09-19-2025, 08:52 PM
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I was talking to my wife about this Jimmy Kimmel thing and accidentally reminded myself that late night talk show hosts are just the most massive drama queens imaginable. Remember when Conan got booted from being Leno's successor? People online were acting like Leno committed a genocide against Conan O'Brian. This kinda shit goes back to Johnny Carson, right?
With the way people are acting online, you'd be forgiven for thinking that a 22-year-old ideologically motivated sniper assassinated Jimmy Kimmel at 200 yards during a public appearance...now it makes more sense sense.
Anyway I think the more apt comparison for Kimmel is actually Bill Maher, who also once faced network consequences for saying indelicate things. And look at us, 20 years later. America still alive and kicking, free speech still speechin', Bill Maher bigger than ever. Things are actually lookin' up for ol' Jimmy K!
(09-19-2025, 08:33 PM)jorma wrote: (09-19-2025, 05:26 PM)Switters wrote: Pictured: What happens when B-Dubs is subpoenaed by congress for running a hate site.
![[Image: Mywi4Qz.png]](https://i.imgur.com/Mywi4Qz.png)
Josh Hawley: so.. you have an admin on your site called nep-nep, is that correct? Did i get that right?
B-dubs: oh shit

That could eventually lead them here, but if I see “This is the post that prevents office” on cspan I’ll have a stroke.
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(09-19-2025, 07:35 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/sarah-mcbride-voted-yes-on-resolution-honoring-the-life-and-legacy-of-charlie-kirk.1302900/
excelsiorlef, post: 145384911, member: 330 wrote:https://clerk.house.gov/evs/2025/roll282.xml
Notably Pelosi did not, she voted present, and a bunch of Dems actually voted no because the game at play here is obvious
Now McBride wasn't alone even Jeffries voted for it
But for a trans person to vote yay on this:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/house-resolution/719/text?s=2&r=4&q=%7B%22search%22%3A%22Charlie+Kirk%22%7D
Is beyond disqualifying
It's a glazing of Kirk with barely anything actually about condemning violence
It's a farce
Fuck why did the first trans congress woman have to be so without spine

Nepenthe, post: 145389750, member: 1995 wrote:Merely being minoritized in some way does not mean you have the principles and/or the convictions necessary to fight for a world liberated from the very systems that minoritize you. Subsequently, shielding individuals from critique of their inability to uphold their duties to their constituents just because they're a minority is the same feckless liberalism that has led us into this political situation. Now is not the time for spared feelings.
When does the "Why do I have to go to Charlie Squirts vigil what did he ever do for me? Did you hear his wife cheated on him with a n" tape leak.
(09-19-2025, 08:52 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/windows-central-tariffs-bite-xbox-fans-even-harder-as-microsoft-again-increases-xbox-series-x-s-prices-in-the-us.1302888/page-4#post-145385940
BrucCLea13k87, post: 145385940, member: 15061 wrote:Go ahead, defend your genocidal corporate overlords
![[Image: giphy.gif]](https://media3.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeTg4YXV6bHFwYmQwbHhwbGxjaTlhbHV0YmtrajJtN3MxczN6cWdzYSZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/l3fQf1OEAq0iri9RC/giphy.gif) Nintex cancels GamePass
Xbox goes up $50
Nintex remains undefeated
(09-19-2025, 09:22 PM)Jansen wrote: Nepenthe, post: 145389750, member: 1995 wrote:Merely being minoritized in some way does not mean you have the principles and/or the convictions necessary to fight for a world liberated from the very systems that minoritize you. Subsequently, shielding individuals from critique of their inability to uphold their duties to their constituents just because they're a minority is the same feckless liberalism that has led us into this political situation. Now is not the time for spared feelings. I've said it once before at least, but I am still trying to resist Nepenthe-posting. But my god, does she make it difficult.
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(09-19-2025, 09:43 PM)DavidCroquet wrote: (09-19-2025, 09:22 PM)Jansen wrote: Nepenthe, post: 145389750, member: 1995 wrote:Merely being minoritized in some way does not mean you have the principles and/or the convictions necessary to fight for a world liberated from the very systems that minoritize you. Subsequently, shielding individuals from critique of their inability to uphold their duties to their constituents just because they're a minority is the same feckless liberalism that has led us into this political situation. Now is not the time for spared feelings. I've said it once before at least, but I am still trying to resist Nepenthe-posting. But my god, does she make it difficult.
Now is not the time for spared feelings. I say unto you, now is the time for declaration. Declaration, whether your silence lay in silk or whether it be the tinder that ignites the conflagration of the soul. Will you stand up and fig
....LAAAAURENNNNN THE MEATLOAF IS READY. COME DOWN
Mother. I am in the middle of something.
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(09-19-2025, 09:13 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/disney-plus-subscribers-quit-in-droves-over-jimmy-kimmel-axe.1302969/
Probably less than 1% of their subscribers
Dude with Goof Troop Pete pfp
Quote:The hard part for me is convincing my disney adult sister to not go to the parks
Lot of  in that thread.
(09-19-2025, 08:34 PM)Gameboy Nostalgia wrote: I hope Blueballs is okay. . 
I heard he landed quite a shot last week
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Spiderman/s/W3Q3TK16w6
Quote:I don’t like him but cancelling the show is insane, other guy was a n@z! without power, he had no empathy just like a facist, and the way americans show him like a hero figure is disgusting, I trully hope those facist never gain power because I like to remind you no one realize who is facist until they have the power in their hands, I wish americans a better fulture
Since when was using the word nazi censorship?
this is just the internet I think. Lots of people modify how they spell certain words because they think they're fooling...the algorithm? or something?
see: eggs, unalive, grape, pdf, etc.
I'm assuming these brain geniuses also presume that talking bad about "n4žy"s is something the the algorithm is going to shadowban them for or whatever.
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(09-19-2025, 08:52 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/windows-central-tariffs-bite-xbox-fans-even-harder-as-microsoft-again-increases-xbox-series-x-s-prices-in-the-us.1302888/page-4#post-145385940
BrucCLea13k87, post: 145385940, member: 15061 wrote:Go ahead, defend your genocidal corporate overlords
![[Image: giphy.gif]](https://media3.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeTg4YXV6bHFwYmQwbHhwbGxjaTlhbHV0YmtrajJtN3MxczN6cWdzYSZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/l3fQf1OEAq0iri9RC/giphy.gif)
Banned.
Not slick at all trying to hide that white supremacy symbol there in the gif usage.
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(09-19-2025, 10:39 PM)Gameboy Nostalgia wrote: (09-19-2025, 08:52 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/windows-central-tariffs-bite-xbox-fans-even-harder-as-microsoft-again-increases-xbox-series-x-s-prices-in-the-us.1302888/page-4#post-145385940
BrucCLea13k87, post: 145385940, member: 15061 wrote:Go ahead, defend your genocidal corporate overlords
![[Image: giphy.gif]](https://media3.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeTg4YXV6bHFwYmQwbHhwbGxjaTlhbHV0YmtrajJtN3MxczN6cWdzYSZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/l3fQf1OEAq0iri9RC/giphy.gif)
Banned.
Not slick at all trying to hide that white supremacy symbol there in the gif usage.
Holy crap, I didn't realize that til you pointed it out
(09-19-2025, 10:15 PM)DavidCroquet wrote: this is just the internet I think. Lots of people modify how they spell certain words because they think they're fooling...the algorithm? or something?
see: eggs, unalive, grape, pdf, etc.
I'm assuming these brain geniuses also presume that talking bad about "n4žy"s is something the the algorithm is going to shadowban them for or whatever.
( \_/ |\/|
we've been criticizing them for their hypocritical worship of all things disney for like a decade
for me, ever since disney partnered with china, filming mulan within eyeshot of an actually-genocided uyghur concentration camp
and james kimmel is what finally does it, of all things
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09-19-2025, 11:31 PM
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(09-19-2025, 09:22 PM)Jansen wrote: Nepenthe, post: 145389750, member: 1995 wrote:Merely being minoritized in some way does not mean you have the principles and/or the convictions necessary to fight for a world liberated from the very systems that minoritize you. Subsequently, shielding individuals from critique of their inability to uphold their duties to their constituents just because they're a minority is the same feckless liberalism that has led us into this political situation. Now is not the time for spared feelings. If only McBride, Congressperson from the only Union slave state, had voted against this meaningless resolution we'd have inched ever closer to the world liberated from capitalism, colonialism and white supremacy we all deserve. But organize to vote against Donald Trump for the Presidency of the United States? Fuck off colonizer.
taurusBell wrote:I'm propably going back to piracy until these fuckers go away or give up. Is Netflix in good standing? As an European I am missing some of the news and headlines
plagiarize wrote:Have you heard of WWE and Dave Chapelle? I mean everyone needs to make their own choices but I dropped Netflix a while back and only just dropped Disney+ et al today.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/disney-plus-subscribers-quit-in-droves-over-jimmy-kimmel-axe.1302969/page-2#post-145391886
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(09-19-2025, 11:51 PM)kaleidoscopium wrote: taurusBell wrote:I'm propably going back to piracy until these fuckers go away or give up. Is Netflix in good standing? As an European I am missing some of the news and headlines
plagiarize wrote:Have you heard of WWE and Dave Chapelle? I mean everyone needs to make their own choices but I dropped Netflix a while back and only just dropped Disney+ et al today.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/disney-plus-subscribers-quit-in-droves-over-jimmy-kimmel-axe.1302969/page-2#post-145391886

ResetEra still haven't banned WWE
09-20-2025, 12:09 AM
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It's so funny how they make all these grandstands about casting out the sinners over the slightest offense but just blindly consume for eons until there's some incident that garners enough attention for them to notice and they feel they need to signal their purity about. Then they suddenly seem to know all the offenses the company or person has always done and they ignored until then.
I definitely don't want people to forget that B-Dubs said there's sexual assault and criminal sexual harassment happening at every video game developer yet they continue to not only run a platform dedicated to this criminal industry but they won't even ban a company they accuse of actively carrying out and funding a genocide. These people are claiming to be moral paragons because they'll cancel (either metaphorically or literally) something for symbolic purposes while looking the other way on actual no-shit serious crimes without any kind of discussion about it.
(09-19-2025, 09:50 PM)Propagandhim wrote: (09-19-2025, 09:43 PM)DavidCroquet wrote: (09-19-2025, 09:22 PM)Jansen wrote: I've said it once before at least, but I am still trying to resist Nepenthe-posting. But my god, does she make it difficult.
Now is not the time for spared feelings. I say unto you, now is the time for declaration. Declaration, whether your silence lay in silk or whether it be the tinder that ignites the conflagration of the soul. Will you stand up and fig
....LAAAAURENNNNN THE MEATLOAF IS READY. COME DOWN
Mother. I am in the middle of something.
I read that in Bane Voice.
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Nepenthe shits on the Silksong git gud thread:
Nep wrote:I think this diminishes other mediums and gaming as well, but on two different fronts.
Gamers like to commonly describe, say, books and movies as passive and games as active simply on the fact that games require manual input from the audience to progress through the experience. But I would also say that the implication of passivity- that books, films, visual art, etc.- are just feeding you the context is indicative of how much general audiences' abilities to critically engage with traditional works have degraded within our social media-addled, friction-adverse society. If your mind isn't on, if you are distracted, not thinking, or just too naive or ignorant to understand the greater cultural, political, or artistic subtext of a work, then I'd argue that you're not actually experiencing it within a meaningful way.
Yes, you can sit there and have images or words flash by your eyes, but that means nothing in terms of whether or not you mentally and emotionally engaged in the work (which is the point,) whether you are truly comprehending it. If the light isn't on, if you just consume it and leave so fast you can't even give a basic plot summary or an opinion beyond "it was fine," or, worse, conclude that people who did actually engage are taking it too seriously because "it's not that deep," then what was the point? Reading and watching art are active activities too in a similar way as performing mathematics is.
Subsequently, sometimes this does mean that people are locked out of a traditional work. If a movie or book is too esoteric, too verbose, too abstract, or hell if it's not even translated into a language you understand or a medium you can physically interact with within your given ability, you're screwed. You can't "experience" it even in terms of just basic interaction of understanding the plot. But we're okay with not watching some Russian film from the 50s with no subtitles or okay with the existence of Finnegans Wake, a book most people bail on because its form of English is nigh-on incomprehensible, but games must be accessible to every potential audience member in terms of challenge level? Why?
You touch on the answer with saying that "games are a product," which in turn is diminishing to the medium. Here the argument leaves the artist and their intentions as secondary to the act of commodification wherein games can never actually be art within a cultural sense because they are meant to be consumed by an audience in order to enrich capitalists, not grappled with or experienced as a conversation between artist and audience. One's ability to create what they want is ultimately trivialized by the fact that the audience is just made up of "paying customers" within a society wherein not just our power to change the landscape but our very humanity and sense of self and worth is reduced down to nothing more than purchasing power, and thus our demands for a satisfactory "product," a "commodity" that is "worth our money" should be considered sacrosanct over the artists wishes to create what is in their heart.
It is an attitude I do not jive with because it undergirds not only the innumerable contradictions present from being an artist within a capitalist framework but also the AI push wherein the act of creation has been considered irrelevant to the existence of a product, an act we have been doing since before the existence of large scale agriculture, and it is pitiable to me.
This is not to say that you cannot dislike, be frustrated, or critique Silksong's difficulty level or the ways in which it structures that difficulty. I imagine some level of frustration was a necessary emotion they wanted players to experience. But the fact that you believe that you putting down money for something you cannot finish is, in itself, a flaw the work is fundamentally disagreeable.
Beyond an adherence to safety and respect for labor, artists do not owe anyone anything in terms of how their work is made nor the difficulty in terms of experiencing it for the average person.
Compare her posts with anyone else defending difficulty in that thread.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/dexerto-hollow-knight-silksong-devs-address-difficulty-concerns-“you-have-choices”.1302201/page-12#post-145392744
Don't call yourself an "ally" if you won't arm up and fight back.
https://www.abc10.com/article/news/local/sacramento/abc10-station-struck-gunfire/103-b9973626-ecfd-4406-9c65-debc1c8f244b wrote:On Thursday, a group of protesters gathered outside the building in response to the ABC network suspending late-night host Jimmy Kimmel over remarks about conservative activist Charlie Kirk's assassination.
The station had received numerous complaints.
(09-19-2025, 07:35 PM)Jansen wrote: https://www.resetera.com/threads/sarah-mcbride-voted-yes-on-resolution-honoring-the-life-and-legacy-of-charlie-kirk.1302900/
excelsiorlef, post: 145384911, member: 330 wrote:https://clerk.house.gov/evs/2025/roll282.xml
Notably Pelosi did not, she voted present, and a bunch of Dems actually voted no because the game at play here is obvious
Now McBride wasn't alone even Jeffries voted for it
But for a trans person to vote yay on this:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/house-resolution/719/text?s=2&r=4&q=%7B%22search%22%3A%22Charlie+Kirk%22%7D
Is beyond disqualifying
It's a glazing of Kirk with barely anything actually about condemning violence
It's a farce
Fuck why did the first trans congress woman have to be so without spine
 It's impressive how these regards manage to always take the wrong side of everything. Political violence is insanely unpopular across the board. Charlie Kirk himself was not violent. A celebration of life is ultimately harmless and meaningless. Literally just let the Rs have that moment and stay out of political crosshairs otherwise. The only thing that would possibly be affected here is being voted out for "taking a stand" over an otherwise innocuous gesture. Not the hill, or something.
(09-20-2025, 12:52 AM)benji wrote: Don't call yourself an "ally" if you won't arm up and fight back.
https://www.abc10.com/article/news/local/sacramento/abc10-station-struck-gunfire/103-b9973626-ecfd-4406-9c65-debc1c8f244b wrote:On Thursday, a group of protesters gathered outside the building in response to the ABC network suspending late-night host Jimmy Kimmel over remarks about conservative activist Charlie Kirk's assassination.
The station had received numerous complaints.
Blocking my ad blocker is an act of violence, ABC.
(09-20-2025, 12:52 AM)benji wrote: Don't call yourself an "ally" if you won't arm up and fight back.
https://www.abc10.com/article/news/local/sacramento/abc10-station-struck-gunfire/103-b9973626-ecfd-4406-9c65-debc1c8f244b wrote:On Thursday, a group of protesters gathered outside the building in response to the ABC network suspending late-night host Jimmy Kimmel over remarks about conservative activist Charlie Kirk's assassination.
The station had received numerous complaints.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/abc-sacramento-affiliate-station-hit-by-gunshots-police-say.1303131/
Resetera has learned nothing this past week and are calling it a maga attack.
Quote:Could easily be a MAGA person just trying to stir the pot.
Quote:I almost guarantee it's some MAGA scumfuck trying to make it look like a liberal did it. They've already shown how deranged and evil they are this past week.
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(09-20-2025, 12:51 AM)Boredfrom wrote: Nepenthe shits on the Silksong git gud thread:
Nep wrote:I think this diminishes other mediums and gaming as well, but on two different fronts.
Gamers like to commonly describe, say, books and movies as passive and games as active simply on the fact that games require manual input from the audience to progress through the experience. But I would also say that the implication of passivity- that books, films, visual art, etc.- are just feeding you the context is indicative of how much general audiences' abilities to critically engage with traditional works have degraded within our social media-addled, friction-adverse society. If your mind isn't on, if you are distracted, not thinking, or just too naive or ignorant to understand the greater cultural, political, or artistic subtext of a work, then I'd argue that you're not actually experiencing it within a meaningful way.
Yes, you can sit there and have images or words flash by your eyes, but that means nothing in terms of whether or not you mentally and emotionally engaged in the work (which is the point,) whether you are truly comprehending it. If the light isn't on, if you just consume it and leave so fast you can't even give a basic plot summary or an opinion beyond "it was fine," or, worse, conclude that people who did actually engage are taking it too seriously because "it's not that deep," then what was the point? Reading and watching art are active activities too in a similar way as performing mathematics is.
Subsequently, sometimes this does mean that people are locked out of a traditional work. If a movie or book is too esoteric, too verbose, too abstract, or hell if it's not even translated into a language you understand or a medium you can physically interact with within your given ability, you're screwed. You can't "experience" it even in terms of just basic interaction of understanding the plot. But we're okay with not watching some Russian film from the 50s with no subtitles or okay with the existence of Finnegans Wake, a book most people bail on because its form of English is nigh-on incomprehensible, but games must be accessible to every potential audience member in terms of challenge level? Why?
You touch on the answer with saying that "games are a product," which in turn is diminishing to the medium. Here the argument leaves the artist and their intentions as secondary to the act of commodification wherein games can never actually be art within a cultural sense because they are meant to be consumed by an audience in order to enrich capitalists, not grappled with or experienced as a conversation between artist and audience. One's ability to create what they want is ultimately trivialized by the fact that the audience is just made up of "paying customers" within a society wherein not just our power to change the landscape but our very humanity and sense of self and worth is reduced down to nothing more than purchasing power, and thus our demands for a satisfactory "product," a "commodity" that is "worth our money" should be considered sacrosanct over the artists wishes to create what is in their heart.
It is an attitude I do not jive with because it undergirds not only the innumerable contradictions present from being an artist within a capitalist framework but also the AI push wherein the act of creation has been considered irrelevant to the existence of a product, an act we have been doing since before the existence of large scale agriculture, and it is pitiable to me.
This is not to say that you cannot dislike, be frustrated, or critique Silksong's difficulty level or the ways in which it structures that difficulty. I imagine some level of frustration was a necessary emotion they wanted players to experience. But the fact that you believe that you putting down money for something you cannot finish is, in itself, a flaw the work is fundamentally disagreeable.
Beyond an adherence to safety and respect for labor, artists do not owe anyone anything in terms of how their work is made nor the difficulty in terms of experiencing it for the average person.
Compare her posts with anyone else defending difficulty in that thread.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/dexerto-hollow-knight-silksong-devs-address-difficulty-concerns-“you-have-choices”.1302201/page-12#post-145392744
Dismissing concerns of accessibility?
I came back just to point out that Ted Cruz has more integrity that most of Era. His side (the bad side), won a point but he doesn't think it's a good thing. Imagine the people on Era (good side), standing by their principles like that.
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/congress/ted-cruz-fcc-brendan-carr-jimmy-kimmel-threat-free-speech-rcna232496
Quote:Sen. Ted Cruz, R-Texas, blasted Federal Communications Commission Chair Brendan Carr on Friday for threats he made this week related to Jimmy Kimmel's show, calling the Trump administration official's actions "dangerous as hell."
“I think it is unbelievably dangerous for government to put itself in the position of saying we’re going to decide what speech we like and what we don’t, and we’re going to threaten to take you off air if we don’t like what you’re saying,” Cruz said on his podcast, "Verdict with Ted Cruz."
Yes, I find it somewhat repulsive for him to have a spine.
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Streets Ahead wrote:Of course his only concern is that this could be used against conservatives in the future and pretending like Trump hasn't been laying the groundwork to turn America into a permanent conservative helltopia.
That still makes him more intelligent and savvy than most of ERA.
09-20-2025, 01:06 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1nl3oa8/aita_for_not_forcing_my_daughter_to_talk_to_her/ wrote:My 14 year old daughter is a lesbian. She came out to me over a year ago and I have 100% fully supported her. My husband, her dad, has been clearly negative about all of the LGBTQ community since it became more prevalent in our lives (.i.e., when I was her age I knew next to nothing about the community). Nothing violent, but negative comments, saying it's wrong, getting disgusted if a gay couple is shown on TV, complaining about pride flags, etc. This has been as long as I've known him, and her entire life.
In a huge fight, she ended up telling him she had a girlfriend. He told her she wrong, that he hoped she'd "grow out of it" and that she would make a better choice. He also for some reason said there are countries where they kill gay people.
Obviously, even though she knew he wasn't going to be supportive as I was, this was too much to take - for both her and myself. She hasn't spoken to him since. It's been about three months. I am also very much angry with him and having issues myself and considering divorce (this is not the only reason, there has been a lot going on but this is something I am not sure I can ever forgive). He claims I should punish her for her not speaking to him; that I am to blame because I am "allowing" this disrespectful behavior, and I need to do something to make her talk to him. I feel it is not my problem to fix, and I refuse to punish my daughter for her feelings and for reacting to how her father made her feel. He has apologized to her and what not, and I have asked her what he needs to do to fix this (she says nothing), and I have also explained this isn't the healthiest way to handle it and also that she can't sustain this for ever. She currently feels no differently and refuses to say anything. So am I the asshole because I will not punish my daughter? Quote:Affectionate-Rush570
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NTA for not making your daughter speak to him. But kind of an asshole for still being married to a bigot, and by proxy subjecting your daughter to him.
Why are you still married to a bigot?
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Because divorce isn't black and white, and so complicated and I am not prepared or ready to take that step just yet.
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I’ve been divorced, this is just an excuse. You have had 3 months to sort out stuff but haven’t. Yes it can be complex but it’s not what’s stopping you from doing it. You are afraid. You need to put your fears aside and make your daughter’s safety and happiness a priority. That’s a mother’s job. You have already let her live in a house where she clearly isn’t welcome and is being threatened by her own father.
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10h ago
So you aren't prepared to show your daughter you actually care enough about her to protect her, got it.
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10h ago
Then you don’t love your daughter 🤷 sorry hun, we’re moms. It’s our job to protect our kids. Protect your damn kid.
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9h ago
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So screw your daughter’s safety or wellbeing because you personally don’t want to make your self mildly uncomfortable? Mom of the year over here
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8h ago
I wonder if your daughter has yet realized that you’re choosing comfort and simplicity over her safety? Don’t be surprised when your relationship changes because she realizes that your support is limited to things/events that won’t affect you directly.
At least figure out a way to get her to a safe place if you won’t join her. You chose to make a child with a bigot, so at least help her survive the next few years of the horrible situation you helped to create.
I’m mid-divorce, btw. It’s nowhere near the monster you suggest it is.
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6h ago
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It's been months, why TF haven't you been preparing?!
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2h ago
Smh ur horrible
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10h ago
YTA for staying married to a man who thinks your daughter being gay is a bad thing. Why are you married to a homophobe?
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11h ago
Why would you marry someone knowing that’s how he feels about an entire community? Honestly this is on you for choosing that as your life partner knowing there was a chance you could have a queer kid and this could be the result. NTA for sticking up for your daughter, but this all could’ve been avoided by not choosing a hate-filled bigot as a spouse.
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11h ago
NTA for protecting your daughter.
YTA for knowingly marrying an ignorant bigot, having a child with said bigot, and remaining married to him now.
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11h ago
She absolutely can sustain it because he’s trash. YTA because you knew that when you married him
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YTA for being complicit with a bigot to begin with. If you're married to one, you are one. You are not, in fact, 100% fully supportive of your daughter for subjecting her to your husband's vitriol; for teaching her by example to compromise your morals and tolerate hate. Divorce is the only way to be in right relationship with your daughter at this point.
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11h ago
Why did you marry him in the first place. Support your daughter, your husband is toxic.
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2h ago
Bc shes just like him
Listening and learning. 🙏
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