Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 2)

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-of-9-years-wants-a-divorce-and-im-struggling-so-damn-much.1459723/

My wife and I began dating more than 14 years ago, our first year in college. A storybook start to a fantastic relationship. January 2012, our friends were playing beer pong, she and I were both the third wheel and sitting at a bench watching. I started talking to her, and she was so damn cool. The next weekend she came to my dorm to visit me and when I went to let her in, I saw her through the doorway standing waiting, and I didn't know it then, but that's the day I fell in love.



My childhood was horrible. My one goal in life, I told myself as a 12 year old after seeing my father physically abuse my mother and sister, was to have a marriage, have a family, and never get divorced. I wanted to be a father and a husband and never, ever split my family. I vowed to myself as a child. That was what I wanted. I didn't care then, and I still don't care, what job I have or how much money I make. I just want a family that loves.



In the summer of 2012, we did the long-distance thing and traveled back and forth and she said she loved me first. It was the greatest feeling in the world, hearing that from someone who isn't a parent or a sibling.



At some point that summer she did something to offend her stepmother and was kicked out of her father's house. She had to move in with her grandparents, and her relationship with her father completely fell apart.



Because of finances, we both took time off from school for the fall semester of 2012, then when we both went back, we moved in to an apartment together off-campus after dating for about 10 months. We lived together in that college town for more than 3 years as I finished school. She had dropped out because she wasn't sure what major to pursue, and worked full-time to support us both. We worked at the same daycare facility, though with different ages and different hours. We went on bike rides and played tennis and long walks. We watched movies and cuddled and played video games sometimes. We were happy. It was a simple life but we were so happy. I got an idea to write a book and started it then. This part is important later.



The last summer before I graduated, August 2016, we got married. She was 22, I was 21. We were poor college students, and got married at her grandparent's small beach house. Less than 100 people were invited to the wedding, I cooked all the food, her dress was the largest expense (even more than the ring). Her father did not come to the wedding, though all of her siblings did. It was a small ceremony, but we were happy with it. I graduated in December of 2016 with the love of my life at my side.



We moved back to my hometown because a family member helped me with a job connection. That January we found out she was pregnant. I worked my entry level HR job, she got a job she sort of enjoyed as an administrative assistant at a big factory. I started coaching my younger brother in youth sports. We bought a house in May of 2017, had a quiet summer prepping the house, and our first daughter was born in September. I thought I'd made it. I thought my life was perfect. We got a dog, who is now eight and getting old. I had friends in town, my wife did not, at least at first. Her mother, who lived several hours away, pursued a dream and moved from Minnesota to Alaska.



My wife got promoted a few times into roles for more money, but more stress and she liked the jobs less and less. Our second daughter was born in November of 2019. That pregnancy was hard, physically and emotionally. We had planned to have four kids, but my wife couldn't do another one, so after the birth she made the decision to make sure she can never have kids again. I supported her, because it was the right decision and I love her. My wife's brother died. He was only a few years older than us, and had been battling alcoholism and a drug addiction and a bunch of other things. That hit us all hard, including her mother, and their relationship spiraled. Her father grew from losing his son and worked hard, so hard, to patch things up with my wife and I am so proud that they fixed things. I had to be responsible and hold things down as all of this stuff was happening in her life, and we were juggling a baby and a toddler and a dog and a new kitten. 



We did the family thing for a while. We got the toddlers into Gymnastics, we went on walks with the dog and the stroller. I thought my life was perfect. And looking back, this is probably the happiest part of my life. Era, this was so good. So good. And I want that back more than anything.



But she grew tired of having only my friends and family around, she wanted to see her grandparents in their twilight years, so we made the decision to move out of town.



In January 2022, I got a job not quite halfway between where my family is from and where hers is from. We got a house up here in May 2022. It was at the very edge of our budget. But we figured this could be our forever home. She tried the remote work thing and hated it. She already disliked her job and that made it worse. She quit that job and I supported her. She wanted to open up a daycare in our home, and I supported her. I thought it was not going to work, but I wanted so badly for her to be happy. It did not work. Half our house was her work area and she hated going in those spaces on the weekends. Her work never ended. For some stupid reason, I got us a second dog in this time frame, thinking it was what we needed. The house started having issues.



In May 2024, she closed the daycare. Between house repairs and daycare losses, we lost a lot of money. She took the summer off to spend with our young daughters, and I could tell my wife was falling into the despair of depression. She had no career at the age of 30. She had few friends, and she told me she invested so much time and effort into me and the kids, she lost herself. She had no hobbies and no interests and did not like her life. Her not working that summer blew through what little remained of our savings. But I didn't care. Truly. I'd go $1,000,000 into debt if it made her happy. I wanted her to be happy and to have time to reset. We barely made ends meet. I was so desperate to make things work for us, I grew even more reserved. I didn't want to do anything that spent money, including my hobbies of wargaming and collecting Lego and Blu-Rays. In hindsight, I truly stopped having fun. Aside from my coaching and occasional xbox with friends, I didn't do anything anymore.



I encouraged her to find who she is. I wanted to be the rock for her, to be the person she can rely on. She started venturing out with local adult-league sports. She met some friends. In September 2024, she got a job at a school as a teacher's assistant and absolutely loves it. The school has pushed her hard to finish her degree so she can be a full teacher. But the assistant job pays horribly, so she started working at Wal-Mart part-time. Almost every night she would come home from work at the school, grab food, and be gone within an hour. My kids and I barely saw her. I thought it would be temporary. She started getting into romance books. After reading maybe three books our entire relationship, she was banging out a book a week or more. I was happy she had found a hobby. We had a wonderful temporary bump in our sex life, and I thought things were great.



In January 2025, I got a call that I was wanted to move up from youth coaching to high school. I was so happy. My wife was happy for me. But I could tell something was still wrong.



In March 2025, she quit her job at Wal-Mart. I started coaching the high school team and spending more time away from family. I could tell things were distant between us, but I thought it would be okay. Summer 2025 she went on a vacation with the kids to visit her mother in Alaska. She didn't check in with me often, and two nights I didn't even get a chance to say good night to the kids. One day it started a long distance fight between us, and she ignored my calls and texts for a while. When they all came home, we had a talk. She told me she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. She loved me, but was no longer in love with me. I asked if she wanted a divorce, she said she did not want to break up our family. I asked her what I could do, and she recommended couples therapy.



My stupid ass did research online and saw in many cases it drives people apart. So I dug my heels in and said no, but we can try other things. She said okay. We talked a lot. We spent time together. Some things improved, others did not.



Our biggest fight of our marriage came in October 2025. She told me she wanted to meet up with a friend from work at the park. I didn't mind. I asked if she had an idea how long they'd be out, to plan for dinner. She said an hour or two. That evening I texted her and said dinner was ready, no need to pick anything up. No response. I texted again at bedtime for the girls, asking if she would be home soon. No response. I called her after getting the girls down, no answer. I texted later and asked if she was okay, then called again. She answered then and put me on speaker, made her friend say hi. I said I was worried about her, she said it was fine. She got home that night a bit after 10pm, after more than six hours with her friend at the park. I have no doubts that they were sitting talking. I know and trust my wife. I was just so worried and anxious about it being a park after dark and she simply never texted me back. We fought hard. I just wanted to make sure she was okay, she thought I was being overbearing and didn't trust her. It was a disaster. But we made it through and life returned to our normal.



In December 2025 we had another talk, and she said nothing had changed on her end. And in fact, she just doesn't miss me when I'm gone. She doesn't think about me, doesn't love me like that at all. It was hard to hear.



I had a breakdown after Christmas with my family, when I realized it would probably be our last as a full family. She told me things would work out okay. A few weeks later, I overheard her speaking to a friend on the phone about this stupid house we have. That she was ready to sell it, and that when (not if) we do divorce, we are going to have to co-parent and live together while selling a house. I confronted her that night, and she said she wasn't sure, but she leaned toward splitting.



I had another breakdown. Memories of my childhood, and my emotionally abusive father, and my single mom who thought I was responsible enough to raise myself...it all came back. I have had body image issues our entire relationship, and have voiced that to her more times than I can count. She has grown exhausted of that talk. I have no self-confidence, and she has grown exhausted. I got into therapy for myself, and asked my wife to join me. In our first couples session, we were asked to rate 1-10, 1 being split now, 10 being do anything to make it work, where are we. I said a 9. She said an 8. I was on cloud-9. I thought we would be okay. We can fix this. Progress, right? I finished my book. After infinite drafts and revisions and nearly 12 years of writing, I was happy enough to print out five copies and send it to two family members, two friends, and my wife to read it.



But as I'm confronting my past, and the memories of my father, and his abuse and how badly that divorce went, I've been spiraling. My wife has grown exhausted of me. We have spoken about "us" several times in the last few months. Every time she says nothing has changed. I convinced her to do a family road trip in February 2026. It was great! We have so many great pictures and experiences and memories and I thought it was great. She says it was, too. I didn't expect it to fix us, but I thought it might help.



This past weekend, Saturday, I asked a simple question why she has had my book for three months and hadn't read it. She said it was because it wasn't her favorite genre of romance. I saw red. I regret much of what I said, but it started with "Bullshit. You love me, right? This has been important to me for more than a decade, right? Why can't you just read it?" and our fight started. A nasty one. An exhausting one. For the first time in our entire marriage I chose not to go to bed with her that night. Everything came back. My parents, my unloving wife, everything. I contemplated suicide but figured I wouldn't be good enough to succeed and that she would be stuck taking care of a vegetable. So I didn't. I'm here still. I don't plan to do that anymore. Please don't worry, however few of you have read this far.



Any time I try to talk to her, I can tell she just has no feelings for me anymore. I do anything and everything to help her, and I wanted to be that rock for support, but I've been a rock weighing her down. I talked to her sunday, I talked to her monday, and she said that she lied at our couples therapy. She wasn't at an 8. She was at a 6, and now it's dropped to a 4.



Part of me loves that, because she is honest and a 4 isn't a 1, we can maybe still salvage this...but I don't think we will.



She has grown and changed over the 14 years we have been together. She is no longer the person she was in college. And I get that. But I love who she was then, and I love even more now who she is now. I want her to stay, I want this family to continue. And she says she wants to leave. Because she deserves to be happy and that I deserve to have someone who loves me as much as I love her. And I want her to be happy. If that's away from me, then so be it. But I do not think I'll ever love someone the way I have loved her. I don't care. I want her. I want her. I want her.



She talked to me last night about taking the kids up to her grandparents' place for the summer. That I can live here alone and the house can be well put together so that we can sell it. It was very matter of fact. It was a "maybe we can do this" but the way she was talking...its not a maybe. Its what she wants. I broke down again, and she had to leave to go to something she had planned.



I do nothing but cry these days. She fell in love with a college kid who had charisma and happiness and an easygoing nature. Now all I do is cry. I exhaust her. I want to have fun, I want to save our marriage, but every time I look at her, I grow sad. Every time I look at my children, I grow sad. My wife asked me to wrap around her last night in bed, to warm her up, and I started to cry. Because I won't have many nights of this left. My daughter cried this morning saying she didn't want to go to school because she just wanted to stay home with her family. Her whole family. And I lost it, then. Because soon we probably won't ever have our whole family together anymore and holy shit, Era. I don't know what to do. I have no idea what I can do anymore. I feel like a failure and a loser and all of it wrapped into one.



I don't know how any of you can help, but I needed to get this into words. I cried a lot writing this. I hate that I did it. I'll probably delete this later. I am so, so sad. I hate this feeling and hope more than anything that none of you have to ever experience it.

Dude never realised he was an emotional support pillow.

[HaughtyFrank]

But why am I forced to play it in that POV, in a role-playing game where you create your own character with your own preferences etc? Again, the answer is simply the male gaze.

Yes Morrigan, they decided to make the entire game an FPS because of the male gaze...

How does this even make any sense at all? Does Morrigan think "male gaze" is when you're literally inside a man?

[Potato]

If we are talking about it, I thought Cyberpunk did a better job making it spicy, unique, and still quite respectful to what it was shown (Judy was affectionate, River is cozy, Panam's a little wild, and you and Kerry fool around while you setting a boat on fire-- that's awesome!).  I don't understand the obsession with ostensibly having a full sex scene, I thought these 'edited vignettes' were cut and performed in a more interesting way.

Cyberpunk, respectful? The same Cyberpunk that forces an interminable first-person sex scene as Johnny Silverhand (because that's really what I'm looking for when I created a female V, a cishet male POV sex scene in first person that lasts several minutes), and that later has a side-quest (optional, but gating the gay male romance option unlock) where Silverhand takes over your V and uses V's body to finger a random girl, effectively sexually assaulting V? The same Cyberpunk that treated its male romance options as completely afterthoughts?

Hell no. Fuck that game. I have zero faith Witcher 4 won't be anything but trashy and male-gazey either.

+1 to Cyberpunk 2077 having a good sex sequence with Judy in particular. Shit was too good, albeit short. I think depictions of sex and physical intimacy still have a ways to go in video games. The Darkness of all games is still kinda peak relationship intimacy to me. That sequence of Jacky and Jennie just being snuggled up on the couch together for as long as the player wants while To Kill a Mockingbird and other stuff is playing on the TV is still peak to me.

This is longer than I wanted it to be but...

I said 'better job' not perfect.  (And I don't recall if CP2077 scenes are skippable but I'd be down for that too FWIW).
CP actually tries to make the characters unique and varied; and I like that it has straight and queer options on both sides and will even reject you than 'turn gay/straight for you' (understandably there's still mixed results, but the dating pool isn't deep).

I don't see it as a major/important adjunct in the game either, just something for personal preference and for fun (you can ignore it completely; but it's nice they did add an extra "come to my place" date in an update).  I also enjoyed the rather romantic angle played with Judy; and I even liked that Kerry rejected me.  Like, what else was it supposed to do? Sure there's coulda been more, but I don't imagine the love interest aspect as a high-priority selling point for CP2077 either.

What I DO like is the 1st person perspective throwing you into things (er, not just for sex but stuff like hacking, receiving calls, or just having cool/intimate 1-on-1 conversations with people).  I also like that there's 4 separate quest lines related to them.  I like the more creative editing that helps avoid polygons awkwardly grinding (this is genuinely why I hate most game sex scenes 😂😭) and instead creatively shows "parts of the night" than anything too specific or revealing. 😅  And I like it's not JUST a generic cutscene or basic "fade to black" (the Cyberpunk genre would never :P ), but the dates were proper "hangout missions" that showed a different side of each character: River has you meet his family; Judy takes you scuba diving; Panam takes you for a ride and we do the car-sex thing; and Kerry lets you commit a little light arsony --- I can't be mad at any of those.

Johnny having big dumb rockstar sex with his girlfriend goes a bit long, but it's still under a minute ('bout the same length as the rest IIRC), and ties into them fighting and pointing out he's an asshole anyways.  Rogue is in her 80s[!] (IMO a unique point of its own) and when you 'date' her it's V giving Johnny permission to do so (and takes a super sci-fi pill to 'fade out' for a few hours and let Johnny take over; but again, all three were mutual and understanding about it).  But the Rogue date also ends pretty poorly since the ladies don't wanna follow Johnny on whatever road he's tripping on (Alt still joined him and died for it; while Rogue simply moved on).  I really didn't find this that bad (at the very least I have seen worse).  And Johnny is cishet, so yeah I get it sucks to watch, but it's...in character, I guess. :S (A weak point. I know)

I'm gonna be honest I don't remember fingering a random girl.  Nor can I find it through a google search (partly because actual CP2077 porn has proliferated searches lol).  But I'm also not defending Johnny's character.  He's interesting but to a fault, and is 100% framed as a dangerous shithead (with the usual "Walter White" issue where the wrong types will find him great anyways).

Kerry's questline is short (even if I did like him too), but Panam is a lot of fun and don't think she was a bad romance option at all.  Not sure why the beef there TBH. o.O  (Arguably the ending where you team with her and the Aldecaldos is "the happiest one").

I'm also not gonna defend Witcher's use of it (at least not the older games use of it) but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't laughing AT my buddy for choosing to sleep with Yen AND Triss ending with hilarious results .  🤷‍♀️  Also the scene where Yen and Geralt get romantic on top of a stuffed unicorn because she has ....a weird kink about it (Geralt doesn't get it but obliges her anyway).... I dunno, it's a bit funny too IMO.

Believe me, I really have a low opinion of "video game sex".  But I don't HATE what they did here.  CDPR has problems with characters and representation, but I wouldn't list these as the worst from the studio.  I take way bigger issues with the games with half-assed romantic harems, or better than watching David Cage write crappy characters engage in awkward QTE sex, or Kratos looking/being a deviant while some random goddess eagerly wants to bang that.


Butt different strokes n' all that.

I also think Saints Row IV is probably one of the other instances I've "liked" video game sex (if you know you know – but basically it doesn't treat it as seriously at all and I can gel with that... so I'm maybe not the best opinion on this to begin with).

Panam is written with male V in mind so much that she behaves identically towards female V and even flirts with her unsolicited. She only "oh yeah no I don't want you in that way" at the last moment if you try to reciprocate as a female V, it's pretty ridiculous tbh.
River is a bland cop with zero personality and his story couldn't be more inconsequential, and is Kerry is unlocked super late and gated behind that gross side-quest I mentioned.

The "queer options" are only good for F/F, really. Because they fleshed out the female love interests, and had their stories tie into the main storyline. The male ones are complete afterthoughts.


...
This is not a serious comment, sorry. Might as well say this about Baldur's Gate 3. 🤣 This is a game where you can customize your genitals as a selling point lol


But why am I forced to play it in that POV, in a role-playing game where you create your own character with your own preferences etc? Again, the answer is simply the male gaze.


???? Absolutely not?? V gives permission to Johnny to take over so he can go talk to Rogue for a specific mission, and this is the understanding behind her agreement; V absolutely doesn't give Johnny permission to trash V's body by getting wasted, kissing and groping girls and doing all sorts of sleazy shit while he takes over...

What Johnny does is essentially sexual assault on V and the whole thing is played for laughs.


I reloaded the game right when it was about to happen, but at one point he (using V's body still, obviously) gets into a car with a girl and starts groping her and is clearly about to finger her. As V's player I sure didn't consent to my V doing any of that shit so I reloaded to before I started that whole thing and never finished the side quest (and so never met Kerry because he's after this), because having V being violated like that pissed me off. I almost uninstalled the game right then.


Meh, just because the bar is in hell doesn't mean CDPR games aren't still full of tacky sexism. The only times video game sex scenes weren't so shit was probably Wolfenstein, TLoU2 and Baldur's Gate 3. I struggle to think of other examples...


lol. Yes I feel very empowered seeing the camera zoom in on her crotch like that.

Yeah, that's definitely the single worst substantial/canon side quest in all of CP2077. Johnny absolutes takes advantage of V's trust to do whatever he wants when blanket consent was not given. It's very much written by men for men as it's all very much meant to be humorous to men right down to the tattoo of regret. It's absolutely horrifying from a woman's point of view. I only stomached it because I knew what happened beforehand.

Curious that burqa brigade leaders have literal encyclopediac knowledge of Cyberpunk 2077. I thought it did such extreme psychic damage to trans members that it had to be relegated to the shadow realm

Morricunt is the kind of chick with that black metal rebel aesthetic where you think she will be into some kinky shit, but it turns out she's just a prude.

[benji]

All their AI threads never deal with how half the forum says it's a scam/bubble that's on the verge of collapsing and the other half thinks AI is on the verge of a singularity that literally becomes magic but also somehow sucks up all the resources on the planet purely to destroy them to spite the Global South.

[benji]

[Jansen]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?



The first time I felt seen in these feelings was here (from the My Solo Exchange Diary series):







I've had friendships with guys die because they had a crush on me. I didn't have a whole lot of female friends until recently because I just wasn't very feminine and couldn't relate to them. The first person I dated was another girl when we were 13, she was androgynous, and I moved onto dating men not long after that. I would sometimes think I was bisexual because very rarely I'd be attracted to a certain kind of woman...but I was attracted to men 99% of the time so I just called myself a cis woman...



I browse trans spaces on the internet sometimes out of curiosity but most of them were focused on trans women (totally valid), and then I'd always move on shortly after that. (I admit that I felt jealous of trans women...they were men to start with and traded it for a "downgrade"...why would you throw away being a man? Funny I chose not to examine that feeling at all...) This time though I decided to check out a trans masc sub and it was full of handsome dudes with their pre and post transitions...and my eyes started filling with tears because I was jealous AGAIN. This time of how happy they seemed and how wonderful they looked. And so with a revelation like that I don't think I'm able to ignore that I might be a trans man...



So now I don't really know what to do with this information. I'm kind of terrified because if it's true and I really am a trans guy then that would really fuck up the way my life is going right now... I'm gaining momentum in my career, I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, my entire family would lose their fucking minds. I feel such terror in my heart thinking about this, which makes me feel like I might actually be trans, which makes me even more scared.



I don't know what to do about this. I mean I don't HATE being a woman but that's cause I've been able to ignore it 99% of the time. Maybe I can just put this revelation back in the box. I don't know. I don't know what to do



(Also I hope is haven't offended any trans people on this forum with my thoughts. You guys are cool and the last thing I want to do is say anything that wo
uld hurt you guys.)

[Jansen]

Also what's the recipe for bathtub HRT no reason to explore this with a therapist or anything let's just go!

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?

Notice that once again they recognize the "problem" with this thinking but rather than reject it and accept that they are just being themselves they've started reading subreddits and decided that actually they aren't a woman at all because women can't be like this.

[Jansen]

I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, 

Well time to throw that all away

Thanks internet 

[Potato]

Ryan is still scheduled to come home on Tuesday if we don't get too much more snow which fingers crossed we don't.

Was he institutionalized?

Middle age and the transition hit her hard. She's looking rough as fuck.

[Boredfrom]

You are having a mid life crisis, your sentiments are not exactly uncommon or particularly different from other insecure women, don’t go to Tran Subreddits for opinions, if you can go to a therapist before taking any decision.

[benji]

I would sometimes think I was bisexual because very rarely I'd be attracted to a certain kind of woman...but I was attracted to men 99% of the time so I just called myself a cis woman...

Trans woman is when you're attracted to other women.

[Lonewulfeus]

I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, 

Well time to throw that all away

Thanks internet 

100%, this will be a pooner within 6 months.

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?

Notice that once again they recognize the "problem" with this thinking but rather than reject it and accept that they are just being themselves they've started reading subreddits and decided that actually they aren't a woman at all because women can't be like this.

*literally all feminist rhetoric until like a decade ago*

"Never let anyone dictate how a woman should behave or what she should look like. Always be yourself!"

And now it's like

"hm, I probably should pump my body full of hormones and cut body parts of so people will accept me for who I am."

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

(I admit that I felt jealous of trans women...they were men to start with and traded it for a "downgrade"...why would you throw away being a man? Funny I chose not to examine that feeling at all...) 

Oh my god, it's always like they only reason backwards rather than actually examine premises.

[DavidCroquet]

Bro is out here having "a breakdown" at every challenge...what do these breakdowns entail? It's impossible to say, because despite the guy writing the post being the same one having the breakdowns, he shares zero details. I'm sure his wife and kids find it's just a pleasure to be on the receiving end of these "breakdowns".

Also he's calling her like the house is on fire and the kids are dead because she's out with a friend? "Oh I just wanna make sure she's safe"...I'll take Top 10 Statements of the Controlling Partner, Alex. Here's a hint: if she's alive, she will call/text you later. If she's dead, no amount of repeat dials are going to get a response. Well one thing is for sure, she won't make that mistake (read: hanging out with a friend for an uninterrupted evening) again!

For all his protesting that he doesn't care about money, he sure throws in a ton of unnecessary-for-someone-who-doesn't-care-about-money details about this job, that job, her lack of a job, wal-mart, and so on. His wife's employment the most recurrent topic of meditation in the entire post. But he doesn't care about money, of course. He told us he'd go 1 bajillion dollars into debt to save this relationship! It's just context. For what? Who knows! 

"I wrote a whole book and DEMAND that you read it.  Not your genre of romance? What do you mean 'genre'? It's all stupid smut for whores with a reading level of a 3rd grader, you bitch!" Wow, are ya feeling the love folks?

[Potato]

Ryan is still scheduled to come home on Tuesday if we don't get too much more snow which fingers crossed we don't.

Was he institutionalized?

Middle age and the transition hit her hard. She's looking rough as fuck.

Also, she still calls him Ryan, even though he's now a chick and chopped his cock off? 

Did he actually transition, or is she genociding him?

[benji]

I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, 

Well time to throw that all away

Thanks internet 

He should be with someone who loves him not a transphobic piece of shit who refuses to get past his gender hangups.

[benji]

Also, she still calls him Ryan, even though he's now a chick and chopped his cock off? 

Did he actually transition, or is she genociding him?

He didn't transition to woman, he's still Ryan and he chopped his dick off so he could be more non-binary and androgynous. That was his stated goal, not becoming a woman.

[Potato]

Bro is out here having "a breakdown" at every challenge...what do these breakdowns entail? It's impossible to say, because despite the guy writing the post being the same one having the breakdowns, he shares zero details. I'm sure his wife and kids find it's just a pleasure to be on the receiving end of these "breakdowns".

Also he's calling her like the house is on fire and the kids are dead because she's out with a friend? "Oh I just wanna make sure she's safe"...I'll take Top 10 Statements of the Controlling Partner, Alex. Here's a hint: if she's alive, she will call/text you later. If she's dead, no amount of repeat dials are going to get a response. Well one thing is for sure, she won't make that mistake (read: hanging out with a friend for an uninterrupted evening) again!

For all his protesting that he doesn't care about money, he sure throws in a ton of unnecessary-for-someone-who-doesn't-care-about-money details about this job, that job, her lack of a job, wal-mart, and so on. His wife's employment the most recurrent topic of meditation in the entire post. But he doesn't care about money, of course. He told us he'd go 1 bajillion dollars into debt to save this relationship! It's just context. For what? Who knows! 

"I wrote a whole book and DEMAND that you read it.  Not your genre of romance? What do you mean 'genre'? It's all stupid smut for whores with a reading level of a 3rd grader, you bitch!" Wow, are ya feeling the love folks?

Look man, his daddy beat his mumma's arse on the regular. He's not like that. He just wants to know where the bitch is all the time. What, how dare she turn her phone tracking off!

[Potato]

Also, she still calls him Ryan, even though he's now a chick and chopped his cock off? 

Did he actually transition, or is she genociding him?

He didn't transition to woman, he's still Ryan and he chopped his dick off so he could be more non-binary and androgynous. That was his stated goal, not becoming a woman.

[benji]

Disappointed there's no thread about this considering their past threads around the topic of shoplifting:

It sometimes feels like everyone I know steals from Whole Foods. For a certain subset of the city’s wealthy-ish, a little shoplifting on your grocery run has become about as mundane as jaywalking. When asked, no one could quite explain why they do it. Some gestured at something like corporate protest; others blamed an unaffordable city. Entitlement, one thief admitted. I’d call it a form of collective nihilism. Everyone has their strategy: “Look like you have money and talk on the phone,” says a casting director of her technique. A graphic designer at a high-end fitness brand labels everything from the hotbar as “soup.”

...

The Union Square Whole Foods jail is a windowless storage closet near the entrance, says Astrid, a photographer. (Astrid is a pseudonym, as are all the names used in this piece.) She mostly remembers the wallpaper: “Layers and layers of grainy faces,” she tells me.” All the thieves that had come before me.” For years, she had thought of the California rolls, brownies, and protein shakes she stole as a kind of artist’s subsidy while she got her own practice off the ground. But on this particular day, her luck had run out. Astrid was late for therapy and hadn’t eaten, so she stopped in for a quick lunch. As usual, she began her meal in-store, moving toward the door with confidence, while ripping open a sushi tray. Soy-sauce packet between her teeth, one foot out the door, she felt a hand on her arm. “Memorably vicelike,” Astrid says. The man wasn’t aproned, there was no green vest — he wasn’t even one of those security guards for hire in black polos. Instead, she says, he wore a Burberry patterned button-down. She remembers being transfixed as he escorted her to the storage closet, scolding her as they walked: “What were you thinking?” (That she was going to miss therapy and still be charged for the session, mainly.) After her lecture, Astrid says she was asked to fill out a piece of paper with her sentence — she was banned from all Whole Foods in the tristate area for stealing approximately $30 of food. “I remember thinking it was funny that I could ostensibly continue my habit in Massachusetts, where I’m from,” she says.

A sculptor we’ll call Gina found herself in the Bowery Whole Foods Jail after a brief walk of shame from the sidewalk on Bowery and Houston, past the baked-goods section, up the escalator and down a long, Malkovichian hallway. She was late to an Alex G concert at Bowery Ballroom and had decided to slip into Whole Foods for a quick spicy-tuna-roll walk-and-dine. She had a system: Approach the item with confidence, grab it, then head upstairs to the dining area and surreptitiously place it into her bag. But this time, she skipped the trip upstairs and headed straight for the exit. “A rookie mistake,” Gina says. “Ma’am,” said a badgeless man, suddenly beside her, in head-to-toe black clothing. When she couldn’t produce a receipt for her stolen item, she says the man maneuvered her hands behind her back and placed her in handcuffs. Gina remembers keeping her head bowed and her eyes low, careful not to make eye contact with her fellow customers as she was escorted back to Whole Foods Jail. The windowless office was almost too bland to recall, she tells me, except for a rudimentary banner, printed out on a few sheets of paper that read: ALL SHOPLIFTERS ARE BANNED FROM WHOLE FOODS FOR LIFE. A few weeks later, Gina says her parents received a $90 ticket in the mail from the company. Her father intercepted it and, to this day, Gina’s mother still doesn’t know that her daughter is a Whole Foods thief.

...

There is even a Whole Foods Jail in Greenwich, Connecticut. Sam, a food stylist, concedes that being in a wealthy suburban enclave may have led her to be a little more brash than usual. At checkout, she went about paying for some of her items while her backpack was heavy with a lifted strip steak, a round of soft French cheese, and some chocolate. As she approached her car, moving at a less-than-urgent clip, a man yelled out to her. “It was like all the blood suddenly drained from my body,” she says. Turning to face him, she realized she had seen him before: first in the snack aisle and again at the meat counter. She followed him to a windowless office at the rear of the store, where a woman was sitting behind a desk, waiting. “She was definitely excited,” says Sam, as she began sorting through the stolen items in her backpack. But the total was $48 — apparently, she says, just shy of a good-enough reason to call the cops. Like a fisherman left empty-handed after a heavy pull at her line, the woman sullenly took Sam’s picture. Her photograph was placed in a binder, and she was charged $300 and told never to step foot into a Whole Foods again. For years, she didn’t — though she’s ventured back in more recently. She doesn’t steal anymore, she says.

[Boredfrom]

Sometimes I think humans cannot be trusted to care for other beings. Like there's something fundamentally wrong about us. Cats don't ban trans cats. As far as I know, anyway.

Newsfeed

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/

[benji]

Has this man never learned anything about any animals at all?

[benji]

Paving the way to let states ban trans healthcare altogether. This is genocide, full stop. Cis people, we need your help. Call your representatives. Talk to your friends, family, neighbors and make it clear that transphobia is unacceptable. Directly help trans people - too many of us need money, food, shelter.

The genocide marches on. I don't even know what to say at this point.

People will die from this

This is one of the biggest reasons we got out, couldn't imagine my eldest living through all this unquestionable hatred around trans people

She has never done anything wrong besides being herself

This is just pure cruelty

Fucking disgusting. The last election was so fucking important. I have no words.

Not a single judge has been appointed to this circuit since the last election.

Even in Erin Reed's (so dubious, someone should check the actual ruling) quote in the OP it's not outlawing care at all or compelling anything:

On Tuesday, an all-Republican and mostly Trump-appointed panel of the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that states can exclude gender-affirming surgery from Medicaid coverage

[EaldNarche]

How much do cis people have to venmo trans people before the problem will be resolved?

[benji]

West Virginia also cites efficacy and necessity concerns as one of its reasons for the
Exclusion—concerns which the Supreme Court cites approvingly in Skrmetti. 605 U.S. at
522–23 (stating Tennessee’s finding “that it was likely that not all harmful effects
associated with [sex-change procedures] are fully known” provided a rational basis for SB1
(internal quotation marks and citations omitted)).15 The fact that these procedures may be
ineffective, or worse, harmful to the citizens of West Virginia is rationally related to the
decision to exclude these procedures from Medicaid coverage. It makes sense that the
State would choose to focus on covering medical care that it has determined is safer and
more effective. It does not matter that some experts believe these procedures are safe and
effective. Others insist they are dangerous and ineffective. The widespread disagreement
and “[r]ecent developments” in transgender medicine “only underscore the need for
legislative flexibility in this area.” Skrmetti, 605 U.S. at 524.
In Skrmetti, the Supreme Court found that the Tennessee legislature did not have to
take any third party—on either side of the debate—at its word to find a good reason to ban
certain procedures. The legislature could look at the evidence and decide for itself which
plan would best promote the flourishing of Tennesseans. If the Tennessee legislature can
legitimately prohibit these treatments, then the West Virginia legislature may legitimately
determine that providing Medicaid coverage for these procedures is not worth the cost to
its taxpayers. Simply put, if a State can reasonably ban it, of course a State can reasonably
refuse to pay for it.
It is not irrational for a legislature to forgo Medicaid coverage of arguably
ineffective and dangerous procedures and allocate its limited resources to covering other
treatments. What’s more, States may legitimately recognize and “celebrat[e]” the “inherent
differences between men and women.” Virginia, 518 U.S. at 533 (internal quotation marks
omitted). And it is not irrational for a legislature to encourage citizens “to appreciate their
sex” and not “become disdainful of their sex” by refusing to fund experimental procedures
that may have the opposite effect. Skrmetti, 605 U.S. at 516–17.

Just openly denying the proven science to further a genocide.

[killamajig]

Paving the way to let states ban trans healthcare altogether. This is genocide, full stop. Cis people, we need your help. Call your representatives. Talk to your friends, family, neighbors and make it clear that transphobia is unacceptable. Directly help trans people - too many of us need money, food, shelter.

The genocide marches on. I don't even know what to say at this point.

People will die from this

This is one of the biggest reasons we got out, couldn't imagine my eldest living through all this unquestionable hatred around trans people

She has never done anything wrong besides being herself

This is just pure cruelty

Fucking disgusting. The last election was so fucking important. I have no words.

Not a single judge has been appointed to this circuit since the last election.

Even in Erin Reed's (so dubious, someone should check the actual ruling) quote it's not outlawing care at all:

On Tuesday, an all-Republican and mostly Trump-appointed panel of the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that states can exclude gender-affirming surgery from Medicaid coverage

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Directly help trans people - too many of us need money expensive video cards, food UberEats, shelter a filthy room full of toys

[Lonewulfeus]

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Paving the way to let states ban trans healthcare altogether. This is genocide, full stop. Cis people, we need your help. Call your representatives. Talk to your friends, family, neighbors and make it clear that transphobia is unacceptable. Directly help trans people - too many of us need money, food, shelter.

The genocide marches on. I don't even know what to say at this point.

People will die from this

This is one of the biggest reasons we got out, couldn't imagine my eldest living through all this unquestionable hatred around trans people

She has never done anything wrong besides being herself

This is just pure cruelty

Fucking disgusting. The last election was so fucking important. I have no words.

Not a single judge has been appointed to this circuit since the last election.

Even in Erin Reed's (so dubious, someone should check the actual ruling) quote it's not outlawing care at all:

On Tuesday, an all-Republican and mostly Trump-appointed panel of the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that states can exclude gender-affirming surgery from Medicaid coverage

fify
Directly help trans people - too many of us need money expensive video cards, food UberEats, shelter a filthy room full of toys

And cum stained amplifiers for guitars they don’t know how to play.

[benji]

One of the funniest things is that Erin Reed has been tweeting for years claiming that the trans side always won every court battle (and election btw) and taking the fight up to the Supreme Court was a way to finally defeat the TERFs and their genocide plans forever because there was no argument against what they wanted, only bigotry and hatred against the trans side's science and law.

Then they didn't even base their argument around any of this but some convoluted stupid equal protection argument that would have made it illegal for the state to ban anything at all any person might want and so the Court obviously just went "lol no" to.