Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 2)

[benji]

How much do cis people have to venmo trans people before the problem will be resolved?

fify
Directly help trans people - too many of us need money expensive video cards, food UberEats, shelter a filthy room full of toys

And cum stained amplifiers for guitars they don’t know how to play.

Users Banned (6 months): downplaying and justifying genocide

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/oil-price-ot-if-only-we-had-more-renewables.1455982/page-2#post-152260810

 User Banned (2 Weeks): Homophobic Rhetoric

Imagine Biden saying people just need to sacrifice. I can't.

Can only imagine that genocidal maniac riding Netanyahu's dick

[DavidCroquet]

Can only imagine that genocidal maniac riding Netanyahu's dick

[HaughtyFrank]

Sometimes I think humans cannot be trusted to care for other beings. Like there's something fundamentally wrong about us. Cats don't ban trans cats. As far as I know, anyway.

Newsfeed

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/

How long until someone will try to trans their pet?

[benji]

All for white babies that aren't coming no matter how much they kick & scream. Fix men being literal Hitler youth first...

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/%E2%80%98i-took-two-bites-and-had-to-spit-it-out%E2%80%99-candy-makers-are-phasing-out-real-cocoa-in-chocolate.1460314/

Man, chocolate bars ain't even got chocolate anymore...

He likes chocolate too? 

[Jonsey]

We really need a trans thread containment zone

[benji]

We really need a trans thread containment zone

Another cissie wants to shut their eyes to the genocide. Sounds about white.

[BananaBlast]

As far as sex scenes go though... I dunno, I'm ace aromantic. I don't really get the big deal about them at all and try to skip them if possible, in every single game.

Fucking BS.

I'm pretty sure Jansen discovered that jrx8080 got into an argument on bluesky, and the other user called him out for posting creepy sexual pics (modded?) of a female Monster Hunter character. He then immediately deleted the pics, changed his Era username (to jrx8080) and changed his steam handle to something else. 

""Ace aromantic"" my ass!  

[killamajig]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-of-9-years-wants-a-divorce-and-im-struggling-so-damn-much.1459723/

My wife and I began dating more than 14 years ago, our first year in college. A storybook start to a fantastic relationship. January 2012, our friends were playing beer pong, she and I were both the third wheel and sitting at a bench watching. I started talking to her, and she was so damn cool. The next weekend she came to my dorm to visit me and when I went to let her in, I saw her through the doorway standing waiting, and I didn't know it then, but that's the day I fell in love.



My childhood was horrible. My one goal in life, I told myself as a 12 year old after seeing my father physically abuse my mother and sister, was to have a marriage, have a family, and never get divorced. I wanted to be a father and a husband and never, ever split my family. I vowed to myself as a child. That was what I wanted. I didn't care then, and I still don't care, what job I have or how much money I make. I just want a family that loves.



In the summer of 2012, we did the long-distance thing and traveled back and forth and she said she loved me first. It was the greatest feeling in the world, hearing that from someone who isn't a parent or a sibling.



At some point that summer she did something to offend her stepmother and was kicked out of her father's house. She had to move in with her grandparents, and her relationship with her father completely fell apart.



Because of finances, we both took time off from school for the fall semester of 2012, then when we both went back, we moved in to an apartment together off-campus after dating for about 10 months. We lived together in that college town for more than 3 years as I finished school. She had dropped out because she wasn't sure what major to pursue, and worked full-time to support us both. We worked at the same daycare facility, though with different ages and different hours. We went on bike rides and played tennis and long walks. We watched movies and cuddled and played video games sometimes. We were happy. It was a simple life but we were so happy. I got an idea to write a book and started it then. This part is important later.



The last summer before I graduated, August 2016, we got married. She was 22, I was 21. We were poor college students, and got married at her grandparent's small beach house. Less than 100 people were invited to the wedding, I cooked all the food, her dress was the largest expense (even more than the ring). Her father did not come to the wedding, though all of her siblings did. It was a small ceremony, but we were happy with it. I graduated in December of 2016 with the love of my life at my side.



We moved back to my hometown because a family member helped me with a job connection. That January we found out she was pregnant. I worked my entry level HR job, she got a job she sort of enjoyed as an administrative assistant at a big factory. I started coaching my younger brother in youth sports. We bought a house in May of 2017, had a quiet summer prepping the house, and our first daughter was born in September. I thought I'd made it. I thought my life was perfect. We got a dog, who is now eight and getting old. I had friends in town, my wife did not, at least at first. Her mother, who lived several hours away, pursued a dream and moved from Minnesota to Alaska.



My wife got promoted a few times into roles for more money, but more stress and she liked the jobs less and less. Our second daughter was born in November of 2019. That pregnancy was hard, physically and emotionally. We had planned to have four kids, but my wife couldn't do another one, so after the birth she made the decision to make sure she can never have kids again. I supported her, because it was the right decision and I love her. My wife's brother died. He was only a few years older than us, and had been battling alcoholism and a drug addiction and a bunch of other things. That hit us all hard, including her mother, and their relationship spiraled. Her father grew from losing his son and worked hard, so hard, to patch things up with my wife and I am so proud that they fixed things. I had to be responsible and hold things down as all of this stuff was happening in her life, and we were juggling a baby and a toddler and a dog and a new kitten. 



We did the family thing for a while. We got the toddlers into Gymnastics, we went on walks with the dog and the stroller. I thought my life was perfect. And looking back, this is probably the happiest part of my life. Era, this was so good. So good. And I want that back more than anything.



But she grew tired of having only my friends and family around, she wanted to see her grandparents in their twilight years, so we made the decision to move out of town.



In January 2022, I got a job not quite halfway between where my family is from and where hers is from. We got a house up here in May 2022. It was at the very edge of our budget. But we figured this could be our forever home. She tried the remote work thing and hated it. She already disliked her job and that made it worse. She quit that job and I supported her. She wanted to open up a daycare in our home, and I supported her. I thought it was not going to work, but I wanted so badly for her to be happy. It did not work. Half our house was her work area and she hated going in those spaces on the weekends. Her work never ended. For some stupid reason, I got us a second dog in this time frame, thinking it was what we needed. The house started having issues.



In May 2024, she closed the daycare. Between house repairs and daycare losses, we lost a lot of money. She took the summer off to spend with our young daughters, and I could tell my wife was falling into the despair of depression. She had no career at the age of 30. She had few friends, and she told me she invested so much time and effort into me and the kids, she lost herself. She had no hobbies and no interests and did not like her life. Her not working that summer blew through what little remained of our savings. But I didn't care. Truly. I'd go $1,000,000 into debt if it made her happy. I wanted her to be happy and to have time to reset. We barely made ends meet. I was so desperate to make things work for us, I grew even more reserved. I didn't want to do anything that spent money, including my hobbies of wargaming and collecting Lego and Blu-Rays. In hindsight, I truly stopped having fun. Aside from my coaching and occasional xbox with friends, I didn't do anything anymore.



I encouraged her to find who she is. I wanted to be the rock for her, to be the person she can rely on. She started venturing out with local adult-league sports. She met some friends. In September 2024, she got a job at a school as a teacher's assistant and absolutely loves it. The school has pushed her hard to finish her degree so she can be a full teacher. But the assistant job pays horribly, so she started working at Wal-Mart part-time. Almost every night she would come home from work at the school, grab food, and be gone within an hour. My kids and I barely saw her. I thought it would be temporary. She started getting into romance books. After reading maybe three books our entire relationship, she was banging out a book a week or more. I was happy she had found a hobby. We had a wonderful temporary bump in our sex life, and I thought things were great.



In January 2025, I got a call that I was wanted to move up from youth coaching to high school. I was so happy. My wife was happy for me. But I could tell something was still wrong.



In March 2025, she quit her job at Wal-Mart. I started coaching the high school team and spending more time away from family. I could tell things were distant between us, but I thought it would be okay. Summer 2025 she went on a vacation with the kids to visit her mother in Alaska. She didn't check in with me often, and two nights I didn't even get a chance to say good night to the kids. One day it started a long distance fight between us, and she ignored my calls and texts for a while. When they all came home, we had a talk. She told me she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. She loved me, but was no longer in love with me. I asked if she wanted a divorce, she said she did not want to break up our family. I asked her what I could do, and she recommended couples therapy.



My stupid ass did research online and saw in many cases it drives people apart. So I dug my heels in and said no, but we can try other things. She said okay. We talked a lot. We spent time together. Some things improved, others did not.



Our biggest fight of our marriage came in October 2025. She told me she wanted to meet up with a friend from work at the park. I didn't mind. I asked if she had an idea how long they'd be out, to plan for dinner. She said an hour or two. That evening I texted her and said dinner was ready, no need to pick anything up. No response. I texted again at bedtime for the girls, asking if she would be home soon. No response. I called her after getting the girls down, no answer. I texted later and asked if she was okay, then called again. She answered then and put me on speaker, made her friend say hi. I said I was worried about her, she said it was fine. She got home that night a bit after 10pm, after more than six hours with her friend at the park. I have no doubts that they were sitting talking. I know and trust my wife. I was just so worried and anxious about it being a park after dark and she simply never texted me back. We fought hard. I just wanted to make sure she was okay, she thought I was being overbearing and didn't trust her. It was a disaster. But we made it through and life returned to our normal.



In December 2025 we had another talk, and she said nothing had changed on her end. And in fact, she just doesn't miss me when I'm gone. She doesn't think about me, doesn't love me like that at all. It was hard to hear.



I had a breakdown after Christmas with my family, when I realized it would probably be our last as a full family. She told me things would work out okay. A few weeks later, I overheard her speaking to a friend on the phone about this stupid house we have. That she was ready to sell it, and that when (not if) we do divorce, we are going to have to co-parent and live together while selling a house. I confronted her that night, and she said she wasn't sure, but she leaned toward splitting.



I had another breakdown. Memories of my childhood, and my emotionally abusive father, and my single mom who thought I was responsible enough to raise myself...it all came back. I have had body image issues our entire relationship, and have voiced that to her more times than I can count. She has grown exhausted of that talk. I have no self-confidence, and she has grown exhausted. I got into therapy for myself, and asked my wife to join me. In our first couples session, we were asked to rate 1-10, 1 being split now, 10 being do anything to make it work, where are we. I said a 9. She said an 8. I was on cloud-9. I thought we would be okay. We can fix this. Progress, right? I finished my book. After infinite drafts and revisions and nearly 12 years of writing, I was happy enough to print out five copies and send it to two family members, two friends, and my wife to read it.



But as I'm confronting my past, and the memories of my father, and his abuse and how badly that divorce went, I've been spiraling. My wife has grown exhausted of me. We have spoken about "us" several times in the last few months. Every time she says nothing has changed. I convinced her to do a family road trip in February 2026. It was great! We have so many great pictures and experiences and memories and I thought it was great. She says it was, too. I didn't expect it to fix us, but I thought it might help.



This past weekend, Saturday, I asked a simple question why she has had my book for three months and hadn't read it. She said it was because it wasn't her favorite genre of romance. I saw red. I regret much of what I said, but it started with "Bullshit. You love me, right? This has been important to me for more than a decade, right? Why can't you just read it?" and our fight started. A nasty one. An exhausting one. For the first time in our entire marriage I chose not to go to bed with her that night. Everything came back. My parents, my unloving wife, everything. I contemplated suicide but figured I wouldn't be good enough to succeed and that she would be stuck taking care of a vegetable. So I didn't. I'm here still. I don't plan to do that anymore. Please don't worry, however few of you have read this far.



Any time I try to talk to her, I can tell she just has no feelings for me anymore. I do anything and everything to help her, and I wanted to be that rock for support, but I've been a rock weighing her down. I talked to her sunday, I talked to her monday, and she said that she lied at our couples therapy. She wasn't at an 8. She was at a 6, and now it's dropped to a 4.



Part of me loves that, because she is honest and a 4 isn't a 1, we can maybe still salvage this...but I don't think we will.



She has grown and changed over the 14 years we have been together. She is no longer the person she was in college. And I get that. But I love who she was then, and I love even more now who she is now. I want her to stay, I want this family to continue. And she says she wants to leave. Because she deserves to be happy and that I deserve to have someone who loves me as much as I love her. And I want her to be happy. If that's away from me, then so be it. But I do not think I'll ever love someone the way I have loved her. I don't care. I want her. I want her. I want her.



She talked to me last night about taking the kids up to her grandparents' place for the summer. That I can live here alone and the house can be well put together so that we can sell it. It was very matter of fact. It was a "maybe we can do this" but the way she was talking...its not a maybe. Its what she wants. I broke down again, and she had to leave to go to something she had planned.



I do nothing but cry these days. She fell in love with a college kid who had charisma and happiness and an easygoing nature. Now all I do is cry. I exhaust her. I want to have fun, I want to save our marriage, but every time I look at her, I grow sad. Every time I look at my children, I grow sad. My wife asked me to wrap around her last night in bed, to warm her up, and I started to cry. Because I won't have many nights of this left. My daughter cried this morning saying she didn't want to go to school because she just wanted to stay home with her family. Her whole family. And I lost it, then. Because soon we probably won't ever have our whole family together anymore and holy shit, Era. I don't know what to do. I have no idea what I can do anymore. I feel like a failure and a loser and all of it wrapped into one.



I don't know how any of you can help, but I needed to get this into words. I cried a lot writing this. I hate that I did it. I'll probably delete this later. I am so, so sad. I hate this feeling and hope more than anything that none of you have to ever experience it.

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[Hap Shaughnessy]

We really need a trans thread containment zone

Another cissie wants to shut their eyes to the genocide. Sounds about white.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/#post-152452840

We live in a Nazi country and my trans ass has to smile and mask at work. Thanks cis people

[benji]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/#post-152452840

So many people are dying and will die because of the last election. It's truly immeasurable.

[Lonewulfeus]

We really need a trans thread containment zone

Another cissie wants to shut their eyes to the genocide. Sounds about white.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/#post-152452840

We live in a Nazi country and my trans ass has to smile and mask at work. Thanks cis people

Why do you need to smile if you’re wearing a mask?  Surely no one can see it.

[BananaBlast]

Burka thread getting spicy:

I was trying to ignore the "God of War sex scene designed by women" but here it is, so-

Marjorie Taylor Greene
Kristi Noem
Karoline Leavitt
Lauren Boebert
Etc.

Women are every bit as capable as men in terms of crawling through the sewer to do stupid shit. "designed by women" doesn't give the scenes a pass. They are what they are and it doesn't matter who designed them.

Inflammatory comparisons?
Whataboutisms?

Bannable offences  but people in that thread have the longest leash.

Nah, you get a ton of leeway for dunking on white conservative/republican/right-leaning women.  

[Boredfrom]

As far as sex scenes go though... I dunno, I'm ace aromantic. I don't really get the big deal about them at all and try to skip them if possible, in every single game.

Fucking BS.

I'm pretty sure Jansen discovered that jrx8080 got into an argument on bluesky, and the other user called him out for posting creepy sexual pics (modded?) of a female Monster Hunter character. He then immediately deleted the pics, changed his Era username (to jrx8080) and changed his steam handle to something else. 

""Ace aromantic"" my ass!  

Every time somebody declares themselves as Ace, I remember that “asexual” dude from  Nymphomaniac.

[Geoff Marvel]

Jake Paul speaks at Trump rally with minimal crowd reaction and massive armpit stains
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[March 11, 2026] 4th Circuit Rules That States Can Compel Trans Adults To "Appreciate Their Sex" Via Care Bans
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I think I may be trans? Unsure how to handle this.
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[HaughtyFrank]

Jake Paul speaks at Trump rally with minimal crowd reaction and massive armpit stains
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March 11, 2026] 4th Circuit Rules That States Can Compel Trans Adults To "Appreciate Their Sex" Via Care Bans
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Trans activists still have the forum in a deathgrip but truly no one cares to engage with their topics

[malfoyking]

There is literally no reality in which so many men somehow wish they were women. its fucking impossible. including on that shit site.

[Boredfrom]

I get so fucking angry I almost get in tears when I know whose made this mess

 

https://www.resetera.com/threads/trump-oil-tanker-crews-must-show-some-guts-sail-through-straight-of-hormuz.1457623/page-3#post-152455834

[benji]

I get so fucking angry I almost get in tears when I know whose made this mess

https://www.resetera.com/threads/trump-oil-tanker-crews-must-show-some-guts-sail-through-straight-of-hormuz.1457623/page-3#post-152455834

Geoff Keighley for hyping up Highguard?

[Uncle]

People will die from this

I hate this shit so much

under their definition of what makes someone or something responsible for death, meaning "potentially being a minor contributing factor in a long line of personal decisions that eventually results in the person killing themselves," then ruling the exact opposite way will also result in people dying from this

a husband will lose a wife he loves to transition, a wife will lose a husband she loves to transition, they'll split up and spiral into depression and someone somewhere will die over it

or, y'know, people will happily transition under medicaid and then realize 5 to 10 years later that they've sentenced themselves to a hell on earth of medical complications and they don't actually feel any better, resulting in "deaths"

[Uncle]

Fucking BS.

I'm pretty sure Jansen discovered that jrx8080 got into an argument on bluesky, and the other user called him out for posting creepy sexual pics (modded?) of a female Monster Hunter character. He then immediately deleted the pics, changed his Era username (to jrx8080) and changed his steam handle to something else. 

""Ace aromantic"" my ass!  

Every time somebody declares themselves as Ace, I remember that “asexual” dude from  Nymphomaniac.

I always just think of this

[benji]

If you just shut up and listened you would understand that wanting to prevent those "deaths" by getting them actual legitimate proven methods of therapy to eliminate disordered thinking rather than encouraging their harmful delusions for the remainder of their lives is genocide.

The only solution is doing whatever I want forever or else my blood is on your hands. This is a reasonable ask that all others should center their lives around at all times. You can't do just one thing to show basic human decency?

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/vgc-unannounced-hunter-the-reckoning-game-build-accidentally-replaced-robocop-rogue-city-on-steam-momentarily.1455505/#post-152318029

User banned (3 days): Boys club rhetoric

I watched some footage on YouTube, aside from the boobies on display which I actually don't mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might end up digging this. I wish redfall could've been like that

[HaughtyFrank]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/vgc-unannounced-hunter-the-reckoning-game-build-accidentally-replaced-robocop-rogue-city-on-steam-momentarily.1455505/#post-152318029

User banned (3 days): Boys club rhetoric

I watched some footage on YouTube, aside from the boobies on display which I actually don't mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might end up digging this. I wish redfall could've been like that

Gender
Female
She/Her

 

Shouldn't the mods now get banned for misgendering?

[Hap Shaughnessy]

Trans genocide.

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Isn't that the same freak who masturbates at work?

Boss make a dollar
I make a dime
That's why I crank my hog
On company time

Post cranked hog

Hog looks better pre-cranking.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/2026-us-and-israel-launches-strike-on-iran-khamenei-killed-israel-invades-lebanon.1449391/page-149#post-152320879

 User Banned (2 Weeks): Inflammatory Commentary

Okay look, I don't support this war or the Republicans, but Trump has a 24 hour window to do something very funny here.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/2026-us-and-israel-launches-strike-on-iran-khamenei-killed-israel-invades-lebanon.1449391/page-152#post-152325286

 User Banned (2 Weeks): Inflammatory Commentary

I'm sorry ( not sorry) but Israel need to be wiped from the face of the earth

[Boredfrom]

burka thread getting weird about Old Man Leon (actually, old Leon is a feminist statement  )

I don't exactly mind the statement on how they designed Leon based on the female gaze because there just isn't an equivalency between how men are designed for the female gaze versus how women are designed for the male gaze. We're not going to get jiggle physics Leon in a skintight outfit with plenty of creep shots.

What I think we should scrutinize more is how that statement from Capcom has colored the way people react to people appreciating Leon's looks. As far as I'm concerned, Leon has always been designed to be attractive so this is nothing new... but there's a lot of disdain or spite in how his looks have been described now that they've gone out of their way to say it's for the female gaze. The weird little bald Leon movement felt like this big "finally!" moment for people who wanted to counter all the comments on sexism too. I think I am letting Capcom slide a bit because at least there's some level of good intent compared to all the weird stuff people are saying and doing between their Tifa and 2B danbooru searches.

EDIT: corrected phrasing!

That's what I was trying to get at; the upset over Leon doesn't come from him being sexy, it's that them stating that they took the female gaze into that recontextualizes it for insecure men.

Starting with his rebrand in RE4, Leon is sexy, but in a way that boosts a guys ego; femme fatale spends most of her screentime when she's not doing ninja shit to do a will-they-won't they dance with Leon while young college student Ashley spends the game being dependent, flashing panty shots and ends the game by propositioning Leon to go fuck afterwards. Contextualized with Leon as the big strong smooth hero, the women are virtually accessories as far as these men see it. 6 has Ada, Helena and her naked sister boss fight all revolving around Leon's orbit and then RE2R loops back around and he's given high-fidelity chemistry with both Claire and Ada.

Leon's stories all tend to revolve around girls/women, often vulnerable girls/women, which plays into men's egos. Re9 just breaks a bit of the illusion by 'conceding' that ideal aesthetic to women and we know how men get when women have the audacity to have interests or be catered to in any way.

I didn’t see these two guys shitting on The Golden Hawk for having a hate bonner for old man Leon. 

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/#post-152456263

MAGA: Trans people are violent and mentally unwell!
Also MAGA: *leaves trans people little-to-nothing left to lose*