Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 2)

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/joe-rogan-defends-jeffrey-epstein-the-young-women-were-manipulating-the-men-for-their-connections.1429339/page-4#post-151058521

Why are the loudest voices on the internet also the most braindead?

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/anyone-else-been-disowned-discarded-by-their-family-for-failing-at-life.1429207/

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I don't usually have them but this morning I had a dream about my cousin and in it we were still friends,  a closeness which in reality has not existed anytime recently. Naturally when I woke up, I felt really uneasy.

Growing up and through the decades even we were so close but I haven't seen her in like 5 years and I haven't talked to her in over 14 months. I'll probably never know why she stopped caring about me, what I did to be discarded like a total stranger and I don't think it will ever not hurt. I mean I -do- understand on a psychological level yet still it baffles my dumb empath ass almost daily to the point that I actually wish there was something tangible I did that caused it because then I could at least understand. It would make sense, there would be closure. To add insult to injury she was always the only person in the family to have my back.

Hearing about other peoples families, man... I want to tell them I would give anything for that. Even just one single family member, one ounce of support. I don't because I don't want to make anyone else feel bad but when I explain my situation and familial relationships, they all say the same thing. " that is so fucked up, how could your FAMILY do that to you? What did you do?"

I don't have an answer for them, because my family doesn't have an answer for me.

My mother's response when I ask her variations of the following questions -  "what have I done?" "What have I done to make you hate me?" -  is always the same: "Nothing Matt. You've done nothing."

Okay, rando on the internet... Surely there IS something you did. Something you've omitted!

Nope. I'm kind, polite, giving. I'm not a criminal.  I had great relationships with that chunk of my family until my abusive ex cut me off from everyone for 5 years and I wasn't able to provide or take car of myself. I haven't stolen money to buy drugs or whatever like you would imagine it's like for most "tough love" scenarios. Hell, until now I've never talked shit or even had a negative thought about my cousin. Before all this she could have come to me in my situation and I would have said, no, fuck that, I have (at the time) a spareroom (she has two). Ill get you out here and make sure you're okay. They will just not lift a single finger....it's like it's rooted in resentment.

Recently in a thread someone mentioned the concept of "failure to launch," for the first time. But a few years ago  I coined the term "merit based love family" to describe the exact phenomenon, which, I've just learned is wholly cultural. And my family was certainly raised with this mentality and certainly applied it to me.

Bear in mind I have CPTSD diagnosed by multiple doctors covering multiple extended traumas. since 2021 I've been disabled and have spent the majority of the last 3 years in the backseat of car. My cousin meanwhile, is a officially a doctor, having finished her residency some time last year, now making a doctors salary in a practice somewhere in South Texas. No student loans, no car payment, no mortgage. School and house paid off by dad in advance. Her fiance, is in the financial sector and along with the rest of that side of the family  (my mom, who, by most global and domestic metrics is also rich, excluded) are actual multi- millionaires. Her dad is one of the most renowned doctors in the county where we grew up. A heart surgeon. Her stepdad is a banker. all these people have multiple properties, timeshares, super fancy boats, etc..my cousin, at 39, still got an allowed of  $3k a month from her dad, but I don't know it's still the case at 40 now that she is working. And of course she has plenty of time for Facebook and Instagram. Weekly she posts pics of her eating hundreds of dollars of sushi at Uber fancy Japanese restaurants. And yet the way she last told it when I asked her 8 months ago asking for money to eat, when shaming me in return from bothering her....she is poor, worse off than me. It's maximum guilt trips and gas lights.


Anyway, after the dream I reached out to her.. it was only the second time in a year and a half and I don't know why because I don't ever expect her to have a sudden change of heart or actually talk about the issue or be anything but annoyed. And to be honest I feel guilty about it knowing med school and residency are really really rough, but our ambiguous divorce is on my mind almost every day, and I don't know how many more years would pass if I waited for her to reach out to me.

The fucked up thing is that it's not even about the money. I have been in situations where I've had to do really depressing up stuff for money, and it takes on a new aura when you don't have any for so long. But on God, If I had to choose between money and love, I would choose love every time. I would trade what little I had left for a loving mother, even if we were beggars together on the street.

But there is no love. No compassion. Just "get a job" and deal with your issues yourself.

Thats all, that's the end of my thought.

TL;DR : My entire family are heartless narcissists, and it really sucks to not have anyone

Two responses.

[Propagandhim]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/would-you-watch-michael-bays-take-on-the-odyssey.1429096/#post-151030819

 

I like watching good directors, so no.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/lets-talk-about-how-amazing-need-for-speed-heats-story-is-huge-open-spoilers.153442/

I spent some time with my brother a couple of Saturdays ago watching him play games. After a few hilariously frustrating matches of Modern Warfare he booted up Need For Speed Heat. After a bit of playing, The Player and Ana are celebrating a win against the Speed Boys crew (lol), only to end with Ana's car being impounded by Officer Shaw....

I have never been so thoroughly angry at such a brazen abuse of police power in a video game before.

It wasn't just the impounding, because it's feasible he'd have gotten reports of her car during the race and thus have probable cause. But then Homeboy comes at The Player demanding ID, to which I said aloud "You don't owe him shit." But The Player complies. Upon answering some inquiry with "yes," he screams to correct you: "YES OFFICER!" before leveling a shit-eating grin at you. Coupled with his mocking attitude and the insults, it became unbearable.

"I hope he dies. Yo, Schultz--" My friend is also playing on another rig, "Does this dude die?"

"I don't know; I'm not that far into it."

"He literally needs to die."

My brother chimed in: "I am so...MAD."

This scene is eerily effective- from the establishment and abuse of power dynamics, to the naturalistic voice acting, to the low underscore- in a way that threw me off guard, like it was written by people with direct experience with bullshit police, and I needed to know the rest immediately. Once I got home I YouTubed the rest of the cutscenes and oh my god, I loved it.

First off, give it up to the Rivera siblings for being awesome. The first time you enter the garage and Lucas is setting up an appointment you are hit with their sense of history and personality: the driving awards, the decorative graffiti, and most importantly the family picture with a yellow Camaro on the table. When they're together, there's an appealing duality of love and conflict: Lucas is a passive dude who rebukes racing to run the garage while Ana is a feisty college dropout who wishes to uphold the family racing legacy (this dynamic is made all the more interesting because of the flipped gender representation in ostensibly traditional roles.) If they're not prodding each other over their life decisions, Lucas is probably smothering her with tempered, big-brother guardianship or embarrassing shows of affection in Spanish. It's adorable. However, things come to a tense head when she crashes the aforementioned Camaro trying to escape Shaw after a race, with Lucas insisting she needs to go back to school and Ana dismissing his advice as a cowardly has-been who is willing to throw away his talent and their legacy.

This is another scene that took me by surprise, because I didn't land squarely on Lucas' side despite understanding he was right. "He built this car to be raced!" asserts Ana. The awards on the counter and the town talk of the Riveras makes it clear that the father was as much a gearhead as the daughter, to say nothing of Lucas' previous guarantee into The League. So I could easily sympathize with Ana and her desire to not only race for her own self-fulfillment but to try and continue upholding their father's legacy, and Lucas' inability to recognize that spark in her. However, Lucas' retirement comes back to the front after the police chief Mercer realizes you and Ana were tipped off to the police's chop-shop operation. Mercer roughs up Lucas to try and exploit info out of him, only for you and Ana to run up on the scene and get arrested. Lucas breaks free and saves you from being murdered, seeking refuge in a secret garage he built up over the years as a safe space from his father, the broken relationship implied over the course of the game to have resulted from his own racing antics. It turns out their father had a heart attack the night he was jailed, and Lucas puts this on himself, believing the stress of his youth got to the old man and killed him.

"Well, that was...legitimately rough to get through— Why the fuck am I feeling this way over a Need For Speed Game?" Again, is this normal?

Anyway, things naturally get reconciled over the course of an adventurous series of races throughout Miami where the police are led by the street racers directly onto Mercer's operations, causing an unavoidable chain of backstabbing and clean-up.

Let's go back to the police. It's a given that NFS would not have a particularly darling view of cops, but the relationship between the police force, the street racers, and the public doesn't even seem at all exaggerated in an era of increased knowledge of police misconduct (civil forfeiture is a good comparison here) and the lack of ethical standards police are beholden to. While I wanted Shaw to die, and still kind of do, his behavior is emboldened from the top. As aforementioned, the police are running a chop shop by impounding the cars of any unlucky street racers who get busted. And yes, I know- street racing is dangerous, illegal, and not to be condoned- but the nature of the crime outstrips the punishment, which include racers being extorted for exorbitant amounts of money, run out of town, and threatened with murder. Contrast with Mercer's public persona, where practically every other day he's giving press conferences about "winning" in the "fight" to end street racing, wartime language that really only gets play with demographics least likely to suffer under the bootheel of police corruption. It's simultaneously disgusting and banal, with Ana hammering it home after her car is taken: "When I'm in my car, I got power — it's right there at my feet... But as soon as they say "step out of the vehicle, ma'am," THEY got the power, and I ain't got nothin'."

It also isn't lost on me that the two main villains as police, the ones who are thoroughly irredeemable, are white men beset in a town full of Hispanic/Latino and black residents. Hammering home American racial dynamics is the fact that your initial delve into the conspiracy is facilitated in part by Officer Torres, a Latina officer who watches the abuse from afar and does her best to temper the corruption before finally throwing her hands up. Heat doesn't just dislike cops. It states outright that once corruption is allowed to run wild, good cops and systemic channels of accountability are pretty much useless which- again- anyone with a hint of melanin in America should be aware of. It's also of note that only a minority on the force decides to break rank. Torres leaks information to you and, in the end, kills Mercer before assuming a newfound rank as police chief with the promise of continuing to crack down on street racing, just without all the stealing and extortion on top of it. You're also further assisted by Roshni, a black woman who is the sole developer of the police scanning app you've been using for communication and forewarning throughout the entire game. She shows up later and not only helps get you some Camaro parts, but is vital in unlocking a computer that stores the data concerning all of the stolen cars. Neat!

All in all, Need For Speed: Heat should not be slept on. It wasn't just it's ability to tell a fun adventure story with appealing characters, but to do so while skillfully weaving in themes regarding police corruption, race, and power into the workings of an arcade racing game that is relatable and worth commending. I was pleasantly surprised, I remain enthralled weeks after the fact, and I'm hoping like hell we return to Miami in the next installment with these same characters to see how Torres will lead the fight and how the Rivera siblings will respond to her department.
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Also there's no microtransactions. The game can't get anymore perfect.

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[Boredfrom]

Sorry you are going through this op. We don't choose the family we're born into, but we can choose who we surround ourselves with. Sounds like your family isn't worth being around and it sounds like you are better off without them, especially if they are narcissists.  Go out and find new relationships with people who will love and accept you for who you are.

I wouldn't focus on your cousin. If they've removed themselves from the relationship, let em go. I've had a few cousin ghost me for an unknown reason (trump lol) but fuck em. I didn't do anything wrong and haven't changed who I am. I can't control their actions. I wish them the best, but I never think about them. Why waste energy?

I hope your situation gets better. I hope you find that someone you can always count on. It's tough, but worth it. Good luck op.

[Lonewulfeus]

Always affirm, never challenge.

[Vertigo]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/xboxera-rebrand-to-dayone.1429177/page-4#post-151048720

No offense, but this is straight up untrue. There was no 'resentment' behind why we exist. It was founded in 2019, and there was a podcast thread here, on this forum.

I was never banned here (outside of a weird moment where I was given a break for sharing the link to the Card Game Kickstarter in the Kickstarter thread) and I am the owner of the company.

Do I think this forum is not particularly great place to chat about Xbox if you're a fan of the platform sometimes?

Yes. But it's merely reflective of the wider market.

Did I take advantage of the moment when people were loudly asking for a new forum? Also yes. Did the admin here kinda threaten legal action because of the XboxEra forum even existing? Also yes.

You presume a lot based on conjecture and hearsay. But don't go off spouting the work of the last 6+ years largely exists because of 'resentment'. It exists because of a love for video games. And no, the occasional hard to obtain Xbox review code is not a primary driver, good lord.

Wonder which admin threatened legal action and what grounds they think they had to sue.  Pretty ironic considering the way resetera started out though.

Bdumbs locked the thread, like a coward. I guest this post had his eyes bulging. 

The reason it was called XboxEra was because the Discord server was called that when we started. And the name just stuck. When we made a podcast, that's all it ever started as...was only when we started a forum - by mass request - did Resetera admin get 'cross' with us.

Considering the thread has slowly moved into the console wars and interpersonal drama, we're locking it.

Who was console warring? or getting personal? what a dumbfuck. His lucky Sikamikanico is a decent dude or he could have aired their asses out. I've been on their site and its chill, and you don't get banned for wrongthink or joking around.

Unlike the janitors on Reeeee who despise their userbase. B Dumbs can barely even hide it these days. What a spiteful site Reee is.

Also surprised this Bengraven comment skated past with no blow back 

Don't worry. This site doesn't have much time left itself. Lol.

[Boredfrom]

And no need for apologies! I like when people talk about games they like and are passionate about. We need more of that, yeah?

[killamajig]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/anyone-else-been-disowned-discarded-by-their-family-for-failing-at-life.1429207/

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I don't usually have them but this morning I had a dream about my cousin and in it we were still friends,  a closeness which in reality has not existed anytime recently. Naturally when I woke up, I felt really uneasy.

Growing up and through the decades even we were so close but I haven't seen her in like 5 years and I haven't talked to her in over 14 months. I'll probably never know why she stopped caring about me, what I did to be discarded like a total stranger and I don't think it will ever not hurt. I mean I -do- understand on a psychological level yet still it baffles my dumb empath ass almost daily to the point that I actually wish there was something tangible I did that caused it because then I could at least understand. It would make sense, there would be closure. To add insult to injury she was always the only person in the family to have my back.

Hearing about other peoples families, man... I want to tell them I would give anything for that. Even just one single family member, one ounce of support. I don't because I don't want to make anyone else feel bad but when I explain my situation and familial relationships, they all say the same thing. " that is so fucked up, how could your FAMILY do that to you? What did you do?"

I don't have an answer for them, because my family doesn't have an answer for me.

My mother's response when I ask her variations of the following questions -  "what have I done?" "What have I done to make you hate me?" -  is always the same: "Nothing Matt. You've done nothing."

Okay, rando on the internet... Surely there IS something you did. Something you've omitted!

Nope. I'm kind, polite, giving. I'm not a criminal.  I had great relationships with that chunk of my family until my abusive ex cut me off from everyone for 5 years and I wasn't able to provide or take car of myself. I haven't stolen money to buy drugs or whatever like you would imagine it's like for most "tough love" scenarios. Hell, until now I've never talked shit or even had a negative thought about my cousin. Before all this she could have come to me in my situation and I would have said, no, fuck that, I have (at the time) a spareroom (she has two). Ill get you out here and make sure you're okay. They will just not lift a single finger....it's like it's rooted in resentment.

Recently in a thread someone mentioned the concept of "failure to launch," for the first time. But a few years ago  I coined the term "merit based love family" to describe the exact phenomenon, which, I've just learned is wholly cultural. And my family was certainly raised with this mentality and certainly applied it to me.

Bear in mind I have CPTSD diagnosed by multiple doctors covering multiple extended traumas. since 2021 I've been disabled and have spent the majority of the last 3 years in the backseat of car. My cousin meanwhile, is a officially a doctor, having finished her residency some time last year, now making a doctors salary in a practice somewhere in South Texas. No student loans, no car payment, no mortgage. School and house paid off by dad in advance. Her fiance, is in the financial sector and along with the rest of that side of the family  (my mom, who, by most global and domestic metrics is also rich, excluded) are actual multi- millionaires. Her dad is one of the most renowned doctors in the county where we grew up. A heart surgeon. Her stepdad is a banker. all these people have multiple properties, timeshares, super fancy boats, etc..my cousin, at 39, still got an allowed of  $3k a month from her dad, but I don't know it's still the case at 40 now that she is working. And of course she has plenty of time for Facebook and Instagram. Weekly she posts pics of her eating hundreds of dollars of sushi at Uber fancy Japanese restaurants. And yet the way she last told it when I asked her 8 months ago asking for money to eat, when shaming me in return from bothering her....she is poor, worse off than me. It's maximum guilt trips and gas lights.


Anyway, after the dream I reached out to her.. it was only the second time in a year and a half and I don't know why because I don't ever expect her to have a sudden change of heart or actually talk about the issue or be anything but annoyed. And to be honest I feel guilty about it knowing med school and residency are really really rough, but our ambiguous divorce is on my mind almost every day, and I don't know how many more years would pass if I waited for her to reach out to me.

The fucked up thing is that it's not even about the money. I have been in situations where I've had to do really depressing up stuff for money, and it takes on a new aura when you don't have any for so long. But on God, If I had to choose between money and love, I would choose love every time. I would trade what little I had left for a loving mother, even if we were beggars together on the street.

But there is no love. No compassion. Just "get a job" and deal with your issues yourself.

Thats all, that's the end of my thought.

TL;DR : My entire family are heartless narcissists, and it really sucks to not have anyone

Two responses.

If only he were trans. Then he could get in on the circle jerk of affirming his bullshit by other like minded losers. 

Look at all the other balding men that grew out their hair and put on granny glasses, nothing but trans joy now.

[Boredfrom]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/japans-ultraconservative-pm-sanae-takaichi-set-for-a-big-election-victory.1429099/

I'm not conservative, but I find it funny that almost everyone in this thread is groaning about Japan being so conservative. I think voting for lefties wouldn't improve anything.

Japan already has some of the decent stuff the left supports, like a good public transport system, universal health care, gun control, a great education system, decent labor laws, legal abortion and I'm sure there's other stuff I'm forgetting. Their economy isn't great but the lefty position of giving everyone money would just increase inflation. Gay and lesbian rights could be a little better, but they're no way near what the US was before the 2000s. Also women in Japan have more rights than women in most Muslim countries.

Electing lefties would just lead to a flood of immigrants, which would lead to identity politics which would create more conflict in the country.

Nationalism is already identity politics.  

In any case, seems this is more about Korea/Japan/China sperg fighting rather than letting white or brown people in, at least to certain level. And is not like ERA didn’t celebrate discrimination when is about countries they don’t like.

[Jansen]

From Constructive 

[Hap Shaughnessy]

"If only I had the power to do anything about it" says the guy who runs the site.

[Lonewulfeus]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/xboxera-rebrand-to-dayone.1429177/page-4#post-151048720

No offense, but this is straight up untrue. There was no 'resentment' behind why we exist. It was founded in 2019, and there was a podcast thread here, on this forum.

I was never banned here (outside of a weird moment where I was given a break for sharing the link to the Card Game Kickstarter in the Kickstarter thread) and I am the owner of the company.

Do I think this forum is not particularly great place to chat about Xbox if you're a fan of the platform sometimes?

Yes. But it's merely reflective of the wider market.

Did I take advantage of the moment when people were loudly asking for a new forum? Also yes. Did the admin here kinda threaten legal action because of the XboxEra forum even existing? Also yes.

You presume a lot based on conjecture and hearsay. But don't go off spouting the work of the last 6+ years largely exists because of 'resentment'. It exists because of a love for video games. And no, the occasional hard to obtain Xbox review code is not a primary driver, good lord.

Wonder which admin threatened legal action and what grounds they think they had to sue.  Pretty ironic considering the way resetera started out though.

Bdumbs locked the thread, like a coward. I guest this post had his eyes bulging. 

The reason it was called XboxEra was because the Discord server was called that when we started. And the name just stuck. When we made a podcast, that's all it ever started as...was only when we started a forum - by mass request - did Resetera admin get 'cross' with us.

Considering the thread has slowly moved into the console wars and interpersonal drama, we're locking it.

Who was console warring? or getting personal? what a dumbfuck. His lucky Sikamikanico is a decent dude or he could have aired their asses out. I've been on their site and its chill, and you don't get banned for wrongthink or joking around.

Unlike the janitors on Reeeee who despise their userbase. B Dumbs can barely even hide it these days. What a spiteful site Reee is.

Also surprised this Bengraven comment skated past with no blow back 

Don't worry. This site doesn't have much time left itself. Lol.

The above quotes from the xboxera guy about how staff treated the formation of Xboxera, plus the lock on this flimsy pretext when he could have easily warned or banned the few posters causing issues isn’t a great look for bdumbs, but when has that ever stopped him?

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/highguard-ot-go-outside.1416781/page-19#post-151021312

I think this game is legitimately good, but not necessarily truly excellent.

That should probably be good enough for a F2P game to at least sustain itself with a niche, dedicated audience. But there really is no denying that the space is overly crowded and competitive.

And to your game comparison and consumer mentality point, I absolutely 100% agree with you. To me, this and that other game we loved just illustrate that brand recognition is something that trumps everything. And well, this is an obvious fact. Quality is immaterial. Just look at the President of the United States. It is the reality we find ourselves in.

This was the exact kind of conversation I tried to hold around that other game around here and got dogpiled and mocked for, foolishly thinking there'd be at least a few people capable of seriously entertaining it. Foolish me though. But I was and still am serious about this.

But I do think this game is just quite not good enough unfortunately, unlike the other game. Speaking personally, I haven't played in a week almost and I've put about 12 hours total in which is likely more time than lots of people out there. (Remember that "10% as much" convo we had before? Haha)

And I think the looming threat of Marathon in particular is very real for this game. Speaking for myself, a big reason I've not played more of this is because at this point I'm more anticipating Marathon. I'd gotten back into The Finals right before Highguard hit too and I similarly haven't been playing it either. Just too eaten up by the idea, aesthetics, and vibes of Marathon now.

There's definitely potential here in Highguard though, and they got me to actually play it, which is better than 95% of multiplayer games can claim tbh. And the more I played it, the better I understood the Apex and Titanfall genesis for some of the devs and why they'd mentioned it. In particular I was getting quite a bit of that "efficiency loop" feeling similar to playing Attrition in Titanfall. With the gearing up and resource gathering bits reminding me some of trying to burn mobs ASAP in Attrition to try and summon your Titan first.

[Boredfrom]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/super-bowl-visitors-find-san-francisco-better-than-its-apocalyptic-image.1429450/

Entremet thread.

I don’t doubt is a nice city to visit, but living there sounds like another can of worms, lol .

[Boredfrom]

For most of them this is the first time they've ever experienced culture

 

Being fair there's also a couple of people on this site that try to make out SF/LA to be some Mad Max world

And just below the dude, some dudes complaining about the city.

[Boredfrom]

SF is a lot nicer than its reputation, but I gotta say I was pretty shocked the first time I passed through the tenderloin. Have never seen anything like that in a US city before

California just has a lot more homeless people because:

1) the weather is much better
2) relatively speaking they are much better taken care of from the state social programs

Inb4 he edits or deletes the post.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/today-show-host-savannah-guthries-mother-missing-in-arizona-upgraded-to-crime-scene-at-mothers-home.1423015/page-3#post-151061533

Boy the full story on this is going to be very interesting when this is all over.

"Her mother might be dead, but I can't wait for the real crime podcasts about this."

[Boredfrom]

Boy, you know, why didn't they search those earlier?

Searching the septic tanks is totally easy.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/older-song-lyrics-that-are-still-prescient.1429312/#post-151056967

I was going to say anything by Phil Ochs holds up depressingly well but Dayglo also come to mind.

I was borderline shocked they made it over the border for their US shows last year. They're surprisingly still as good as when I first saw them

[Potato]

as someone that's gradually taking a more academic / analytic appreciation to porn

there's open math problems that we could try to solve first.  Wtf does this even mean, academicizing porn?  Oh hold up bro, I'm late to my ejaculatory dynamics: the geopolitics of the cumshot on facial cartography course *starts jerking off in public because sin is now legal and encouraged by democrats and the chuck schumer administration*

It's when you're so addicted to porn and politics that you need to study it to find meaning in your masturbation.

[Jansen]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/why-women-criticise-sexualised-character-designs-ot3-make-her-look-more-corpulent-more-stuffed-where-the-eyes-cant-escape.275780/page-505#post-151065376

I've never seen restera as more progressive because the bar that is in hell and we'll always have people on their main accounts along with alt account trolls posting day 1 on like Stellar Blade and if they ever allowed Nikke and I bet we'd get tons of men who support that game too.



Yeah, I'll even count the men going "Oh my wife/cousin/sister/daughter/aunt" also love gacha waifus because the story is really compelling and the OST is great so what if everyone knows it as the infamous "anime girl ass jiggling game."



This is the environment that I live in the USA and for p much all my hobbies, like, you can't escape the constant sexism, but if I spent all day arguing with them, then I can't really have fun with my other hobbies too so I just block liberally for them.

[Jansen]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/when-will-life-give-me-a-break.1429498/

Never 

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I'm 31 yo man



In just 10 years, i lived through what many people don't face in a lifetime.



I watched my grandfather slowly disappear into Alzheimer's, and for five long years, i stood beside him, helping care for him with my dad. I didn't just lose a grandfather — i lost him piece by piece, long before death finally came. I don't wish this illness on my worst enemies



Then, before i could even properly recover, my dad became ill with leukemia. Again, i stepped into the role of caregiver, this time for one year, alongside my mom. I watched the strongest figure in my fucking life fade, knowing what was coming, everyday was hell on earth. When he died, it's like the world is suddenly black and white, nothing makes sense anymore



And then came my uncle. A man who had lived with us his whole life, mentally unstable, vulnerable, and dependent. I witnessed his body slowly decay from diabetic gangrene, day after day. I saw his foot rot. I cleaned his wounds. I cleaned his body. I cleaned his waste. He refused hospital, and or six months, i lived inside a reality most people cannot even imagine, until he finally died in his sleep



I feel like a chunk of what could've been the best time of my life was stripped from me.

All my friends I grew up with either got married and stared families, got their dream jobs, or traveled to other places

And here I'm stuck in this life

I feel tired

I feel trapped

The only reason I'm still holding on is the need to be there for my mom, for my young siblings.



I don't believe in god, not after what I saw, but if he's up there, just please, give me a fucking break

[benji]

Member only:
https://www.resetera.com/threads/an-ideal-civilization-has-few-arms-and-plenty-of-hands.1429225/

This is just a notion I've been turning over in my head for over a decade and a half now. Obviously the advent of social media and its ability to allow people to isolate with other like-minded people and away from any dissenting voices is a massive, if not primary, contributor to the state of things. But for a long time I've been thinking that another problem is the overswinging of the pendulum regarding violence.

There has been a concerted effort in media to preach that violence is never the answer. That you should always resolve things peacefully. That acting with violence first is always bad and responding with violence is usually bad.

But the thing is? I don't think as many people would have gone as far off the deep end as they have if when they got their reality check it was in the mouth and at the end of a fist.

"But bad people would react violently." Bad people already deploy violence to get their way. They also deploy nonviolence to get their way. Bad people don't care about what's right or wrong. People who want to abuse and harm others will do so regardless and do do so regardless. Case in point: That grown ass man in TX who attacked children.

But in over teaching that violence is never the answer, we live in a world where the risk of harm that comes with calling someone a slur in front of them, their family and their friends is close to 0. So people get comfortable using slurs, instead of self-censoring in the off chance they might catch an ass whooping. This effects behavior in general.

And that's on the micro level. On the macro level we've created a society wherein bad actors can inflict whatever and however much harm as they want, but responding in any way that isn't calmly and politely registering displeasure is weaponized against the victimized. Not even just responding with actual violence. Any response can be deemed to violent.

And it's not like I'm talking about encouraging people to go off half-cocked at any slight. I just mean to say that decorum is only maintained equitably if the other guy might put your lights out for breaking it. And the lack of threat from people who want to do good has made for some boldly awful people.

Of course, it doesn't help, in the US at least, that someone might AK you tomorrow if you KO them today.

Name a time and place you'd prefer to live in over today and the US/EU/Japan-SK. All those places and times are vastly more violent than your current situation. The US is more violent than the EU/Asia and the violence is still incredibly small historically so I have no problem including the US even if it's not the gold standard for non-violence in the world.

Even our most violent places aren't as violent as the average place in the world used to be.

Now repeat this and claim our society is worse than those on any measure you want to use. Unless you're advocating for violence they will fail.

Seriously, rewrite this thread as "a hundred years ago when we'd lynch people of color, society was better because people knew their place" and see how far you get. You wouldn't dare even though it's the same exact thesis with an actual historical example instead of you being ignorant about when you were a child.

You'll try to claim it's different because you'll say "those people weren't trying to do good" and yes they fucking were. The oppressors of history have never justified anything except that they were doing what was best or necessary. Hitler believed the greatest culture and society in history faced literal extinction if it didn't gain its "breathing room" and defend itself against capitalist decadence and uncivilized morals. Every religion has believed it was tackling existential matters and literally saving souls.

You aren't arguing that things are better when you're allowed to do violence, you're arguing that things are better when others aren't allowed to fight back. Guess what, you're an oppressor. 

Also, the fact that you think the "media" has preached this and caused this in the last few years shows just how stupid you are and why you aren't worthy of even a response like this. No, Christianity did that you fucking moron. You're centuries late to Christians debating the concept of "Just War" and whether there's exceptions to Jesus's teachings of non-violence. You'll never guess what the ones who wished only a few more "good people" would punch a few more "bad people" in the mouth decided about violence and its constant necessity. I'm sure you wonder why they never succeeded in purifying society or even reducing crime/improving society to the levels we currently live in.

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/when-will-life-give-me-a-break.1429498/

I'm 31 yo man



In just 10 years, i lived through what many people don't face in a lifetime.



I watched my grandfather slowly disappear into Alzheimer's, and for five long years, i stood beside him, helping care for him with my dad. I didn't just lose a grandfather — i lost him piece by piece, long before death finally came. I don't wish this illness on my worst enemies



Then, before i could even properly recover, my dad became ill with leukemia. Again, i stepped into the role of caregiver, this time for one year, alongside my mom. I watched the strongest figure in my fucking life fade, knowing what was coming, everyday was hell on earth. When he died, it's like the world is suddenly black and white, nothing makes sense anymore



And then came my uncle. A man who had lived with us his whole life, mentally unstable, vulnerable, and dependent. I witnessed his body slowly decay from diabetic gangrene, day after day. I saw his foot rot. I cleaned his wounds. I cleaned his body. I cleaned his waste. He refused hospital, and or six months, i lived inside a reality most people cannot even imagine, until he finally died in his sleep



I feel like a chunk of what could've been the best time of my life was stripped from me.

All my friends I grew up with either got married and stared families, got their dream jobs, or traveled to other places

And here I'm stuck in this life

I feel tired

I feel trapped

The only reason I'm still holding on is the need to be there for my mom, for my young siblings.



I don't believe in god, not after what I saw, but if he's up there, just please, give me a fucking break

Egg post.

[BIONIC]

Must have had a revelation mid post that she does this herself all the time

I'm disappointed that Minthara didn't remind us that only being a first nation person matters. She's slipping.

Umm hello, chuds?!?

Pronouns
They/Them

[BIONIC]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/why-women-criticise-sexualised-character-designs-ot3-make-her-look-more-corpulent-more-stuffed-where-the-eyes-cant-escape.275780/page-505#post-150990943

Probably not appropriate for this thread but Reading my replies the last few pages is honestly depressing me because of how little joy I'm getting from games outside a few indies, I always feel so damn negative and just not looking forward to things anymore, everything feels like it's regressing with women in games in the AAA space. Plus the just constant pile after pile of hate and worsening news here, the US etc and honestly the recent pile of stealth insult other users threads, I'm struggling to be positive anymore on nearly anything.

For whatever it's worth, I can relate. Some of that for me definitely stems from...disappointment in what I see within the community and that certainly includes the community here on Era. Obviously the users of the site aren't monolith, but I feel like I've conditioned myself (perhaps somewhat foolishly) to expect better. The latest game drops and it's you know...half naked, busty woman or whatever, but people are just like, "looks so sick! Day one!" and then proceed to stick their fingers in their ears, at best, when criticism is leveled at it. Same kind of thing for games where the head of the studio is a racist fuck or whatever. I feel like I see more handwaving of problematic shit every day, while it also gets pushed to the forefront more and more.

It feels like gaming as a hobby has regressed so fucking far, especially in how it treats women. Like 20+ years just fucking vanished and it sucks, to put it mildly. I know it's a symptom of larger problem we're all facing right now, but I feel it especially acutely in the things I interface with basically every day.

I'm sorry you feel that way, but even putting aside more personal attacks since I have little experience in that regard - I mostly lurk around here - in general this forum isn't really a good place to escape negativity. If I were you I'd just log off for a good while, I did so in the past.

It's really tough sometimes, and I get like that too from time to time -- especially at night. Best advice I can give is to maybe try finding some other sort of outlet to focus on that doesn't involve gaming or any of those other things. Or maybe focus on something small, like really good indie games that do do things right. <3

I've never seen restera as more progressive because the bar that is in hell and we'll always have people on their main accounts along with alt account trolls posting day 1 on like Stellar Blade and if they ever allowed Nikke and I bet we'd get tons of men who support that game too.

Yeah, I'll even count the men going "Oh my wife/cousin/sister/daughter/aunt" also love gacha waifus because the story is really compelling and the OST is great so what if everyone knows it as the infamous "anime girl ass jiggling game."

This is the environment that I live in the USA and for p much all my hobbies, like, you can't escape the constant sexism, but if I spent all day arguing with them, then I can't really have fun with my other hobbies too so I just block liberally for them.

[Jansen]

Oh my wife/cousin/sister/daughter/aunt" also love gacha waifus because the story is really compelling and the OST is great so what if everyone knows it as the infamous "anime girl ass jiggling game."

https://www.resetera.com/threads/gacha-games-ot-gatcha-wallet.911/page-607#post-150665368

[HaughtyFrank]

Wait til they discover that people also watch porn


Well... I guess not all people 

[Besticus Maximus]

The incel/porn threads are some of my favourites because they're all like 'speaking as a virgin who has never had any kind of relationship or known love, even platonic love, I gotta say I'm glad that 10/15 years ago I never started down that path' with anime cartoon avatar

[Potato]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/xboxera-rebrand-to-dayone.1429177/page-4#post-151048720

No offense, but this is straight up untrue. There was no 'resentment' behind why we exist. It was founded in 2019, and there was a podcast thread here, on this forum.

I was never banned here (outside of a weird moment where I was given a break for sharing the link to the Card Game Kickstarter in the Kickstarter thread) and I am the owner of the company.

Do I think this forum is not particularly great place to chat about Xbox if you're a fan of the platform sometimes?

Yes. But it's merely reflective of the wider market.

Did I take advantage of the moment when people were loudly asking for a new forum? Also yes. Did the admin here kinda threaten legal action because of the XboxEra forum even existing? Also yes.

You presume a lot based on conjecture and hearsay. But don't go off spouting the work of the last 6+ years largely exists because of 'resentment'. It exists because of a love for video games. And no, the occasional hard to obtain Xbox review code is not a primary driver, good lord.

Wonder which admin threatened legal action and what grounds they think they had to sue.  Pretty ironic considering the way resetera started out though.

Bdumbs locked the thread, like a coward. I guest this post had his eyes bulging. 

The reason it was called XboxEra was because the Discord server was called that when we started. And the name just stuck. When we made a podcast, that's all it ever started as...was only when we started a forum - by mass request - did Resetera admin get 'cross' with us.

Considering the thread has slowly moved into the console wars and interpersonal drama, we're locking it.

Who was console warring? or getting personal? what a dumbfuck. His lucky Sikamikanico is a decent dude or he could have aired their asses out. I've been on their site and its chill, and you don't get banned for wrongthink or joking around.

Unlike the janitors on Reeeee who despise their userbase. B Dumbs can barely even hide it these days. What a spiteful site Reee is.

Also surprised this Bengraven comment skated past with no blow back 

Don't worry. This site doesn't have much time left itself. Lol.

What I'm looking forward to more than anything else related to Resetera, is when it falls over and the moderation numpties try to migrate to other sites and the users of those sites really get a chance to tell them what they think...