The #MutualAid Housewives of Bluesky County

[Propagandhim]

Hope Melody is okay. If they deleted Discord and kept off social media I think they would become a lot better. The constant self deprecation and doom cult mentality isn't helping at all and those are their sources of it.

Meh, that will only do so much. Only one way out of depression: becoming useful and providing value for other people. Doesn't necessarily mean your day job, although it often is.  But find a purpose that serves others and look beyond yourself so your life isn’t consumed by an inward loop of obsessive identification with thoughts, your gender, emotions, and the pursuit of fleeting short term pleasures and impulses to distract, numb, and avoid bad feelings. When you’re focused on others, fixation on your inner experience becomes impossible.  Melody somehow built an extraordinary life: a 40-year old adult who, at no point during the day is beneficial whatsoever to any person on earth, ever.  That's a completely agonizing thing to realize.   “Feeling” bad doesn’t matter, but Melody and his ilk treat it like a verdict on reality. They believe their emotional state is the result of how other people treat them, so the only way to manage their emotions is by controlling others. In reality, nobody can harm you with words, and you choose how to react. You always have that control.  They build a life story around their pain and identify with it and it becomes important to who they are...when it’s really just a fleeting feeling arising from a fleeting thought that appears in consciousness as quickly as it disappears.  It means nothing.  Knowing that your choices matter and that you are free to choose to act in ways that are valuable to others despite your flaws, immutable characteristics, and unchangeable life circumstances is essential for mental health.  It means you can choose to matter to other people despite who you are and your imperfections. If you don’t believe that, you fixate on everything you’re not and start to hate yourself because you're not free to matter.  Melody needs to come to terms with the reality of how they’re living by accepting that they provide no benefit to anyone else, working through the pain of that belief by accepting that it will feel bad but it doesn't matter that it feels bad, and taking concrete steps to contribute so they can embrace their freedom. You can't have a healthy well-being without believing your choices and actions matter; that you lack the freedom to make tangible differences in other peoples' lives.

You need a purpose that centers on others, and if you have to see a doctor and get meds or therapy to reach that point, then do it. If not, you’ll stay stuck in the same hole, manipulating people with guilt-tripping mental breakdowns and fishing for “I love yous” and “you’re valids” on Bluesky to cope with the fact that you’re living wrong and not benefiting others.  Manipulating people into telling you that you do matter and that you’re useful when you know deep-down that you're not actually doing anything is why Melody always writes all this self-hating shit about how horrible they are - it serves two purposes: it gets people to tell him he does matter as a way to cope, but it's also the actual one truth that he is aware of that he needs to actually verbalize for the sake of his sanity.