Random Talk

[Nintex]

I bought these today



More stylish than the Nikes I currently wear. I have sports shoes and fancy leather shoes and these are a great option in between. Tried some Boss shoes first but they didn't fit well. My foot size is 9 - 9.5. Girl that helped me out had the same 'half size' problem so we tried a few things like different soles and tighter laces but it didn't work.

Asked her about the fashion trends and she was excited to share. She said loafers are going to be a big fashion thing this summer but it was best to wait until those new models are actually out. New Balance / Adidas is more popular than Nike now. Be careful with the bright colors trend though, clothing trend is natural colors like light blue, broken white, light brown etc. so you'll box yourself in with bright green or purple shoes, they don't match with anything.  

She liked my style, Calvin Klein shirt, fancy Mango pants, Icon Amsterdam socks, Nike shoes were ok but the Hilfgers are definitely an upgrade.

[killamajig]

were theses out of stock?



But according to the sketch, I think some Era members must have these shoes. They like to state things that aren't true but repeat them until the rest of Era believes them.

[Polident]

Used to wear 2E shoes but over time I think I’ve become 4E. Barefoot shoes are great for the wide toe box. Not so much the zero cushion flatness. Problem is I’m on the cusp of too large shoe sizes here, and limited further by needing wider. There are two or three recommended shops that sell larger sizes I should probably visit. Definitely a little jealous and bitter that a good 90% of people wear new balance. Rest are in dress shoes or bizarre romper stompers with four inches of sole.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

Let be real, if I show up in drip that makes drip, and I have 6 in stilettos on my feet. Whose gonna come at me? Tilda, Conan?

[DavidCroquet]

I’m jealous of you balding folks. I keep my hair long, but really aspire to a specific drunken slob vibe that requires some top-of-head thinness.

I saw it in a french movie once and can’t find it now.

[Nintex]

By accident I found my Bumble match on LinkedIn.

I was checking something for an AI we're going to build for the Dutch public broadcasting and there she was because she's one of the top people there. I know what she is hiding on Bumble with the weird angles in her pictures now and if that's all it is it makes sense. It's pretty sad that she has to but on the apps it would be killing. 

The poor girl seems to have had cleft lip surgery. Even though it's a fairly minor scar you can still see it. I pretty much puzzled together it was something with her mouth from the angles already but now I've got confirmation.

Not a dealbreaker for me. In fact I think it gives her more character, like a battle scar written and directed by Hideo Kojima. Not sure if her LinkedIn pic is recent but if it is. She is legit hot with big bright anime eyes.


No wonder she hates dating apps, is not focused on looks and is not a people person. Must've been bullied a lot by the chuds and sluts and that's why she likes my dark humor, especially at the expense of other people. I thought I took it too far when I ridiculed all the kardashian lips and plastic dolls I've seen on the app so I changed topics but she must've loved that. 

But yeah Dutch public broadcasting? MAGA ain't gonna fly.

Poor girl must be all nervous, "will he mind my defect when he sees me like the other guys?"

[BIONIC]

[MMaRsu]

[killamajig]

Hopefully, I will be visiting LA. this summer I haven't been back since 2004. I miss having all the activities in one place, especially after living here in Mayberry with a population of 1011.

I have a friend out there, and I'll have to convince her to do all the dumb touristy stuff I didn't get to do when I lived there. I was there for a year and didn't even swim in the Pacific. All the locals told me most the stuff wasn't worth it, but almost 25 years later, I still wish I'd seen and done all that stupid stuff.  

Like, my co worker said the Tar Pits are for school kids but I've seen vids now and wish I didn't listen to that guy.

I did do a lot of hiking around Mt Baldy and Timber Mt. tho. (where Julian Sands died )  I didn't go in the winter like he did. But I did make a rookie mistake. One time I was going to push myself and decided to summit two different mountains in one day. (they were close together so not that big of a deal) but I was behind schedule and decided I would still go for it. It gets dark real quick, real soon when the sun goes behind a mountain. I thought I'd have a little more daylight but didn't account for the other giant mountain West of me. And no flashlight cuz of course I planned everything correctly. Except for that mountain and my vehicle being in a valley. Once I found a decent trail I made it back to my Jeep.

Anywho, I'm taking ideas on what to do in Southern California and I thought I would take pictures of those things that I do and post them here. So I'm taking suggestions. 

I don't have any real schedule so it doesn't matter where it is, really. As long as it's interesting. Even anything on the way cuz I'm driving out there from Wisconsin. Being disabled with no job and no family. I'm starting to go a little nuts and I thought this would give me something to do.

[Polident]

Just made the connection that I’ve been treating Google Maps like an ubisoft game. Full of waypoints to visit and switching the icon after I have. Sickening realization. You don’t even get achievements in real life.

[Nintex]

She's dying to know what my favorite movie is that has her favorite music.
I gave her a hint but that's the carrot on a stick for saturday.

She's very busy these past few days but I appreciate she tunes in every day or so to send a few messages.

[Nintex]

My hint was: "It's a movie about bowling"

[she will never know this  - no chick I've ever talked to has seen this film, at best she'll think this is a cryptic hint for the Fast & Furious with the rolling ball]

*instant reply* "The Big Lebowski?"

 

"But Nintex, what is the song..."

"Oye Como Va"

"Yaaaay such a beautiful song  "

I haven't told her yet that it plays right after Walter trashes the car and they drive home. Considering she's anti-materialistic she'll love that detail. 

It's been 7 days now and I'm not sure if its both of us being dreamy pisces or that she's younger but unlike the black woman who managed to last 3 - 4 days before flaming out this girl can easily keep up with me. And while she has been busy she keeps coming back for more. What kept it alive I think is that when she was busy and started apologizing for not responding I simply told her it was no problem and I looked forward to our date. That made her more confident to reply when she felt like it without having to apologize if she responded hours later or in the morning.

When we first started chatting she mentioned how she was tired of all the what she called heavy conversations and negativity and I can tell I've definitely cheered her up since. If I keep it light, fun but engaging enough it should be smooth sailing to our date.

[Potato]

You're dating a trans dude.

I refuse to believe any woman has ever cared for The Big Lebowski.

[BIONIC]

“Dating”

[Nintex]

Omg my co-workers made a birthday message from Trump for me with AI 

[killamajig]

My hint was: "It's a movie about bowling"

[she will never know this  - no chick I've ever talked to has seen this film, at best she'll think this is a cryptic hint for the Fast & Furious with the rolling ball]

*instant reply* "The Big Lebowski?"

 

"But Nintex, what is the song..."

"Oye Como Va"

"Yaaaay such a beautiful song  "

I haven't told her yet that it plays right after Walter trashes the car and they drive home. Considering she's anti-materialistic she'll love that detail. 

It's been 7 days now and I'm not sure if its both of us being dreamy pisces or that she's younger but unlike the black woman who managed to last 3 - 4 days before flaming out this girl can easily keep up with me. And while she has been busy she keeps coming back for more. What kept it alive I think is that when she was busy and started apologizing for not responding I simply told her it was no problem and I looked forward to our date. That made her more confident to reply when she felt like it without having to apologize if she responded hours later or in the morning.

When we first started chatting she mentioned how she was tired of all the what she called heavy conversations and negativity and I can tell I've definitely cheered her up since. If I keep it light, fun but engaging enough it should be smooth sailing to our date.

I thought it would be..


The OG version



And if that drummer looks familiar it might be because..
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mickey_Jones
https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0428856/

[Nintex]

Welp she was getting cold feet and nearly broke it off on my birthday. 


A sudden mood swing. Said she didn't want to waste my time. It was vague but she had to be honest and follow her feelings.

Barely managed to keep her on board. I'm pretty sure it's her past or the lip thing. Told her that whatever it is that’s bothering her we'd find a solution. Also offered to tell her my story so she'd realize there is more to me. Closed up by telling her to sleep on it. 

"People should look out for eachother and be more compassionate"
*forgets my birthday*

Hopefully her mood swings the other way tommorow or it might've been a test to see how I deal with rejection.
Women. 

[Uncle]

nintex with his birthday girlfriend

[chronovore]

Those things are so chaotic.

[Potato]

Welp she was getting cold feet and nearly broke it off on my birthday. 


A sudden mood swing. Said she didn't want to waste my time. It was vague but she had to be honest and follow her feelings.

Barely managed to keep her on board. I'm pretty sure it's her past or the lip thing. Told her that whatever it is that’s bothering her we'd find a solution. Also offered to tell her my story so she'd realize there is more to me. Closed up by telling her to sleep on it. 

"People should look out for eachother and be more compassionate"
*forgets my birthday*

Hopefully her mood swings the other way tommorow or it might've been a test to see how I deal with rejection.
Women. 

Bail dude. She's gonna be hard work.

[Nintex]

It has been too platonic and shallow, so I kind of see her point. My plan was to just hop off that train and give her a big hug, she'd either be cold and distant or embrace me and that's when I would know. I've set out 3 topics I want to talk about to see if we can close the gap between us in a different way.

My story and background, our dreams and intentions and finally that we're both in our 30's and despite my galaxy brain and writing skills the whole thing wouldn't make anyone wet so far and I want it to be more exciting, romantic or simply help her relief the tension after a long day of hard work.

Then she can decide if she's willing to invest a few evenings, which is a little effort for a long term relationship. I wanted to keep it for the IRL date but after talking to some folks that's not how it works anymore. They want security, safety, assurance, intentions etc. before the date especially after they had a few bad experiences. She's also a bit of an introvert WFH type. But I also put down the gauntlet that I want things to be fun and passionate, I'm looking for a lover not just a friend. Which either pulls her in more or turns her off completely. Whatever the case she knows what to expect.

Overall despite it being Bumble I need to take the lead on this thing, women just can't do it. She liked me but she never said why she liked me. 
I think that guidance and clarity is what she's looking for and also a little more spice but she's just unable to turn our chit chat into anything meaningful herself.
At this point I have nothing to lose so I might as well try. The date might still go bust but at least I've reached another milestone.  

If it doesn't work out I'll probably put the serious dating thing on the apps on the back burner or timebox it until after my trip to Canada. Meanwhile I'll just keep lifting and improving my pics for potential Netflix as background noise hook-ups and now that I'm over 35 I might also lift the single mom ban and up the age limit to 40 for those hook-ups.

[MMaRsu]

Thats why a lot of chatting is absolutely useless and a total waste of your time

You just gotta keep it short and simple and set up a coffee date first and see if there is a physical connection

if not, bail

Not all this talk about whats your favorite movie and shit fuck all that

[Cauliflower Of Love]

women, only once.

[Nintex]

That's how we kicked it off but she delayed a week. We went from hi to date in 5 or 6 messages.

But she wasn't into radio silence for ~2 weeks.

She can also decide that we should talk about those things in person after all. If she doesn't want to it's her loss. I just don't think it's fair to her that she thinks she's wasting my time because I was looking forward to our date. She pre-emptively called it quits, so I wouldn't.

Oh well I'll know where we stand in a couple of hours.

[BIONIC]

If she doesn't want to it's her loss.

[who is ted danson?]

That's how we kicked it off but she delayed a week. We went from hi to date in 5 or 6 messages.

But she wasn't into radio silence for ~2 weeks.

She can also decide that we should talk about those things in person after all. If she doesn't want to it's her loss. I just don't think it's fair to her that she thinks she's wasting my time because I was looking forward to our date. She pre-emptively called it quits, so I wouldn't.

Oh well I'll know where we stand in a couple of hours.

He's dead, isn't he?

[Nintex]

She has thought about it but decided to call it quits. She did greatly appreciate the message.

And at the same time I got a new Bumble match, 36F.

"Strong woman with the grace of a giraffe on rollerscates."



It's cool that the profile works for the 30-somethings now though.

[Nintex]

Got another match 37F

Asked her why she liked me. "you have a nice appearance"

Don't think this will go anywhere though. She has 3 animals, not gonna work with my asthma long term so it would be a casual thing. 
Also 37 and in terms of looks, well not great not terrible.

[Nintex]

Well I've got a new date. Me and 36F are going to dinner in my town this Saturday. She likes my town, her grandparents used to live there.
She liked my line about the options being a guy that watches football, a boring cyclist or me. That one is a chick magnet.

"Why did you like me?"

"Woah mister, fishing for compliments already. Alright alright, how about just a handsome guy and you look smart and ambitious?"

She's hella fast like me. 
"I love the speed sometimes it goes slow and there's 3 days between messages"

"Well Nintex, if I'm working tommorow don't expect too much from me"

"The fact that you said this is +1 for me. I'm free on Saturday and I see you like good food."

"Hahahah lucky you I'm free too"

[...]

"Any dietary wishes or allergies?"

"I don't eat cheese "

"me neither"

"Hahaha Ok sold"

"Do you think this is a record from match to date?"

"I think so, for me it is. Let me know the where and when. I'm off to bed!"

She likes my town, she hates cheese, we both like a little peace and quiet away from work and Mr. Brightside is our favorite The Killers song.
This one doesn't allow me to overthink which might be just what I need but at every turn she was like: "damn, you really are that smart and witty" 

She's a food and beverage manager in hospitality. Maybe that's the key, not 2 galaxy brains. 

What does she look like? Well literally the mid 7 and in each picture on her profile she's well equipped with ballistics 

Spoiler:  (click to show)(click to hide)

What a crazy fucking day

[Potato]

Dutch and you don't eat cheese.



Also, dude, go on a fucking date already. We're bored of the foreplay.