Journal of Other Forum Analysis (Volume II, Issue 2)

[Boredfrom]

We're not going to get jiggle physics Leon in a skintight outfit with plenty of creep shots.

He is, technically,in a skintight costume at the second part of the game.

[Hap Shaughnessy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/so-firefly-is-coming-back-huh-actually-for-real.1449610/page-5#post-152255338

Hm. Adam Baldwin got a visit. 😬

Shit. Aaaaaaaaand I'm 100% out. Don't even care if it's somehow a new season. I know so many lives that were ruined that started with him.

[BIONIC]

Boss make a dollar
I make a dime
That's why I crank my hog
On company time

Post cranked hog

Hog looks better pre-cranking.

[saltygeneraltso]

Ashley spends the game being dependent, flashing panty shots

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Yes Morrigan, they decided to make the entire game an FPS because of the male gaze...

How does this even make any sense at all? Does Morrigan think "male gaze" is when you're literally inside a man?

Male gaze is now gay, and thus a Good Thing.

Take that. feminazis!

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Cats don't ban trans cats. As far as I know, anyway.

We live in a Nazi country and my trans ass has to smile and mask at work. Thanks cis people

Gay people: "We want to be able to get married"

Cis people:


Trans people: A bunch of vague and contradictory bullshit, and slogans that make no sense.

Cis people:

So many people are dying and will die because of the last election. It's truly immeasurable.

Who are these "so many people"?

I guess "because of the last election" rules out South American sex workers, and I'm not aware of people killing themselves en masse due to not getting their way (no matter how much the activists try to will this into existence), so who the hell are you talking about?

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

I'm pretty sure Jansen discovered that jrx8080 got into an argument on bluesky, and the other user called him out for posting creepy sexual pics (modded?) of a female Monster Hunter character. He then immediately deleted the pics, changed his Era username (to jrx8080) and changed his steam handle to something else. 

""Ace aromantic"" my ass!  

In the culture of their people, "ace aromantic" means "unable to attract a partner, and loves pornography".

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Why do you need to smile if you’re wearing a mask?  Surely no one can see it.

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

Post cranked hog

Hog looks better pre-cranking.

Prove it.

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

If you just shut up and listened you would understand that wanting to prevent those "deaths" by getting them actual legitimate proven methods of therapy to eliminate disordered thinking rather than encouraging their harmful delusions for the remainder of their lives is genocide.

The only solution is doing whatever I want forever or else my blood is on your hands. This is a reasonable ask that all others should center their lives around at all times. You can't do just one thing to show basic human decency?

And once I get everything I claim I want I'll definitely be happy for the rest of my life. 

I'll definitely never find/invent an issue to call myself a victim of. 

[Alpacx]

As far as sex scenes go though... I dunno, I'm ace aromantic. I don't really get the big deal about them at all and try to skip them if possible, in every single game.

Fucking BS.

I'm pretty sure Jansen discovered that jrx8080 got into an argument on bluesky, and the other user called him out for posting creepy sexual pics (modded?) of a female Monster Hunter character. He then immediately deleted the pics, changed his Era username (to jrx8080) and changed his steam handle to something else. 

""Ace aromantic"" my ass!  

"Asexual"/"ace" = incel/femcel

[Snoopy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-wife-of-9-years-wants-a-divorce-and-im-struggling-so-damn-much.1459723/

My wife and I began dating more than 14 years ago, our first year in college. A storybook start to a fantastic relationship. January 2012, our friends were playing beer pong, she and I were both the third wheel and sitting at a bench watching. I started talking to her, and she was so damn cool. The next weekend she came to my dorm to visit me and when I went to let her in, I saw her through the doorway standing waiting, and I didn't know it then, but that's the day I fell in love.



My childhood was horrible. My one goal in life, I told myself as a 12 year old after seeing my father physically abuse my mother and sister, was to have a marriage, have a family, and never get divorced. I wanted to be a father and a husband and never, ever split my family. I vowed to myself as a child. That was what I wanted. I didn't care then, and I still don't care, what job I have or how much money I make. I just want a family that loves.



In the summer of 2012, we did the long-distance thing and traveled back and forth and she said she loved me first. It was the greatest feeling in the world, hearing that from someone who isn't a parent or a sibling.



At some point that summer she did something to offend her stepmother and was kicked out of her father's house. She had to move in with her grandparents, and her relationship with her father completely fell apart.



Because of finances, we both took time off from school for the fall semester of 2012, then when we both went back, we moved in to an apartment together off-campus after dating for about 10 months. We lived together in that college town for more than 3 years as I finished school. She had dropped out because she wasn't sure what major to pursue, and worked full-time to support us both. We worked at the same daycare facility, though with different ages and different hours. We went on bike rides and played tennis and long walks. We watched movies and cuddled and played video games sometimes. We were happy. It was a simple life but we were so happy. I got an idea to write a book and started it then. This part is important later.



The last summer before I graduated, August 2016, we got married. She was 22, I was 21. We were poor college students, and got married at her grandparent's small beach house. Less than 100 people were invited to the wedding, I cooked all the food, her dress was the largest expense (even more than the ring). Her father did not come to the wedding, though all of her siblings did. It was a small ceremony, but we were happy with it. I graduated in December of 2016 with the love of my life at my side.



We moved back to my hometown because a family member helped me with a job connection. That January we found out she was pregnant. I worked my entry level HR job, she got a job she sort of enjoyed as an administrative assistant at a big factory. I started coaching my younger brother in youth sports. We bought a house in May of 2017, had a quiet summer prepping the house, and our first daughter was born in September. I thought I'd made it. I thought my life was perfect. We got a dog, who is now eight and getting old. I had friends in town, my wife did not, at least at first. Her mother, who lived several hours away, pursued a dream and moved from Minnesota to Alaska.



My wife got promoted a few times into roles for more money, but more stress and she liked the jobs less and less. Our second daughter was born in November of 2019. That pregnancy was hard, physically and emotionally. We had planned to have four kids, but my wife couldn't do another one, so after the birth she made the decision to make sure she can never have kids again. I supported her, because it was the right decision and I love her. My wife's brother died. He was only a few years older than us, and had been battling alcoholism and a drug addiction and a bunch of other things. That hit us all hard, including her mother, and their relationship spiraled. Her father grew from losing his son and worked hard, so hard, to patch things up with my wife and I am so proud that they fixed things. I had to be responsible and hold things down as all of this stuff was happening in her life, and we were juggling a baby and a toddler and a dog and a new kitten. 



We did the family thing for a while. We got the toddlers into Gymnastics, we went on walks with the dog and the stroller. I thought my life was perfect. And looking back, this is probably the happiest part of my life. Era, this was so good. So good. And I want that back more than anything.



But she grew tired of having only my friends and family around, she wanted to see her grandparents in their twilight years, so we made the decision to move out of town.



In January 2022, I got a job not quite halfway between where my family is from and where hers is from. We got a house up here in May 2022. It was at the very edge of our budget. But we figured this could be our forever home. She tried the remote work thing and hated it. She already disliked her job and that made it worse. She quit that job and I supported her. She wanted to open up a daycare in our home, and I supported her. I thought it was not going to work, but I wanted so badly for her to be happy. It did not work. Half our house was her work area and she hated going in those spaces on the weekends. Her work never ended. For some stupid reason, I got us a second dog in this time frame, thinking it was what we needed. The house started having issues.



In May 2024, she closed the daycare. Between house repairs and daycare losses, we lost a lot of money. She took the summer off to spend with our young daughters, and I could tell my wife was falling into the despair of depression. She had no career at the age of 30. She had few friends, and she told me she invested so much time and effort into me and the kids, she lost herself. She had no hobbies and no interests and did not like her life. Her not working that summer blew through what little remained of our savings. But I didn't care. Truly. I'd go $1,000,000 into debt if it made her happy. I wanted her to be happy and to have time to reset. We barely made ends meet. I was so desperate to make things work for us, I grew even more reserved. I didn't want to do anything that spent money, including my hobbies of wargaming and collecting Lego and Blu-Rays. In hindsight, I truly stopped having fun. Aside from my coaching and occasional xbox with friends, I didn't do anything anymore.



I encouraged her to find who she is. I wanted to be the rock for her, to be the person she can rely on. She started venturing out with local adult-league sports. She met some friends. In September 2024, she got a job at a school as a teacher's assistant and absolutely loves it. The school has pushed her hard to finish her degree so she can be a full teacher. But the assistant job pays horribly, so she started working at Wal-Mart part-time. Almost every night she would come home from work at the school, grab food, and be gone within an hour. My kids and I barely saw her. I thought it would be temporary. She started getting into romance books. After reading maybe three books our entire relationship, she was banging out a book a week or more. I was happy she had found a hobby. We had a wonderful temporary bump in our sex life, and I thought things were great.



In January 2025, I got a call that I was wanted to move up from youth coaching to high school. I was so happy. My wife was happy for me. But I could tell something was still wrong.



In March 2025, she quit her job at Wal-Mart. I started coaching the high school team and spending more time away from family. I could tell things were distant between us, but I thought it would be okay. Summer 2025 she went on a vacation with the kids to visit her mother in Alaska. She didn't check in with me often, and two nights I didn't even get a chance to say good night to the kids. One day it started a long distance fight between us, and she ignored my calls and texts for a while. When they all came home, we had a talk. She told me she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. She loved me, but was no longer in love with me. I asked if she wanted a divorce, she said she did not want to break up our family. I asked her what I could do, and she recommended couples therapy.



My stupid ass did research online and saw in many cases it drives people apart. So I dug my heels in and said no, but we can try other things. She said okay. We talked a lot. We spent time together. Some things improved, others did not.



Our biggest fight of our marriage came in October 2025. She told me she wanted to meet up with a friend from work at the park. I didn't mind. I asked if she had an idea how long they'd be out, to plan for dinner. She said an hour or two. That evening I texted her and said dinner was ready, no need to pick anything up. No response. I texted again at bedtime for the girls, asking if she would be home soon. No response. I called her after getting the girls down, no answer. I texted later and asked if she was okay, then called again. She answered then and put me on speaker, made her friend say hi. I said I was worried about her, she said it was fine. She got home that night a bit after 10pm, after more than six hours with her friend at the park. I have no doubts that they were sitting talking. I know and trust my wife. I was just so worried and anxious about it being a park after dark and she simply never texted me back. We fought hard. I just wanted to make sure she was okay, she thought I was being overbearing and didn't trust her. It was a disaster. But we made it through and life returned to our normal.



In December 2025 we had another talk, and she said nothing had changed on her end. And in fact, she just doesn't miss me when I'm gone. She doesn't think about me, doesn't love me like that at all. It was hard to hear.



I had a breakdown after Christmas with my family, when I realized it would probably be our last as a full family. She told me things would work out okay. A few weeks later, I overheard her speaking to a friend on the phone about this stupid house we have. That she was ready to sell it, and that when (not if) we do divorce, we are going to have to co-parent and live together while selling a house. I confronted her that night, and she said she wasn't sure, but she leaned toward splitting.



I had another breakdown. Memories of my childhood, and my emotionally abusive father, and my single mom who thought I was responsible enough to raise myself...it all came back. I have had body image issues our entire relationship, and have voiced that to her more times than I can count. She has grown exhausted of that talk. I have no self-confidence, and she has grown exhausted. I got into therapy for myself, and asked my wife to join me. In our first couples session, we were asked to rate 1-10, 1 being split now, 10 being do anything to make it work, where are we. I said a 9. She said an 8. I was on cloud-9. I thought we would be okay. We can fix this. Progress, right? I finished my book. After infinite drafts and revisions and nearly 12 years of writing, I was happy enough to print out five copies and send it to two family members, two friends, and my wife to read it.



But as I'm confronting my past, and the memories of my father, and his abuse and how badly that divorce went, I've been spiraling. My wife has grown exhausted of me. We have spoken about "us" several times in the last few months. Every time she says nothing has changed. I convinced her to do a family road trip in February 2026. It was great! We have so many great pictures and experiences and memories and I thought it was great. She says it was, too. I didn't expect it to fix us, but I thought it might help.



This past weekend, Saturday, I asked a simple question why she has had my book for three months and hadn't read it. She said it was because it wasn't her favorite genre of romance. I saw red. I regret much of what I said, but it started with "Bullshit. You love me, right? This has been important to me for more than a decade, right? Why can't you just read it?" and our fight started. A nasty one. An exhausting one. For the first time in our entire marriage I chose not to go to bed with her that night. Everything came back. My parents, my unloving wife, everything. I contemplated suicide but figured I wouldn't be good enough to succeed and that she would be stuck taking care of a vegetable. So I didn't. I'm here still. I don't plan to do that anymore. Please don't worry, however few of you have read this far.



Any time I try to talk to her, I can tell she just has no feelings for me anymore. I do anything and everything to help her, and I wanted to be that rock for support, but I've been a rock weighing her down. I talked to her sunday, I talked to her monday, and she said that she lied at our couples therapy. She wasn't at an 8. She was at a 6, and now it's dropped to a 4.



Part of me loves that, because she is honest and a 4 isn't a 1, we can maybe still salvage this...but I don't think we will.



She has grown and changed over the 14 years we have been together. She is no longer the person she was in college. And I get that. But I love who she was then, and I love even more now who she is now. I want her to stay, I want this family to continue. And she says she wants to leave. Because she deserves to be happy and that I deserve to have someone who loves me as much as I love her. And I want her to be happy. If that's away from me, then so be it. But I do not think I'll ever love someone the way I have loved her. I don't care. I want her. I want her. I want her.



She talked to me last night about taking the kids up to her grandparents' place for the summer. That I can live here alone and the house can be well put together so that we can sell it. It was very matter of fact. It was a "maybe we can do this" but the way she was talking...its not a maybe. Its what she wants. I broke down again, and she had to leave to go to something she had planned.



I do nothing but cry these days. She fell in love with a college kid who had charisma and happiness and an easygoing nature. Now all I do is cry. I exhaust her. I want to have fun, I want to save our marriage, but every time I look at her, I grow sad. Every time I look at my children, I grow sad. My wife asked me to wrap around her last night in bed, to warm her up, and I started to cry. Because I won't have many nights of this left. My daughter cried this morning saying she didn't want to go to school because she just wanted to stay home with her family. Her whole family. And I lost it, then. Because soon we probably won't ever have our whole family together anymore and holy shit, Era. I don't know what to do. I have no idea what I can do anymore. I feel like a failure and a loser and all of it wrapped into one.



I don't know how any of you can help, but I needed to get this into words. I cried a lot writing this. I hate that I did it. I'll probably delete this later. I am so, so sad. I hate this feeling and hope more than anything that none of you have to ever experience it.

This is just a series of poor decisions piling on top of each other. The money's gone. No mates. Shit job. House falling apart. Saddled with 2 kids, 2 dogs, a cat and a weeping mental case. No wonder she's fucking off. I'd do the same.

[BananaBlast]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/vgc-unannounced-hunter-the-reckoning-game-build-accidentally-replaced-robocop-rogue-city-on-steam-momentarily.1455505/#post-152318029

User banned (3 days): Boys club rhetoric

I watched some footage on YouTube, aside from the boobies on display which I actually don't mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might end up digging this. I wish redfall could've been like that

Gender
Female
She/Her

 

Shouldn't the mods now get banned for misgendering?

I knew this was gonna happen sooner or later!

Hopefully the user in question makes a big stink about it 

[HaughtyFrank]

burka thread getting weird about Old Man Leon (actually, old Leon is a feminist statement  )

I don't exactly mind the statement on how they designed Leon based on the female gaze because there just isn't an equivalency between how men are designed for the female gaze versus how women are designed for the male gaze. We're not going to get jiggle physics Leon in a skintight outfit with plenty of creep shots.

What I think we should scrutinize more is how that statement from Capcom has colored the way people react to people appreciating Leon's looks. As far as I'm concerned, Leon has always been designed to be attractive so this is nothing new... but there's a lot of disdain or spite in how his looks have been described now that they've gone out of their way to say it's for the female gaze. The weird little bald Leon movement felt like this big "finally!" moment for people who wanted to counter all the comments on sexism too. I think I am letting Capcom slide a bit because at least there's some level of good intent compared to all the weird stuff people are saying and doing between their Tifa and 2B danbooru searches.

EDIT: corrected phrasing!

That's what I was trying to get at; the upset over Leon doesn't come from him being sexy, it's that them stating that they took the female gaze into that recontextualizes it for insecure men.

Starting with his rebrand in RE4, Leon is sexy, but in a way that boosts a guys ego; femme fatale spends most of her screentime when she's not doing ninja shit to do a will-they-won't they dance with Leon while young college student Ashley spends the game being dependent, flashing panty shots and ends the game by propositioning Leon to go fuck afterwards. Contextualized with Leon as the big strong smooth hero, the women are virtually accessories as far as these men see it. 6 has Ada, Helena and her naked sister boss fight all revolving around Leon's orbit and then RE2R loops back around and he's given high-fidelity chemistry with both Claire and Ada.

Leon's stories all tend to revolve around girls/women, often vulnerable girls/women, which plays into men's egos. Re9 just breaks a bit of the illusion by 'conceding' that ideal aesthetic to women and we know how men get when women have the audacity to have interests or be catered to in any way.

I didn’t see these two guys shitting on The Golden Hawk for having a hate bonner for old man Leon. 

This is one of those "let's pretend to not understand things" cases. I haven't seen anyone get mad about Leon being hot, what I have seen people mad about is the hypocrisy because if Capcom talked the same way about a female character Resetera and the media would have gone nuclear

[NekoFever]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?



The first time I felt seen in these feelings was here (from the My Solo Exchange Diary series):







I've had friendships with guys die because they had a crush on me. I didn't have a whole lot of female friends until recently because I just wasn't very feminine and couldn't relate to them. The first person I dated was another girl when we were 13, she was androgynous, and I moved onto dating men not long after that. I would sometimes think I was bisexual because very rarely I'd be attracted to a certain kind of woman...but I was attracted to men 99% of the time so I just called myself a cis woman...



I browse trans spaces on the internet sometimes out of curiosity but most of them were focused on trans women (totally valid), and then I'd always move on shortly after that. (I admit that I felt jealous of trans women...they were men to start with and traded it for a "downgrade"...why would you throw away being a man? Funny I chose not to examine that feeling at all...) This time though I decided to check out a trans masc sub and it was full of handsome dudes with their pre and post transitions...and my eyes started filling with tears because I was jealous AGAIN. This time of how happy they seemed and how wonderful they looked. And so with a revelation like that I don't think I'm able to ignore that I might be a trans man...



So now I don't really know what to do with this information. I'm kind of terrified because if it's true and I really am a trans guy then that would really fuck up the way my life is going right now... I'm gaining momentum in my career, I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, my entire family would lose their fucking minds. I feel such terror in my heart thinking about this, which makes me feel like I might actually be trans, which makes me even more scared.



I don't know what to do about this. I mean I don't HATE being a woman but that's cause I've been able to ignore it 99% of the time. Maybe I can just put this revelation back in the box. I don't know. I don't know what to do



(Also I hope is haven't offended any trans people on this forum with my thoughts. You guys are cool and the last thing I want to do is say anything that wo
uld hurt you guys.)

How did this thread go in the end? Members only.

[benji]

I don't exactly mind the statement on how they designed Leon based on the female gaze because there just isn't an equivalency between how men are designed for the female gaze versus how women are designed for the male gaze. We're not going to get jiggle physics Leon in a skintight outfit with plenty of creep shots.

I love when they write shit that doesn't mean anything.

So, it isn't the male gaze, merely that the way it's often catered to is not tasteful? If it was tasteful, catering to it is fine, or if someone was not tasteful in catering to the female gaze that would be problematic? Of course not! The male gaze is always problematic and inherently a bad thing! In other words, he's revealing that there is an equivalency and further hinting that the female gaze is so, to use another phrase they love, normalized into society that catering to it is considered tasteful while catering to the male one is considered prurient (if you're an icky conservative) or problematic (if you're on the right side of history) so should be shamed by society until it disappears to protect us all from the sins it brings about.

They can't let anything be just their opinion or personal taste, so they have to elevate everything into a systemic or societal issue, which places the burden on everyone else to either agree or go mask off showing their ass by dismissing concerns. But this only leads to them writing incoherent nonsense like this all the time. (Not that it should be on them to have to emotionally labor to explain things to chuds.)

[Snoopy]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?



The first time I felt seen in these feelings was here (from the My Solo Exchange Diary series):







I've had friendships with guys die because they had a crush on me. I didn't have a whole lot of female friends until recently because I just wasn't very feminine and couldn't relate to them. The first person I dated was another girl when we were 13, she was androgynous, and I moved onto dating men not long after that. I would sometimes think I was bisexual because very rarely I'd be attracted to a certain kind of woman...but I was attracted to men 99% of the time so I just called myself a cis woman...



I browse trans spaces on the internet sometimes out of curiosity but most of them were focused on trans women (totally valid), and then I'd always move on shortly after that. (I admit that I felt jealous of trans women...they were men to start with and traded it for a "downgrade"...why would you throw away being a man? Funny I chose not to examine that feeling at all...) This time though I decided to check out a trans masc sub and it was full of handsome dudes with their pre and post transitions...and my eyes started filling with tears because I was jealous AGAIN. This time of how happy they seemed and how wonderful they looked. And so with a revelation like that I don't think I'm able to ignore that I might be a trans man...



So now I don't really know what to do with this information. I'm kind of terrified because if it's true and I really am a trans guy then that would really fuck up the way my life is going right now... I'm gaining momentum in my career, I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, my entire family would lose their fucking minds. I feel such terror in my heart thinking about this, which makes me feel like I might actually be trans, which makes me even more scared.



I don't know what to do about this. I mean I don't HATE being a woman but that's cause I've been able to ignore it 99% of the time. Maybe I can just put this revelation back in the box. I don't know. I don't know what to do



(Also I hope is haven't offended any trans people on this forum with my thoughts. You guys are cool and the last thing I want to do is say anything that wo
uld hurt you guys.)

How did this thread go in the end? Members only.

Decided to test the waters by bulking up and starting a Henry Rollins tribute band.

[benji]

So many people are dying and will die because of the last election. It's truly immeasurable.

Who are these "so many people"?

I guess "because of the last election" rules out South American sex workers, and I'm not aware of people killing themselves en masse due to not getting their way (no matter how much the activists try to will this into existence), so who the hell are you talking about?

I think he means in general, not just trans people, so it'd include things like people shot by ICE, Iranian school children and Canadians.

But as to your other ask, here is a comprehensive list of the victims of the trans genocide, both before and after the last election:

Say. Their. Names.

[Besticus Maximus]

Benji missing Concord and Highguard from the victims list like the chud he is

[benji]

The courts were never going to save us from this evil. But we will survive this. Because we are stronger than these robed cowards.

Insane they can decide what is "dangerous" or not based on their bigoted feelings and we just have to deal with it. What do you mean "appreciate their sex"? Thats just fuckin feelings based on bullshit. Fuck I hate it here.

Well, yeah. It's not like you're going to actually bother to find out if there's other reasons they might have come to this decision, like say by reading the short part of the ruling about it.

There needs to be a federal law or something that fucking reverses this because the nation can't sustain itself by making it literally impossible for entire populations to live and prosper.

We NEED new amendments to the constitution but thats basically impossible in todays US government with how it functions.

With how broken our healthcare system is, there has to be civil rights imbued into it protecting marginalized and at-risk communities from being targeted by policies that seek to deprive people of necessary care. I'm thankful to be pursuing a public policy degree but I'm not a fucking expert either. We need to take some power away from the states that are clearly abusing their constituents.

"Useless pseudoscience" = necessary care
"Not spending taxpayer money on the above" = abusing their constituents
"Unemployed people not getting the above for free" = literally impossible for entire populations to live and prosper

The courts were never going to save us from this evil. But we will survive this. Because we are stronger than these robed cowards.

Every blue state needs to immediately become full refugee zones seriously though. Not that there is any chance of California doing that now.

A lot of them are sanctuary areas already

I know, and I fully appreciate it, but we need more, and just more overall support with how dire this is getting.

User Banned (2 Weeks): Antagonizing Fellow Members; Trolling in Sensitive Thread
Thanks for not voting yall! Appreciate it….

What's your opinion on voting for Newsome if he's the Democratic nominee?

A pile of shit, but better than what we are currently dealing with.

Not sure how much more though with how chummy he is with nazis, and has agreed with them on their anti-trans stances. Would Newsom even be against this?

Every single thread huh. Trans people can't even grieve our loss of rights without one of you coming in to tell us its our fault for being unwilling to compromise with the exact same people who are pushing this genocide. Fucking exhausting. Get a life.

Why is it so hard to leave people alone? It costs you nothing.

God just leave people not yourself the fuck alone.

LET PEOPLE BE WHO THEY WANT TO BE IT DOESN'T FUCKING AFFECT YOU

"Leave people alone" = pay for whatever nonsense they want

Yeah I'm just tired at this point, just can't think of anything to say at this point, I'm so done with this.

You'll be back.  

Remember when these genocidal maniacs tried to mask their hatred for trans people as protecting kids? Remember how we all said they were full of shit and would immediately move to ban trans healthcare for adults? Keep that in mind when someone tells you to support xyz politician who was willing to go along with this obvious bullshit because capitulating to Republican framing and dehumanizing a marginalized population is easier than having a backbone and standing up for what's right.

As an aside, hopefully this gets some of you to rethink this new wave of government crackdowns on the internet. Too many people here accept the same exact "think about the children!" argument for why governments around the world should restrict social media access. Ya'll should probably question their motives instead of accepting what they tell you at face value.

Horrible! Just heinous. Another sign that the US political landscape and constitution are just not fit for purpose. I despise how these cases are decided by such warped judiciaries. Likely all old, cis, white men

One of the three judges:

[Jansen]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-think-i-may-be-trans-unsure-how-to-handle-this.1458589/

I generally always felt comfortable calling myself a woman but I felt really frustrated with the "pitfalls" of being "seen" as a woman. I'm not really a girly person, I guess "tomboy" is the term but I've never called myself that, it's how my parents have described me. I thought I was just being myself and that my parents were just old fashioned, but my husband told me recently that his mom and sister were both asking about why I act so much like a guy. It kind of made me feel...idk maybe uncomfortable that they didn't just recognize I was just being myself?



The first time I felt seen in these feelings was here (from the My Solo Exchange Diary series):







I've had friendships with guys die because they had a crush on me. I didn't have a whole lot of female friends until recently because I just wasn't very feminine and couldn't relate to them. The first person I dated was another girl when we were 13, she was androgynous, and I moved onto dating men not long after that. I would sometimes think I was bisexual because very rarely I'd be attracted to a certain kind of woman...but I was attracted to men 99% of the time so I just called myself a cis woman...



I browse trans spaces on the internet sometimes out of curiosity but most of them were focused on trans women (totally valid), and then I'd always move on shortly after that. (I admit that I felt jealous of trans women...they were men to start with and traded it for a "downgrade"...why would you throw away being a man? Funny I chose not to examine that feeling at all...) This time though I decided to check out a trans masc sub and it was full of handsome dudes with their pre and post transitions...and my eyes started filling with tears because I was jealous AGAIN. This time of how happy they seemed and how wonderful they looked. And so with a revelation like that I don't think I'm able to ignore that I might be a trans man...



So now I don't really know what to do with this information. I'm kind of terrified because if it's true and I really am a trans guy then that would really fuck up the way my life is going right now... I'm gaining momentum in my career, I have a husband whom I adore but who is definitely not gay, my entire family would lose their fucking minds. I feel such terror in my heart thinking about this, which makes me feel like I might actually be trans, which makes me even more scared.



I don't know what to do about this. I mean I don't HATE being a woman but that's cause I've been able to ignore it 99% of the time. Maybe I can just put this revelation back in the box. I don't know. I don't know what to do



(Also I hope is haven't offended any trans people on this forum with my thoughts. You guys are cool and the last thing I want to do is say anything that wo
uld hurt you guys.)

How did this thread go in the end? Members only.

I'm not trans so take that as is, but my understanding is keeping those feelings bottled up and ignoring them is something potentially quite bad or dangerous for anyone's mental health. Unless you live somewhere where coming out as trans would put your life at risk, you should probably avoid ignoring them.



Are you in a position to get access to mental health professionals? Specifically those who specialize in the trans experience and who are equipped to guide people through their feelings and decisions on this matter.

Hey Avi! First thing, good work for going through those thoughts and feelings, it can't be easy. And what lies ahead may be more difficult. But if you're feeling you must think about it then you must do so.



I don't think people are either 100% one gender or the other, but there are people who definitely fall more in the middle than others, and you may be one of them. Just a non binary person.



I also don't think it necessary to change oneself in order to fit into one or the other gender, as long as you're fine with how you feel yourself, and identify yourself. And are happy with your body.



I wish you good luck!

I can relate a lot to what you've written, though I'm cis, and can only speak to my own experiences here. When I was in my mid to late teens, I seriously considered the possibility I was a trans man. I found myself also browsing communities for trans guys, seeing before and after transition photos, and sometimes feeling a tad "sad" about it, knowing I'd probably never be able to look like that even if I tried. But ultimately I never actually felt any physical dysphoria about being a woman, or having a female body, and didn't feel any actual "desire" to transition.



I'm fairly gender non-conforming and occasionally had people mistake me for a boy in my teens, which always made me feel... Nothing really? Didn't feel offended or anything, and always found it a little amusing when they were super apologetic about misgendering me. I've found myself trying to keep my hair at least somewhat long in more recent years though, as the transphobic moral panic in the UK thanks to all the TERFs has legitimately had me worried people would react with aggression rather than being apologetic if I was mistaken for a man nowadays.



But I digress - I think for me at least, part of it was being autistic and finding it very hard to relate to other people in general, but especially other girls/women. A lot of the friends I've had during my life so far have been boys/men. I've often been labelled as a "tomboy" as well throughout my life. Perhaps having it implied or blatantly said to me that a lot of the hobbies and interests I had were "for boys" made some part of me question myself. But gender stereotypes/roles are not the same as gender identity, though young me didn't really understand any of this at all.



Many of the adults in my life who happened to be women were also not really great people, and I think part of me definitely started to develop some ingrained misogyny. Didn't help that a lot of the media when I was young had female characters that were one dimensional, simply existed to be love interests for the main male character, and/or were written by men that didn't seem to understand and/or like women very much. I learned to think that being a girl/woman was a very narrow thing, that didn't apply to me, so was I actually a girl at all? I didn't really like being "perceived" as a girl because in my mind girls were "shallow", "dumb", and all the other fun misogynistic stereotypes I'd learnt.



There were actually a few things I was kinda interested in when I was young, but never dared to admit it or actually get into them because they were "female coded" and therefore "inferior" in my stupid sexist pre-teen mind. In my adult years I no longer feel self esteem issues with having some "feminine" interests, thankfully.



As time progressed, I just found myself feeling more and more indifferent to my gender in general, to the point I sometimes wonder if I'm non-binary, but too "lazy" to really call myself anything other than a woman. To be completely honest, I'm still not sure if I really understand what "gender" means. I don't know what it means to "feel" like a woman, or a man, or non-binary. I don't really "feel" like anything. But I think maybe the reason for that is because I'm cis, and that's perfectly "normal" for most cis people.



Anyway, not sure if me writing all that will help or give you any insight at all, but I just felt the urge to infodump since your OP resonated with me a lot. I've come to find my experience is actually fairly common among other autistic cis women as well, which has definitely made me feel less alone in my own feelings at least.



Ultimately, this is something you're going to have to navigate yourself, and if it's something you're able to do, I'd definitely recommend speaking to a professional about this.

2 things I want to tell is



1- fuck the boxes society put us in.



2- you can do one step at the time and stop when you feel confortable.

you don't need to go full dive if you are unsure how far you want to go.



There are many ways you can explore yourself without doing permanent changes, like cutting hair, doing some sock packing, maybe try some drag king (with binders and stuff) ?



That should give you a good measure of where you fall

being a more "feminine" man or more "masculine" woman is pretty normal, but not normalized enough I guess? it doesn't mean you are or are not trans,

I think the exploration of those feelings and need for answer are valid and important! ideally someone in person, with more experience would help you understand yourself better on that?



but normally I feel like when the thought is always there, stuck in your mind, there is probably something to it, but each persons journey is different,

but I very much agree with the post above!

Thank you guys for responding. I think I just needed to get the thought out. I think I have to do some more reflecting now that I'm a little calmer.

Trans woman here, but just wanna say I really related to the "not hating your assigned gender". I was fine with it, I wasn't miserable living as a guy.



But it doesn't compare to the joy I felt after coming out.



Obviously that doesn't mean for sure you too are Trans, but I definitely don't recommend trying to bottle it back up. It cam be terrifying I know, but it's worth thinking about and exploring, at whatever pace you feel comfortable with.

Don't feel the need to recategorize yourself immediately, do some soul searching and feel things out. It's a whole spectrum after all.

You can't. But that also doesn't mean you need to go full trans or even that that is right for you if you did. Just keep being honest with yourself and make sure you're trending toward happiness. Explore masculine things without seeing them as "for men" or not "for women."



Your jealousy of trans men may not be that you are trans. It could be of course. But it may be more like jealousy that they started where you are and have found a happy equilibrium. You can't find it too!

What I did was speak with a queer-friendly therapist (I was already seeing) and they helped me explore those thoughts and feelings without judgement. In retrospect it's hilarious how small my issues were at the time compared to how overwhelming they felt, like fears of wearing nail polish to work 😭. If a paid therapist is too much, there's possibly some local queer space with ongoing non-judgemental meet-ups.

So I thought this exact set of thoughts for about a decade, but every year it got harder to ignore that 99% of the time, and every year the percentage changed a little more until I realized I was very, very unhappy. The revelation does not go back in the box.



I'm not going to jump in and say you must be trans, but if you're having some strong feelings about your gender, you should explore them. You may realize that you are not trans, and you'll have the joy of knowing you got to really learn more about yourself.

I agree with basically everyone else, if you have these feelings they are worth exploring, but take them at a pace you feel comfortable with. Also, finding people in your life that you can open up to about these feeling can help a lot with processing them (regardless of what their gender or orientations are).



I struggled with considering if I should transition to being a woman for most of my 20s. I had friends and family who were very supportive without ever feeling like they were trying to pressure me in one direction or the other. For me my big issue was that my ideal image for myself was a masc woman, like I have a very athletic and muscular build, but I also like wearing cute pastel colors in unisex to more feminine clothes and enjoy wearing makeup and dresses. For me I ultimately determined transitioning wouldn't make me any happier and instead what I needed to do was focus on openly expressing myself and not worry about needing to fit one gender or the other.



Everyone has their own path to follow. It isn't bad to see and hear about the paths other people have taken, and they can totally be a fantastic source of knowledge about things you'll have questions about and also inspirational, but nobody can or should tell you what is right for you, you have to figure that out for yourself.

I think some more self reflection and exploration is on order. There's a lot of similarities in what you've shared that I also felt/feel from a trans woman experience. Being trans scares the heck out of me sometimes, but that's usually driven from worry about how others will react. I'm very much closeted still, but when I'm just living as myself and accepting me for me I don't feel the same level of fear, if any. I can't give you any answers really, so I'd just recommend being kind and showing grace to yourself. No matter where you go or how you decide to live, it takes courage to question your identity and be willing to explore it, and it's something to be proud of.

Try out some gender exploration, if your name allows it try shortening it something gender neutral and asking if people can call you that or experiment with more masculine clothing or try binding (safely ofc)! They might spark gender euphoria and that'll make it more clear that you're not cis if you're still questioning things.

I think this is all mostly up to you. In my opinion, you sound fluid or flexible enough with your gender identity to do what you want.



Though my first thought is that possibly you are on the autism spectrum, and autistic women generally have an ambivalent relationship toward social expectations around gender roles, and thus often come off more masculine than their assumed gender.



I personally had a bunch of feelings around "girliness as weakness" and rejected a lot of feminine things because of that social association, but over time decided I am a cis woman, and if I didn't fit into social expectations due to xyz traits, then too bad for society because I am still a woman lol. Some quashing of inernalized misogyny had to happen, but I am content on where I settled with that now.



 I have other autistic friends who more attach to the nonbinary identity and they always did feel a way about being called a woman and seemed to feel less reaction if assumed as male (when online).



edit: noticed i repeated a lot of points pallaskitten did! well at least what i think is not unfounded :3

I hope it's okay to offer the general if not especially helpful uneducated sentiment of support, and encouragement of self discovery. Wherever you land you are valid and I wish you all the happiness in the world.

I relate so much to this. The jealousy and everything. But reverse the genders.



The climate in this country and my state makes me feel so paralyzed and so I have yet to commit to pronouns or "officially" identifying as anything. But I feel so stifled and small. I feel like no one knows the real me, not even myself. My partner knows that I struggle with this and is supportive but I don't want to put all of it on her.



All I can say is, as much as you can safely do, please don't bottle this up or shove it away or whatever. It hurts and it will eat at you otherwise. Listen to yourself and trust yourself, and explore yourself as much as you can. Maybe you're trans, maybe you're not, but you deserve to discover this about yourself and to exist in whatever truths come from it.

The bad news: you can't put the revelation back in its box. It will be on your mind and the more you ignore it the more you'll feel it



The good news: this doesn't have to blow up your life! You can take this as slow and as far as you want. Try things out and whatever little step makes you happy, hold onto that

[benji]

Try out some gender exploration, if your name allows it try shortening it something gender neutral and asking if people can call you that or experiment with more masculine clothing or try binding (safely ofc)! They might spark gender euphoria and that'll make it more clear that you're not cis if you're still questioning things.

Gender is when you shorten your name and wear different clothing.

The climate in this country and my state makes me feel so paralyzed and so I have yet to commit to pronouns or "officially" identifying as anything. But I feel so stifled and small. I feel like no one knows the real me, not even myself. 

Gender is when all the characters are talking about Poochy even when Poochy is not on screen.

[benji]

[Potato]

Try out some gender exploration, if your name allows it try shortening it something gender neutral and asking if people can call you that or experiment with more masculine clothing or try binding (safely ofc)! They might spark gender euphoria and that'll make it more clear that you're not cis if you're still questioning things.

Gender is when you shorten your name and wear different clothing.

The climate in this country and my state makes me feel so paralyzed and so I have yet to commit to pronouns or "officially" identifying as anything. But I feel so stifled and small. I feel like no one knows the real me, not even myself. 

Gender is when all the characters are talking about Poochy even when Poochy is not on screen.

Gender euphoria? Is that when a person seeking attention has their attention seeking behaviour recognised by people in public and it generates euphoria in the person?

[benji]

Cis people are constantly experiencing gender euphoria as they go about their day. Endless pleasure from being the gender that they identify as. Maybe don't deny basic science.

[benji]

Update about our betters, who are also trying to avoid paying their fair share rather than being an ally:

 It's literally just inserting numbers, especially for someone with income this low. 
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[BIONIC]

Gender euphoria is what I’ll feel when someone actually finally posts hog on here

[Potato]

Taking on freelance work outside of your regular job to earn more money is extremely capitalist of you there fats...

[Hap Shaughnessy]

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Thanks for not voting yall! Appreciate it….

https://www.resetera.com/threads/march-11-2026-4th-circuit-rules-that-states-can-compel-trans-adults-to-appreciate-their-sex-via-care-bans.1460311/#post-152460034

Ban overturned.

[HaughtyFrank]

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Ban overturned.

It would be funny if it's okay to blame "all Cis' people" but not non voters