plan dates less time consuming. My preference would be walk/talk/drink, movie/dinner/music or some mutual interest like a museum, zoo or arcade but none want that. Women these days compress the whole thing to 1 date with loaded questions and shit tests and move on to the next guy to see if he is that 1 magical fairy tale date they see on their social media feeds.

Tommorow is the date with 29f if she doesn't cancel. She has been very enthousiastic about the whole thing so far and gave her adress instantly so I expect it'll go ahead.

The car choice is difficult here. Audi A3 is still an option too but there's so many around it doesn't feel unique. The MX5 is quite popular in Europe as a roadtrip car because we lack other options. Another one added to the list is a Honda Civic and some BMW's.