Kulturkampf

[Uncle]

freak in the streets

lady in the Sheatz

[Uncle]

c'mon benji it was right there

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

[Ribosome]

[benji]

Do you think the Beavis avatar guy doesn't eat everyday because regimented eating is fundamentally fascist?

[benji]

6 Toxic Phrase You Shouldn't Say To Your Grandkids

Sometimes, unintentional or even well-meaning comments from grandma and grandpa can “create an environment where grandkids feel uncomfortable or insecure,” Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and president of A New Day Pediatric Psychology in San Antonio, told HuffPost.

That’s why it’s important to be more mindful about how we communicate with our grandkids not just during this time but all year round.

“It can be hard to change the way you say things but it’s important to be intentional with your words, and be aware of how much words can impact the way your grandkids think and feel about themselves and their relationship with you,” Lockhart said.

We asked Lockhart and other experts which common phrases are best avoided and what to say instead.

1. “Don’t tell your parents ... ”

Maybe it’s sneaking your grandkids an extra cookie (or two) behind their parents’ back, or letting them stay up past their bedtime and whispering, “It’ll be our little secret.” Any time you’re encouraging your grandkids to keep something from their parents it can be harmful, Atlanta clinical psychologist Zainab Delawalla told HuffPost.

“It undercuts parental authority, which can have long-standing consequences,” she said. “Furthermore, it models for kids that they might find themselves in situations where it’s in their ‘best interest’ not to tell their parents. This can be especially dangerous if a child is being groomed by a predator or feels bad about themselves for getting bullied.”

2. “You’re getting so big! Have you put on weight?”

Comments about a child’s body or weight are a “huge no,” Lockhart said, as they can contribute to body image and self-esteem issues.

Dorn also told HuffPost that any remarks or comparisons about physical appearance can be problematic. This includes things like: “Have you lost weight?” or “Wow, you’re so much taller than your brother now!”

“The issue with comments about physical appearance or comparisons to others is that they place an increased focus on the importance of external features over internal traits,” she said.

3. “Wow, you ate more than I did!”

Any comments about your grandkids’ food intake — “You eat so fast,” “You’re a member of the clean plate club,” “Looks like you haven’t touched a thing on your plate” — are best kept to yourself.

“Learning about food and hunger cues is an important developmental step in childhood,” Dorn said. “Comments about ‘good’ and ‘bad’ eating habits can influence children to adjust their eating behavior in reaction to another person’s comments or perspective, rather than following the signals their body is sending them. It may also trigger feelings of shame or confusion in the moment or over time.”

4. “You’re so spoiled.”

When you see your grandchild acting ungratefully while opening a mountain of presents or throwing a fit because they didn’t get their way, you might be inclined to make a comment about how spoiled they are.

If this kind of behavior is happening pretty consistently, it probably has less to do with the kid and more to do with the way they’ve been parented.

As Ryan Howes, a clinical psychologist from Pasadena, California, told HuffPost: “If they are acting entitled and ungrateful, this may be a behavior they learned or saw modeled for them, maybe even something that was reinforced by their parents. So giving them all the blame isn’t fair. Suck it up or talk with the parents, but keep the judgment to yourself.”

5. “You better come over here and give me a hug or a kiss!”

As a grandparent, it’s natural to want to connect with your grandchildren in this way, especially when you’re so excited to see them. However, many kids may not feel comfortable giving hugs and kisses on demand, and it’s important for the adults in their lives to respect this.

“While this phrase is likely filled with love and a completely normal desire to foster closeness and connection with a child, it can also unintentionally take away a child’s right to autonomy and pressure them to abandon and second-guess their body boundaries,” Dorn said. “This can send confusing messages about consent.”

6. “Your parents are wrong about ... ”

Parenting styles and best practices change over time. You may have raised your children in a different way than your adult children are now raising their own kids.

“Of course, grandparents grew up in a different era with different customs and norms, and it’s natural to want to comment on the differences,” Howes said. “There’s nothing inherently wrong with pointing out these distinctions, but it’s very easy for those comments to come across as shaming. By shaming, I mean declaring that one way was right and another is wrong, and that there is something wrong with the grandchild or their parents.”

Generally speaking, it’s best to keep those comments to yourself unless you see “significant blindspots or areas that could potentially be harmful for the child,” Howes said. “Even then, it’s best to take concerns to the parents instead of the grandchild.”

As a grandchild myself, I'm glad to finally be seen as the victim that I am.

[Ethan]

These toxic phrases don't seem to apply to school teachers though, as they're fighting tooth and nail for "Don't tell your parents" and "Your parents are wrong about..." whenever little Billy wears a dress and goes by little Lily during school hours.

[Nintex]

They teach the kiddos viable marketeable skills. 

[Alpacx]

Real ceiling lowering equity has never been tried.

[D3RANG3D]

More like they are teaching kids to be even more unemployable...

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[Uncle]

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[HaughtyFrank]

The world of French-canadians is fascinating

[D3RANG3D]

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[Besticus Maximus]

You should try living next to the french, complete nonsense

[HaughtyFrank]

[Alpacx]

What does that Planned Parenthood post even mean?

The world of French-canadians is fascinating

[Potato]

You should try living next to the french, complete nonsense

You should try living in the aftermath of the British.

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Actually, aside from the residue of the institutionalised racism and literal slavery and apartheid by another name, it's pretty amazing. We have a functional legal and government system with procedural fairness and representative democracy. We have very low levels of corruption and high standard of living. We also get to criticise our former masters without fear of persecution.

Cheers for that cunts.

[benji]

Real ceiling lowering equity has never been tried.

Seems like the solution is pretty obvious? Seize the parents wealth and the children? Simply deny them the extra education or studying time? I mean, do we care about eliminating the racial gap or not? Have we considered giving students of certain colors a number of the test answers?

[HaughtyFrank]

Lindy West story continues

"...representation of everything bad about men (I am non-binary)

[benji]

The end of that message is arguably better: "these people had never heard of me before, now they have and what I do and they hate me out of nowhere? What kind of world is this?"

[Rendle]

That's what happens when you marry a trumpeter

[Rendle]

He's not a representation of everything bad about men, they are a representation of everything bad about non-binary people (narcisism, virtue signalling)

[Chumbawumbafan69]

This could probably go in the resetera thread.

[HaughtyFrank]

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A classic

[D3RANG3D]

[benji]

A classic

[Uncle]

also there's nothing racist about the exaggerated swagger of a black teen

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

[HeavenIsAPlaceOnEarth]

A classic

The Latina part of the tweet is irrelevant. You just have to be incredibly lame to think that "a look" from a "cocky teenager" could destroy anyone's ego. He loves this silly image of a cartoon duck with a smug face so much he is encouraging others to look at it and feel the same way, but they don't, because they aren't a lame man-child like he is.

Also, if there is nothing sexual about the original tweet, and the tweet highlighting it doesn't claim it's sexual, and your first response is to claim "IT'S NOT EVEN SEXUAL!", then for you, it's definitely sexual, and legally, you are a pedophile.

[benji]

Backlash mounts over twist in Robert Pattinson Zendaya romcom The Drama

Disquiet aired over the subject matter of film about a couple whose engagement is upended after they reveal to each other ‘the worst thing you’ve ever done’

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The film, which is written and directed by Norwegian director Kristoffer Borgli, is a dark romantic comedy starring Robert Pattinson and Zendaya as a couple whose upcoming wedding is cast in doubt after she reveals that she once planned a school shooting, but backed out at the last moment.

Her character discloses the information while playing a parlour game with Pattinson and two friends, in which they are encouraged to say “the worst thing you’ve ever done”.

Speaking to TMZ, Tom Mauser, whose son Daniel was among 13 students killed at the high school shooting in Colorado in 1999, said he feels the leveraging of such subject matter for a romantic comedy is “awful”. Mauser, who became an advocate for gun reform in the wake of the massacre, added that he was concerned by Zendaya’s response to seriously framed questions about the twist on the Jimmy Kimmel show last week.

“What’s difficult about even talking about the movie,” said Zendaya, “is there is so many different genres [in it]. It is a romantic comedy in many ways but it’s also a drama. Everybody has their own kind of feelings leaving the theatre, especially with the big twist. There’s so many conversations that are had after you watch it.”

To cast a star as beloved as Zendaya, said Mauser, “humanises” the perpetrators of such violence, and “normalises” the shootings – despite her character backing out of the attack, and no such violence being depicted.

Mauser -- an outspoken gun reform activist ever since his son was murdered -- says he's completely floored that anyone would think a school shooting would be a good fit for a romantic comedy, even a dark one ... and tells us it's “awful” that of all the shocking twists to make someone rethink their partner … this is where the filmmakers landed.
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To be clear ... Mauser doesn't think anyone who has ever considered violence, but not gone through with it, should be condemned -- on the contrary, he's encouraging anyone who has had these ideations to go talk it out with a therapist. However, Mauser doesn't want it to be used for entertainment.

Gosh, could you imagine if there were movies where gun violence was depicted as entertainment? Bet he would really hate those.

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"Backlash mounts" and it's one guy who ran to TMZ to complain?