Random Talk

[killamajig]

Dude, you need to widen the net and stop thinking every date is going to end up in happily ever after. You're sounding like a 15 year old girl. Just get your dick wet first and then reassess.

I do sort of believe in real connections and love and all that corny shit. But also there’s the old idea of “don’t buy the first house you see”. Sometimes people can fixate on the one option and ignore all others. You don’t know what’s real if you don’t know what’s not. Again, bad dates can be learning experiences to know what you want or don’t want.

Get options. Date multiple women. Choose the best woman from that pool you're dating. Dating multiple women will stop you from having one-itis (the phenomenon that this one woman is The One). Don't date women with tattoos - they're whores. Ask if she has any debt. Women are a minefield so treat it like taking job applicants and seeking the best candidate.

[Nintex]

I've concluded she made the right call for us.
She protected me from myself.

Another impossible romance.

Because of her grounded character she looked at the facts, astma and animals. It was her primary concern before and during the date. As a vet she's an animal person, horse riding, dog school etc. The woman basically lives with animals 24/7. It isn't a pet to manage  it is her life. It's like asking me to throw out my movie related stuff, half my living room would be empty, no art on the walls either. 

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She knew I would've been able to solve some of it. But I can partake in maybe 20% of the things that matterred to her and if my astma gets worse as little as 10% or 5%. It would've been a ticking time bomb. As a vet looking after abandoned pets she knew, she even brought it up. 

Whenever there is a big astma risk I subconsiously try to avoid it, be it a smoke machine or a perfume store. I'm on edge when that happens and try to cut short whatever I'm doing. I was nervous testing beds in the store because of it, specifically picked the most suitable fabric.

The only thing that can overrule my sex drive is fear of an astma attack because it nearly killed me multiple times. I think that's why I didn't mind leaving and didn't push to stay. She could also tell, I started as my cocky self by immediately planting my ass next to her and got more reserved as time passed even though we were both comfortable. 

So my next move... well I have her favorite movie The Shawshank Redemption sitting here wrapped in 4k for 3 years now and we had fun talking. But she only has a small Netflix setup in her animal kingdom and complained it was removed. I thought maybe it was one of those signs again and I think it still is, just a different sign.

She doesn't have many movie watching types as friends. In a week or 2 I'll ask if she wants to come see it... as a friend with my bud(who is gay), because we're one man short now and she's the coolest person with a great taste in movies I've met lately. He can also help her find a good van, he's an expert camper. 

So who knows if she likes that idea I might've not found love but a new friend instead or maybe some kind of relationship can still emerge from that. 

How do I know this version checks out? I told her early on in our chat, just for one night animals wouldn't be a problem but long term we'd have trouble. I told the exact same thing to another girl with 3 dogs. In my excitement I just forgot. When I add astma to my dream, the very reason we'd have both her house and my appartment, the dream collapses quickly.

And now I'm finally crying because in the end all she did was follow the advice of the "smartest man on the app" to a T. 

Because she knew after date 1, I was a straight up, trustworthy, smart guy but like me, she would've had to give up her kids(animals) too.

I hope she wants to be my new friend.

Without the pressure on both sides of well anything we might still end up in my new bed sometime.

[Himu]

I do sort of believe in real connections and love and all that corny shit. But also there’s the old idea of “don’t buy the first house you see”. Sometimes people can fixate on the one option and ignore all others. You don’t know what’s real if you don’t know what’s not. Again, bad dates can be learning experiences to know what you want or don’t want.

Get options. Date multiple women. Choose the best woman from that pool you're dating. Dating multiple women will stop you from having one-itis (the phenomenon that this one woman is The One). Don't date women with tattoos - they're whores. Ask if she has any debt. Women are a minefield so treat it like taking job applicants and seeking the best candidate.

Sounds like someone needs more experience.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/04/13/apparently-women-tattoos-sexually-open-according-study-12548682/

Only men with low self esteem go for Suicide Girls. You should thank women with tattoos: they're walking red flags and easy to avoid. Same with women with brightly colored hair. Women operate on feelings. Getting a tattoo is literally a sensation - she is literally open to the sensation of being stabbed in her skin - which is a thrill for her. Women that seek thrills tend to also be more sexually open, which means they're likely to cheat on you. You're welcome.

[Potato]

[killamajig]

Get options. Date multiple women. Choose the best woman from that pool you're dating. Dating multiple women will stop you from having one-itis (the phenomenon that this one woman is The One). Don't date women with tattoos - they're whores. Ask if she has any debt. Women are a minefield so treat it like taking job applicants and seeking the best candidate.

Sounds like someone needs more experience.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/04/13/apparently-women-tattoos-sexually-open-according-study-12548682/

Only men with low self esteem go for Suicide Girls. You should thank women with tattoos: they're walking red flags and easy to avoid. Same with women with brightly colored hair. Women operate on feelings. Getting a tattoo is literally a sensation - she is literally open to the sensation of being stabbed in her skin - which is a thrill for her. Women that seek thrills tend to also be more sexually open, which means they're likely to cheat on you. You're welcome.

Isn't it past your bed time? It's a school night.

[BIONIC]

2 mega incels on the same page

[benji]

Get options. Date multiple women. Choose the best woman from that pool you're dating. Dating multiple women will stop you from having one-itis (the phenomenon that this one woman is The One). Don't date women with tattoos - they're whores. Ask if she has any debt. Women are a minefield so treat it like taking job applicants and seeking the best candidate.

Sounds like someone needs more experience.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/04/13/apparently-women-tattoos-sexually-open-according-study-12548682/

Only men with low self esteem go for Suicide Girls. You should thank women with tattoos: they're walking red flags and easy to avoid. Same with women with brightly colored hair. Women operate on feelings. Getting a tattoo is literally a sensation - she is literally open to the sensation of being stabbed in her skin - which is a thrill for her. Women that seek thrills tend to also be more sexually open, which means they're likely to cheat on you. You're welcome.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy_of_composition
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faulty_generalization#Hasty_generalization

[benji]

You reject women with tattoos because you think they're whores.

I reject most people with tattoos because they got aesthetically terrible ones. 

We are not the same.

[Polident]

Every time I considered getting a tattoo, I consider how I’ll feel about it in five or ten years. Some of them, in retrospect, I wouldn’t have regrets. Today of all days I regret never getting that Val Kilmer Batman Forever tattoo on my right pec. RIP.

But some tattoos, it’s like, did you think about it? Did Ben Affleck think through getting a giant yakuza phoenix on his back?

[benji]

I had a college roommate who was a big tattoo guy and he was interested in checking out parlors we came across. Any of the good seeming ones we went in always had a sign about the artist reserving the right to make you wait at least a day before receiving it. I'm of the opinion that this isn't happening enough on many tattoos I see.

edit: ha


Careful: sketch is offensive and you'll know why the instant he says which game he wants Bowser from.

[Potato]

If you want a tattoo because you saw it on someone else and think it looks cool (i.e. fine line drawings, tribal armbands, tramp stamps, Chinese characters, Sanskrit writing), you are an idiot and should wait 12 months before getting it.

[Nintex]

Well closure I send her the message. If I turn this into a book she's entitled to 50%. 

I also know why I gave up on kids on a whim. I don’t want to pass on my chronic disease. With that I gave her a powerful weapon she can use when people bring up her choice and make them feel like shit, my story.

She can join our movie club if she wants and well she's entitled to a fuck if she wants that too. Just as the redhead works in my office and is a cuddlebear and lunch buddy now and the Georgian girl shares her photo shoots and art with me.

As for dating, I have my new bed but I'm also going to try something new after my Canada trip.

I'm going to seek out something very specific through a dating agency: astma/COPD, kids her choice.

She'll be low on melanine = Red Hair
No or few animals
Astma means she won't be fat ever
She'll be a survivor like me
She'll avoid the same things as me
And she'd love the idea to leave a big city for a coastal town with fresh air and beach walks.

Plus she deserves a good life way more than some transactional basic bitch. But a lot guys probably pass on a girl like that.

Truth is I manage it well but my astma will always limit me. Either the trigger or the astma itself. I nearly died a dozen times as a kid mostly because adults said I should man up and was just pretending. Until I threw up tough pleghm and mucus all over them and nearly choked unable to cough it all up. I'll never forget those horrified faces.

I can pretend I felt shit for days because my heart was broken but I already felt that way before she canned. Simple reason my chest hurt and had 50% less energy I made a house visit to a vet.

[Polident]

Saw some recipes suggesting using bouillon cubes as a rub for steak or chicken. Keen to try it out so bought some. And I’m holding one of these cubes wondering if anybody has been dumb enough to eat it like candy. Sure enough, it’s something people do. The internet is amazing. Whatever dumb shit you think of has a community.

[Potato]

Kids bonded over eating laundry detergent dude. Kids are retarded.

[Nintex]

Had a fun meeting with a lady from Unicef.

She plays violin and said I should pick up guitar playing.
Apparently people good at multi-tasking and with high intelligence are good guitar players.

[Nintex]

Messaged a girl on Bumble based on my new search profile. No pets, writing, vintage music and movies, French cuisine. Looking for someone that doesn't walk super slow and is a great conversation partner. Her fashion matches mine too, lots of sleek black outfits.

The children thing I've worded as "kids aren't a must". I have to say solving that question has calmed my nerves. I no longer have to worry about finding a house in time or age. If my girl wants kids I will provide but there has to be support of family/friends on her side that's lacking on mine. My co-worker asked me about single moms and I guess I'd be open to it as there would be a backup. And the way things are organized here her ex would pay for our champagne dinners.

Deleted the message I send to 37F, it wasn't that bad but I should really just move on for now. 

Speed date with the Unicef lady certainly helped.
She called it that after melting for my AI mansplaining. I usually don't like the charity types but we definitely well... clicked. I'm going to sort of jokingly respond to her email in which she called me nice, open and whatnot that I enjoyed our speed date and might try the guitar. Maybe she's single. She was more interested in me personally than our business. 

She was supposed to show me a video and never did.

[Eric Cartman]

If you want a tattoo because you saw it on someone else and think it looks cool (i.e. fine line drawings, tribal armbands, tramp stamps, Chinese characters, Sanskrit writing), you are an idiot and should wait 12 months before getting it.

[killamajig]

2 mega incels on the same page

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1jqi1rb/aio_to_the_messages_he_sent_me_after_our_first/

Is anyone here a fitness guru? because I think I found one of your first dates

[Polident]

2 mega incels on the same page

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1jqi1rb/aio_to_the_messages_he_sent_me_after_our_first/

Is anyone here a fitness guru? because I think I found one of your first dates

He flirts like 

[Potato]

2 mega incels on the same page

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1jqi1rb/aio_to_the_messages_he_sent_me_after_our_first/

Is anyone here a fitness guru? because I think I found one of your first dates

r/thathappened

[Nintex]

2 mega incels on the same page

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1jqi1rb/aio_to_the_messages_he_sent_me_after_our_first/

Is anyone here a fitness guru? because I think I found one of your first dates

Nice guys finish last, I forgot about that on my date  
When she yapped about her dead dog I should've said "why don't you get a new one". When she said: I like things slow. I should've said "I don't my favorite hobby is avoiding speed traps"

With unicef lady that worked. "At Unicef you must be used to boomers that can't open PDFs. How about I replace them all with AI's.". "Seriously? you can do that? " 

Lessons learned.

They like sarcasm for the same reason. It makes you just the right level of asshole.

If I had texted "meh, can you do better next time and wear that tanktop?"

Things would've ended differently.

[Nintex]

Fixing PCs in 2025 is an absolute nightmare.

Windows won't boot
Windows recovery is corrupted
Windows cloud can't download
Create USB boot drive
PC doesn't meet minimum requirements (????)
BIOS update
Can't have Windows and BIOS on same USB
Remove Windows
Update BIOS
Put Windows on USB again
...

The main problem with this pos except for Windows 11 is the retarded way Gigabyte solved the multiple M2 SSD support by setting the PCIE x16 lane to x8.

[Nintex]

Well got a fresh install of Windows but now the real nightmare begins. Reinstalling and remapping and retweaking EVERYTHING

[Uncle]

my computer is also acting fucky and the problem is event viewer gets filled with concerning looking alerts, but you only look there when things are going wrong so EVERYTHING looks suspicious to you, you wonder what the fuck these crazy errors mean, google them and can't trust the results you find

Well got a fresh install of Windows but now the real nightmare begins. Reinstalling and remapping and retweaking EVERYTHING

that's the best part!

build a package of all your favorite stuff and get em all going

fancontrol with a rebuilt profile, setting temps to show in tray
shutup10++ and disable all of microsoft's shit
brave browser
7zip
steam
VLC
audacity
OBS
discord
foxit
handbrake
nomacs
crystaldiskinfo
unity and godot to try to fool yourself into thinking that you'll ever actually make a game

[Polident]

Was helping two lost British ladies earlier. There’s a point they’re telling me the address of where they’re staying. Alone in a fairly secluded area. And it’s like, what if I’m the bad guy from Taken? Why are you sharing so much information to a stranger. Where are their survival instincts. Pointed them in the right direction and excused myself.

[Nintex]

The thing is I don’t remember half the tweaks. It was everything from custom HDR color profiles because the nits range on the odyssey is borked to audio tweaks.

It seems that the new BIOS has fixed the WiFi and Bluetooth though.

In hindsight I've should've RMA'd the AMD 550 chipset day 1. It took about 2 BIOS updates before the USB ports worked and the XMP profiles didn't cause blue screens.

PC boots buttery smooth on fresh Windows now though, I'll give it that.

On Breeze I liked a girl into Nintendo and she's allergic to cats. Slim because of that I assume. In one of her pics she does the Trump shrug on a camel. Hope she responds.


The search profile works at least, much less time consuming when I can filter out women with cats/dogs and other astma triggers by default. Now the question is will they like me or feel entitled to 10/10 super chad anyway like the fatties do.

[Nintex]

Was helping two lost British ladies earlier. There’s a point they’re telling me the address of where they’re staying. Alone in a fairly secluded area. And it’s like, what if I’m the bad guy from Taken? Why are you sharing so much information to a stranger. Where are their survival instincts. Pointed them in the right direction and excused myself.

The reddit stories like this are great. Women posting about being lost in a parking lot. Some guy seeing them wander around. She tags along and ends up "accidentally" dating her hero. Now her real crisis begins, should she tell her boyfriend when he gets back from work. She doesn't want that drama in her life.

Women: "you go gurl"
Men: "wtf"

40F Japanese/Korean has challenged me to a roast on Bumble. Lets see if she replies to the opener or immediately throws in the towel.

[Nintex]

She asked if my phone is taking over all my priorities.

I asked if she shouldn't be in the kitchen

Game on


Well I win, she admits she was in the kitchen baking.
That was quick. Asked her what she's making and I bet it burned. 

[MMaRsu]

[Nintex]

It was of course a shit test.

Once I beat the game about 5 times, she's looking for something sustainable.
But without the game big energy shift. 

Biggest red flag blah blah emotionally unavailable blah blah and the Dutch 50/50 bill splitting mentality. 

Is this cat fishing  

Still gonna see if Misato is up for drinks tho. 
You know what I'll let her get back to me because I already asked. Following the advice of my good friend: "like it or not".