Random Talk

[Potato]

Without sounding too negative (conscious that I've really only offered criticism) there's too much going on in the background and it distracts from the subject which is the spider in its web.

Focus on the subject, remove the distractions.

Ironically, the background without the spider would be a lovely photo with the mirror reflection in the water and that gothic mood dripping from the photo.

[Nintex]

Cool Spider pic. The key when you're starting with art shots and don't have NOLAN vision, is really to take like 10 or 20 pictures from different angles and then pick out the best one.
By comparing them you can also see what you did wrong or right in each of them.

You know, after a night sleep looking at the bio again with my bro Grok, I made a few tweaks to tone it down just a notch but it signals something that none of my other bios did, it signals: invite me over to have fun be it a movie night or jamming to some music and I feel more comfortable with it than I thought. If they don't want to throw their Pokeball and keep me, I'll just scurry back into the tall grass.

I'm gonna a cool it down a bit, play some video games and watch some movies with my bros this weekend though, and next week the Nintex just for fun arc begins.

[BIONIC]

[Nintex]

Given how reverse psychology works with the ladies it wouldn't surprise me if this bio gets me the exact opposite type of matches.

It's basically just gas lighting all the 'looking for something serious' women on this app. 

 
"Uhuh I'm a pretty good catch as a business man but you're in luck I'm too busy with epic wins to stick around and the monkey brain needs a workout. Just throw your Pokeball for a fun night plushie princess."

And for those type of women it's going to be hard not to ask "Are you for fucking real, you should get serious and commit  "

It's what I've seen with all the fuck bois around me and they weren't even as succesful and some not as tall or fit as me. They just riled up those on the clock around them that wanted to settle so much with their shit, that eventually one of them decides to get close to try and intervene and is then caught in the trap.

The weirdest one

"Stop eating unhealthy, it's disgusting, ugh everything stinks here"
"Then you cook for me, I'm too busy"
"Ok asshole, I will do that and throw it in your face" (married, 2 kids)

[Cauliflower Of Love]

If Nintex ever gets laid I will live stream my suicide.

I will save you because he's not worth it.

[Potato]

Nintex, you're running before you're walking. You haven't even scored a date yet. 

Instead of trying to get AI to dress you up, why not just match with someone and ask them out on a date and actually go?

[Nintex]

Nintex, you're running before you're walking. You haven't even scored a date yet. 

Instead of trying to get AI to dress you up, why not just match with someone and ask them out on a date and actually go?

It's a three front strategy now, Bumble for serious stuff, Tinder for casually messing around and of course whatever happens IRL. As of late I've made it a habit to help people take stuff from high shelves when they can't reach that high. 

Tinder didn't yield any matches in the current setup anyway, I got a few likes but I didn't like them. Hence the change to a new strategy. Now that I've set it to casual the 'fun' and 'casual' pond I already see is much bigger and I can just swipe on the 'would', would not' scale. The pictures are also less refined instagram shoots and more teasing with loose straps, bikini beach shots and things like that.

At first I only wanted something steady or long term. But in hindsight Casual hook-ups would be perfect for me too, because I'm a busy man and I overthink so with casual I won't have to think about interests or what comes after. I didn't realize this before I had those conversations with the Bumble woman. Another thing I thought would bother me before I started using these apps was body counts but I quickly realized, I didn't really care. I just need to optimize the profile to get a steady stream of leads on thursday/friday for fun weekends. Lots of women here who don't want to go through the hassle of scouting clubs to find guys to take home especially with all the assholes there and the high prices. On Tinder you have to use the boosters and super likes though because there are just so many profiles.

Same as I realized it didn't matter to me that she wasn't white or didn't speak Dutch. I swiped no on a cute Polish vet for example, because at the time I didn't want someone who didn't speak Dutch and all those animals aren't gonna work with my asthma long term but for casual that wouldn't matter.

Most matches on Bumble so far overall, the black woman was the best after 6 weeks or so. We had fun video calls for a week the closest I got to a IRL date and I might go to dinner with her still anyway.

Nothing on Hinge. Gonna delete that when it runs out, simply not enough users. I'll probably replace Hinge by Happn or Breeze next month. 

I'm also gonna get some new glasses, the rimless frame I have is fine but a bit out of fashion. The Bumble woman agreed, the weakest thing about my current look. The thinning hair, go full bald at this point or not. She couldn't say either, just keep it neat and short for now. One thing she was dissapointed about is that I didn't have any hoodies she could steal, apparently a thing with women. 

[Polident]

Despite the overthinking, it’s interesting to hear the current state of apps. With bumble specifically, I’ve seen headlines about its declining user base  and otherwise changing strategy from “woman makes the first move.” And, allegedly, all these apps made efforts to remove filters over time. Like height, race, weight? Largely, it sounds like the golden age of the swipe apps is over. Now there’s heaps of start ups focusing on AI dating services. Ostensibly recreating that old Black Mirror episode where they built an avatar of both parties and run simulations to see if you’ll get on. Weird and impersonal strategies to preface what should be a natural human connection.

[chronovore]

Pretty amazing that everyone in that Toronto crash survived.

Not just survived, DELTA offered them a $12 meal voucher for anywhere in the airport.

[Potato]

Pretty amazing that everyone in that Toronto crash survived.

Not just survived, DELTA offered them a $12 meal voucher for anywhere in the airport.

#notsureifserious

[Polident]

This is probably going back close to a decade. Economy isn’t what it once was. But me and a coworker had a business class flight and the lounge was unavailable at the time. The airline gave us each $100 in food vouchers that had to be used before our flight. I’m pretty sure you should get more if you nearly died. And nowadays $12 gets you water and a bagel. Maybe.

[Nintex]

Despite the overthinking, it’s interesting to hear the current state of apps. With bumble specifically, I’ve seen headlines about its declining user base  and otherwise changing strategy from “woman makes the first move.” And, allegedly, all these apps made efforts to remove filters over time. Like height, race, weight? Largely, it sounds like the golden age of the swipe apps is over. Now there’s heaps of start ups focusing on AI dating services. Ostensibly recreating that old Black Mirror episode where they built an avatar of both parties and run simulations to see if you’ll get on. Weird and impersonal strategies to preface what should be a natural human connection.

It's a very strange dating market overall. I mean some of it is certainly on me or related to previous medical issues or things that happened in my life such as COVID and with my parents.

But overall this is also a problem in society and if I look back the only time it was ever 'encouraged' to start a relationship was when I was still a kid that went to church and everything.
At church we basically 'practiced' marriage. They simply put the boys and girls next to eachother and we walked up to the altar together holding hands. 

After that though everything and everyone encouraged my generation to do the opposite. Once people left the church, the messy divorces came. The advice to focus on a career and a job first followed. The message was basically that a good job was the magic bullet for everything in life. But we were also told not to chase women. Men had been dominant in society so we had to give women some space. Don't think about having any children because it's bad for the climate etc.

But thankfully I've decided to not follow all that advice anymore and just follow my heart dick.

My friends were shocked about the Bumble woman, had to show them the Whatsapp log because they thought I was joking. They didn't believe I didn't fuck that up by saying how much I hate Amsterdam or offended her 5 minutes into the conversation with a racist joke. 

They said it was typical of me to go from not dating to not just some mid but Ultra Nightmare Difficulty.

[Polident]

Frankly, if there were ever a point I decided to pursue a long term relationship, I'd be worse off than you.

Probably not but I'm trying to give you credit.

Well, once as a laugh with friends I told a lady she had powerful eyebrows and she started flirting. Felt so confused I said "this concludes our interaction" and went back to my group. Only to be called a bundle of sticks upon my arrival.

[Nintex]

She probably thought you were joking too  

Best shot I took at the dunes today.

[who is ted danson?]

She probably thought you were joking too  

Best shot I took at the dunes today.

half life 2 water hazard

[Polident]

During winter time, they have all sorts of lights and illuminations around. One night I was walking home, it was raining, and all the lights are reflecting off the ground. My mind immediately went to "great ray tracing." Felt a deep, profound shame.

[Nintex]

yep ted, that's how my brain works. 

[MMaRsu]

I applied for a Youtube Editor job.. I made an video for the company as well, like they didnt even ask for it I just went and made it

I really hope they hire me

I wanna make cool videos about cars and stuff

CMON FINGERS CROSSED BABY POSITIVE VIBES

[Besticus Maximus]

I applied for a Youtube Editor job.. I made an video for the company as well, like they didnt even ask for it I just went and made it

I really hope they hire me

I wanna make cool videos about cars and stuff

CMON FINGERS CROSSED BABY POSITIVE VIBES

Good luck

[Gamegirl Nostalgia]

I applied for a Youtube Editor job.. I made an video for the company as well, like they didnt even ask for it I just went and made it

I really hope they hire me

I wanna make cool videos about cars and stuff

CMON FINGERS CROSSED BABY POSITIVE VIBES

If you make it I expect another kpop video from you.

[killamajig]

Time to get those Valentine's discounts 

$0.53 for 10 cookies.

[Polident]

Yesterday I saw a huge leftover frozen turkey from thanksgiving for 80% off. tl;dr turkey is incredibly uncommon here and crazy expensive. Considered buying it but no place to store it and hauling a giant turkey on trains might be strange.

[Uncle]

all aboard the turkey train choo-choo

[MMaRsu]

The wait to hear back on a job is excruciating

[Nintex]

The wait to hear back on a job is excruciating

 I'm sure you'll do a fantastic job

[MMaRsu]

First they gotta let me know if I can even come in for an interview

[Besticus Maximus]

The wait to hear back on a job is excruciating

I've got one who emailed this morning to say they've finished the final interviews and do I have time for a call tomorrow. What does that mean? Just say yes or no for the love of christ, why make we wait 

[Nintex]

They usually call the people that don't get the job first.

Or they totally forget about you

[Uncle]

They usually call the people that don't get the job first.

that seems unwise, sometimes they'll say "oh I don't need that job anymore" or "oh I was just checking out my options" and then you can go to the second best person and offer it to them, if you haven't already told them they're not getting it

[Potato]

Nah, they usually confirm the preferred candidate first and then call the unsuccessful candidates. 

If you go the other way and your first preference declines the job, then you've got a really embarrassing phone call to make to your second preference.