Random Talk

[Nintex]

She prefered Iran in the end. That was the big difference between us, she was very focused on growth and wanted her man to be more succesful than she was so she could get another leg up. Not interested in small talk or movies. I understood why from her point of view. She wasn't looking to build, she was looking for a merger and acquisition. Her shy character and quirks kind of prevent her from getting that type of man though. 

With 33F it's a night and day difference. She keeps suggesting things that she's worried I won't like and is then happily surprised that I'll go to museums and other attractions with her. She has an endless list of activities she wants to do and really hopes we click at the date. She also loves the things that I want to do. Like the city trips that I don't feel like doing with a bunch of dudes. 

She likes cute stuff and girly things which makes it easy mode for me. She sends me pictures of her mug, dog, blanket and things she's doing at work and I send her a picture of a rabbit cake I bought to celebrate easter at the office. Overall I take a picture of something and think: "I'm sure she'll love this" and she does. She thinks my car is cool because it looks fast and is red and her car is red too. So now she says we're a racing team. 

Her latest addition is her arts and crafts, she was slowly guessing to see if those would be ok to send and finally shared one with this emoji 🫣 

She is very nervous that she'll mess up at the date or I won't like her curly hair or whatever.

I'm mostly just really excited to meet this adorable creature.

[Polident]

I’m definitely gonna break my neck but I want to pull off a Guile flash kick before 2026.

[Nintex]

Well no panic call this time just a video of an empty office.

"Good morning did I wake you 🫣"

[Nintex]

And we're on, no panic calls, no red flags, no checklists. She's coming over to my office. Poor girl forgot to eat her lunch.



Fingers crossed she's cute IRL and we clickity click.

[Nintex]

Well it's a maybe.

It's complicated. She was basically as perfect as I expect to find. Cute as hell, laughing, smiling, fun to hang with.
We clicked too, more so than on any other date I had. But something held her back.

Turns out she only had 3 bad relationships. Each more terrible than the last. I was her first date in a while and she realized that she hesitated because maybe she still isn't ready.
I dread 'that' message tommorow. Let's pray she finds that hope and spark in her heart tonight. 

I send her a message that I hope she has a pleasant dream and I will help her with her burden and that she doesn't need to feel guilty about that.
And that unlike a 'prince on a white horse' she believed wouldn't save her, I won't flee and will not only provide love and comfort but would also go to war for her like I do for everything I care about.

If she is not up to it, this date 100% validated my theory. This girl had allergies and dating was hard because of it.  She just settled for guys she thought were good enough for her and they betrayed her trust and the last one might've ruined her forever.

[chronovore]

No one is "ruined forever." People are organic and complex. She may be recovering from one thing, or heading for another. 

If you're into someone, and I don't mean "I can fix them" or "I'll wait until she's healed" I mean if you're into her, it's a question of how much energy it will require to make things work, and if you're up for it.

[Nintex]

I see she read my message and I'm glad she did. It's probably not what she expected. No anger, no simping. No "everything is gonna be fine" bullshit. Our dream is still alive and if she wants to join me I'd go to war to make it happen.

[Nintex]

No one is "ruined forever." People are organic and complex. She may be recovering from one thing, or heading for another.

Could be but the way she talked she was certainly heading in the jaded giving up hope direction. At 33 she's also in that last rodeo phase. 3 - 5 years to build a family.

If you're into someone, and I don't mean "I can fix them" or "I'll wait until she's healed" I mean if you're into her, it's a question of how much energy it will require to make things work, and if you're up for it.

I'm ready and better able to make things work than most because I focus on short term pain for long term gain.

The way I see it, if she's into me and I have reasons to believe she is, she shouldn't deny herself the happiness she seeks. 

She felt bad about it. She wanted 100% commitment and was surprised she found it but then believed she couldn't offer the same. Plus she felt like she lied to me, hiding some medical issues and past relationships. Overall she was just hard on herself.

When I started this I thought it would be difficult to make these women interested but that is fairly easy. The hard part is convincing them to move on from the past and put in the energy to turn the page.

The first 90 minutes were great but then came the part: "so what do you think" and it all fell apart. She started overthinking. I told her that's ironic, usually it's me that overthinks.

She has to make up her mind and believe it's possible and then we will succeed but if she gives up before we start it's no use.

My friend reminded me again though, "take it or leave it.". It's up to her now.

[Uncle]

I send her a message that I hope she has a pleasant dream and I will help her with her burden and that she doesn't need to feel guilty about that.
And that unlike a 'prince on a white horse' she believed wouldn't save her, I won't flee and will not only provide love and comfort but would also go to war for her like I do for everything I care about.

this is just ridiculously creepy coming on way too strong, keep in mind sometimes people need space, you don't have to message every night saying pleasant dreams I will alleviate all your burdens

if she calls it off it might be from doing something like this

[Potato]

Whatever happened to just going on a date to meet someone and then, if you hit it off, hanging out with them a bit more frequently to decide if you like the person enough to start a relationship? 

Nintex, you're treating dating like a job interview.

Maybe I've been out of the loop for too long and don't understand the whole online dating scene, but it is coming across a little business like and women tend to like some actual romance in their partners rather than being told, "here's six dot points on why I can perform romance with you".

[Nintex]

She's winding down it seems. Unmatched me on Bumble. Maybe part of her thinking process but I don't think she'll change her mind.

Well my sperging lasted only 24 hours this time and I was pretty productive today. I guess I'm getting used to things falling apart. Lessons learned, I really shouldn't wait to ask about their relationship history or 'are you ready yet' until we meet. Dinner date also not the best choice. Expensive and this place wasn't as good as it once was.

Something in between is where I'm at my best, brunch, drinks and a bite on the town square or terrace in the weekend not after a long day of work. 
The Iranian could tell I was in my element.

Oh well she provided another piece of the puzzle, we can have an anti-allergic dog and half greeks are pretty.
Hay fever and pfeiffer go on the list of conditions that lead to the same limitations as astma.

[killamajig]

I was hoping it was some inside joke I didn't know about or a culture thing. Nintex, pump the brakes

[Nintex]

Whatever happened to just going on a date to meet someone and then, if you hit it off, hanging out with them a bit more frequently to decide if you like the person enough to start a relationship? 
Nintex, you're treating dating like a job interview.
Maybe I've been out of the loop for too long and don't understand the whole online dating scene, but it is coming across a little business like and women tend to like some actual romance in their partners rather than being told, "here's six dot points on why I can perform romance with you".

That's what I want and the men want but the women want job interviews and a 'click' or 'spark'. This one had a bit of a romantic side because she was half Greek so she said she wanted to do a couple of dates right at the start when we walked to the restaurant and didn't believe that you could hit it off with just one date. I was happy because I fully agreed. 

With most of them though there is no flirting or anything. It's just a matter of trying to find the right 'fit' with interests, long term goals, class and income.
You meet, you talk, you see what the other person is like and you go home to think about it. Then their phone buzzes with new profiles.
Unless you have serious game and are seriously good looking, then you can pump and dump. 

She dated her last boyfriend because she thought it was serious, he said it was and introduced her to his friends. But most of the dates were just Netflix and chill "better for her allergies", 5 months later he tells her: "You were just my FWB until I find something better and I just did". That last one broke her. But that's also why she had compiled such an endless list of couples activities and she started the bf/gf texting experience with me right from the get go. 

It came out when she wanted to say 'yes' to me and then she realized she wasn't over that, hesitated and well, she panicked.
I was her first date after that guy, just my luck.

[Uncle]

That's what I want and the men want but the women want job interviews and a 'click' or 'spark'.

how do you know that's what they want when every single one has bounced

maybe they don't want midnight messages like sleep tight my glorious angel, I will care for you for the rest of your life and give you everything, after one date

[Nintex]

That's what I want and the men want but the women want job interviews and a 'click' or 'spark'.

how do you know that's what they want when every single one has bounced

maybe they don't want midnight messages like sleep tight my glorious angel, I will care for you for the rest of your life and give you everything, after one date

Well yes I worded it differently but I fucked it up by messaging too soon in the maybe phase.

But that is what most women want though, their profiles are set-up like it too and their chats.
This one was actually a bit different, she wanted to snuggle and watch Netflix, eat together etc. that's why our chats were the most fun compared to the 20 or so other chats I've had which were mostly platonic. 

This girl actually brought it up at the date, that she thought it was weird that some people expected to hit it off on the first date and if I was open to you know, continue dating. One of her friends actually got pregnant on the first date. It worked out for a few months sort of, but that was still shocking to her.

But that 1 date decision is really why a lot of people don't make any progress on the dating apps.

That's why I'm planning to use a dating agency after my trip to Canada. They recommend at least 3 different dates after a match. A drink, something active like a walk and something intimate like watching a movie or dancing.  

Dating apps are just a nightmare. You meet someone not knowing if their pictures are legit, not knowing if they are even the person who they claim to be and if they aren't cheating, robbing or raping or whatever. I called off a few things too because I simply didn't trust it.

[BIONIC]

I was hoping it was some inside joke I didn't know about or a culture thing. Nintex, pump the brakes

Ninsimp

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Simptex?

[killamajig]

Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but I prefer to wait until the second date before asking about her ovulation times.

[Snoopy]

I was just stopping by to say that Apple TV are selling Anora for £5 this weekend. Queer with Daniel Craig is on sale as well, and so is Fatal Attraction. So all bases covered I suppose.

[Nintex]

Well here we go. Single mom arc. 31F. Data analyst.

Open about how she ended up where she is and I've been too. Kind of a rebel and overthinker like me. In the same boat as me dating wise too, nothing much clicking or the other party not open to click. I'm not the worst dater apparently, she had dates where the guy could barely speak. Some can hardly keep a chat going.

Her office is pretty close to mine. She didn't outright say it but I have a feeling she didn't just see me on the app. She looks sort of familiar. Next week we're gonna do a walk/lunch. She also meets my condition for dating single moms, she has a game plan on how to make time to date if it works out on the 1st date. Her oldest kid is 4 and they stay at their father every other weekend and on some weekdays too. She didn't mind answering my questions and I didn't mind answering hers so there's not a bunch of question marks going into the date this time. 

It's funny how we were just discussing how most of these chats are platonic and I finally found one that isn't. She's mostly looking for a date where we're both like: "Yessss" and end up dating a while with passion, love, romance. From her side she thinks that'll happen because well, she's very attracted to me. She wanted to make sure I was into her as well though so I complimented her tits and some other things and "finally a real man, let's have lunch "

[Polident]

I had fun feeding birds in the park. Good lord I feel old.

[Nintex]

Send 33F a closing message for now. 

Too much overthinking. Wished her good luck finishing her studies. She has my number and knows how I see things. Should've been the original message in hindsight.

People I told/showed said she shouldn't have dated and pull me into her gf/bf experience without telling me.

So now I can move on from this one.

[Uncle]

I had fun feeding birds in the park. Good lord I feel old.

see it's ok to enjoy watching weirdo birds but feeding them shows a lot of intention, you have to buy the birdseed and plan to take it somewhere and that just crosses a line

[Nintex]

Well 31F is Femtex and yes my friends are as scared as you are.

Not sure how it is possible but she is. From looking very good in a red dress in a pic she just send me to being a fan of alternative world movies like The Matrix and not eating cheese. Also not into mainstream politics. She questions everything. So I hit her with the ultimate Nintex: "are we living in a simulation?" and well, she loves that. It's her favorite question that she ponders A LOT. 

Even our texting method. Rapid fire barrage texting of 300 topics responding 5 texts late but still understanding what text the response is for. It's insanity. And she's a data analyst, she sees it too, in fact she notices even more things why we match than me.

She has decided that we will have a drink and a bite on friday to 'verify' but basically asked me to clear out the weekend. She says she didn't want to be overbearing and that usually most people want at least a few days between the first and second date but with that she said, she answered her own question on how I would feel about it. 

[Rendle]

[Uncle]

living in a simulation I think implies there's a real version of whatever the thing is, like that tree over there is a simulation of a real tree which is outside this simulation somewhere, and I don't there's any guarantee of that

we do definitely live inside a representation of some kind of reality, which may look nothing like the world of the being running our software

[who is ted danson?]

living in a simulation I think implies there's a real version of whatever the thing is, like that tree over there is a simulation of a real tree which is outside this simulation somewhere, and I don't there's any guarantee of that

we do definitely live inside a representation of some kind of reality, which may look nothing like the world of the being running our software

We're living in a simulation run by the Iranian AI which won WW4

[Polident]

Lesser spoken about concept is Mouse’s theory on chicken and the makers fucking up some code. So the real trees could be the size of tulips but some 4D-retard accidentally scaled it up. Likewise, there are conspiracies about some mountains being trunks of giga trees that used to stretch into the atmosphere. Maybe they issued a patch and were stuck with fucked up trees for balance reasons. Like how knife in CoD isn’t one hit kill anymore.

[Nintex]

Femtex bailed, because well she's Femtex. She wanted more pics, one of me with a more diverse leftie group gave her the ick.

She can't outright say it tho but she instantly bailed on it.

Send her a text that I'm red pilled up to the White House but it’s a take it or leave it kind of deal. If not I wished her the best.

If she truely is Femtex that'll work


Another wild arc.


Do I feel bad about it, well she's Femtex so she'll be fine or she was truely racist. So not really.

These women are all so fickle, one little thing can tick them off into the "I don't think this'll work. Sorry." zone.

But yeah it takes me about 1 hour to get over them now.

And new ones keep popping up. 30F, red hair, sigma stare, looks wise apart from lacking a rack pretty much my type 

[Eric Cartman]

living in a simulation I think implies there's a real version of whatever the thing is, like that tree over there is a simulation of a real tree which is outside this simulation somewhere, and I don't there's any guarantee of that

we do definitely live inside a representation of some kind of reality, which may look nothing like the world of the being running our software

                Platos cave?
                /

[Nintex]

Well a strange but possibly very interesting match.

32F bubbly Latina

We connect in a lot of ways. She's kind of in the same boat as me. Dates that are called off or dates that remain purely platonic or in the friendzone. And we're both in a lack of casual dating experience camp. She's latina, she's passionate, so the entire idea of quickies behind a gym turn her off. curvy but curvy in all the right places too. 

She had a confession to make. I said: "You have a kid". And she thought I was some kind of jedi mind reader  

But that was it, a 4 year old kid that she'd rather keep out of it for now. For most guys that was a dealbreaker. She's looking for 'me time' basically. Fun dates, Netflix and chill. Not a long term relationship necessarily but not just booty calls either, she is looking for 'balance' and more or less an FWB but an intelligent one. Her break up story is ResetEra like. She got attacked, the guy was more traumatized than she was and afterwards he wasn't there to support her. So she had to go through all the trials alone. 

On wednesday she's gonna hop on her bike (she's one town over) to see if we can make this work. 

Anyway I learned my lesson. I told her to focus on the here and now on our date and leave out all the heavy things we discussed over the chat. We both know about them so there won't be any great secrets hanging over us like I had with 33F. We sure connected on it though, she took care of her grandma for 7 years, I looked after my parents. She has astma same as me, but apparently there are cats that don't shed hairs. But I know from previous dates that it'll get in the way of the romance. Unlike our favorite champagne.

But we both also realize that this FWB arrangement could get serious quick, because I'm the guy that does offer support and well she's just really into strong men with that type of zeal. For now that's not the intention so she has started to call me "Papi" and I said: "Whatever floats your boat or those milkers" and she said "Si papi "