35f - flu this weekend, hope she is better soon.
33f - busy with work all week, would be fun to meet later
both pending for now but we have 5 new likes/matches. my new pic slays.
I'm also done with my reflection and soul searching. In conclusion I'm no longer limiting myself to act by the rules, values and standards others have already abandoned. No more free elevator rides to get to my level nor will I string people along who can't keep up.
If women choose to connect I won't focus on LTR just because they have that label. In fact they're not honest about their intentions anyway. They just want to pretend they're a better catch while hiding serious problems. Out of an outdated idea of respect and trust I didn't want to start anything that couldn't work and only aimed for casual if that was her clear intent (like the rugby player). Once again playing by rules no one else respects but I've stopped doing that. My intention isn't hidden my profile says casual + LTR.
As a result my chats are lighter, warmer and much more welcoming and understanding but the stakes much lower. The relationship is my decision to make not theirs and most of the time they can't offer that anyway so why worry about that outcome. I will no longer play the game that it is a 50/50 coin flip based on how they feel after the first date or work towards that as the goal of the date.
33f - busy with work all week, would be fun to meet later
both pending for now but we have 5 new likes/matches. my new pic slays.
I'm also done with my reflection and soul searching. In conclusion I'm no longer limiting myself to act by the rules, values and standards others have already abandoned. No more free elevator rides to get to my level nor will I string people along who can't keep up.
If women choose to connect I won't focus on LTR just because they have that label. In fact they're not honest about their intentions anyway. They just want to pretend they're a better catch while hiding serious problems. Out of an outdated idea of respect and trust I didn't want to start anything that couldn't work and only aimed for casual if that was her clear intent (like the rugby player). Once again playing by rules no one else respects but I've stopped doing that. My intention isn't hidden my profile says casual + LTR.
As a result my chats are lighter, warmer and much more welcoming and understanding but the stakes much lower. The relationship is my decision to make not theirs and most of the time they can't offer that anyway so why worry about that outcome. I will no longer play the game that it is a 50/50 coin flip based on how they feel after the first date or work towards that as the goal of the date.
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